Mtrnlinstinct
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Hello all! It's almost been a year since my husband and I are trying to conceive and I am 30 and he is 37. Neither of us drink or smoke and my husband usually takes the bus to work and walks a few blocks. He is actually very skinny and even if he tried could not gain much weight. As for me, I am average weight, not overweight or underweight. Anywho, we have not had sex for five grueling years because we were stressed out financially AND because he has ed. I didn't know until we started trying to conceive. We time sex right but have not had a baby obviously. Honestly, my husband and I have had our ups and downs but a lot of downs due to financial issues and family etc but we are doing ok now. He finds sex to be a chore because of his ED. I try not to pressure him but because of his ed his sex drive is slim and we only dtd around my fertile days. It's like begging him to do it. We even stopped trying one month because he wanted a break. I am very gentile to him on this topic and I don't blame him for having ED as he can't help it. Dressing up for him in lingerie does not work or anything. He used to respond to it well but now not so much. He'll go to the bathroom and try to get it up on his own for 10-20 minutes then come rushing to me and it hurts when he goes inside. I tried pressed and the first time it still hurt and the other 3 times was ok but still not pleasant. Even though I see ewcm I feel dry and it's rough and hurts when he enters me. My husband grew up in a emotionless and fatherless household so he can't stand talking too much about it and is super sensitive and changes the topic. It may be easy for some of you to say to just talk to him but it's not easy. It's like pulling teeth. I can't help get his thing up because he doesn't want me to help. He tells me we will keep trying and refused to see a doctor just yet. I hate when I hear people tell me to relax and it will happen when least expected. Well, for us we only time sex at fertile times due to his ED and sex drive. Last time around we dtd the most, around 5 times which is our current record since ttc. He used to want it all the time but not anymore due to his ED. Any tips or tricks that may help are much appreciated. Is anyone else in the same boat? I know this was a long post but I had to get the details in and there is no one I can talk to about this. Thanks in advance for reading and replying!