husband is not attracted to my pregnancy body

[ZombieQueen]

My DH wasnt interested much before I got pregnant, I'm not even showing yet and hes already even less interested.... We've had sex 4 times since I got pregnant and 3 of those times were before we even knew.. It can't get much worse for me.. its a terrible feeling, but im trying not to let it get me down, I have a LO growing inside me, who needs a dumb jerk also shoving himself in there?!

 

[BunNtheOven]

As for the rude remarks he has been making I say PUNISH HIM BY PLEASING YOURSELF RIGHT BESIDE HIM!

I could not agree more! Brilliant!

hahaha. i have totally done that too! Ending up getting him riled up and having sex with me. hahaha But i hate initiating the sex. i want him to damnit!

Right!!! It works lke a charm everytime and then I say no Im doing just fine on my own and make wait before allowing him to join!!! lol Its punishment in my house... As for the falling asleep and ignoring...YOU ARE NOT LOUD ENOUGH ...LOL MAKE IT SOUND LIKE THE BEST EVER!

hahahaha. thats hilarious! My boyfriend just heard me laughing and he asked what so funny and i said "ohhhhh nothinggg!!!"

 

[arj]

Sigh... this is hard to admit because its painful but my husband is not attracted to my pregnancy body. I loved being pregnant with our daughter I felt great and then after I had her, right around Christmas time I find out that he's had been looking at porn since I was about 6 months pregnant, which is when I really started showing. I gained an awful amount with my first pregnancy so that didn't help but I'm getting paranoid that he might be slipping again. Last night I tried to be Flirty and kissed him the way he likes and he kissed back but There was no other physical responce - OUCH! I thought maybe we'd be intimate but no, he got too involved with his game and it was "so late" and he was too tired to perform. Double ouch :'( I did have a little scare where I was cramping ( but believe me any excuse to not be intimate will do for him) so its been probably over a month since we've been intimate... so silly me thought my advances would be welcome.

Its amazing we Have two kids with how rare we baby dance.

I needed to get that off my chest.... anyone else have a husband who isn't interested in your pregnant body?

My DH was a bit like that with my 1st pregnancy and (this is TMI) but usually he comes too early (told you) but toward the end of my pregnancy with DD, he couldnt even finish, i felt like it was cos he wasnt attracted to me. I gained A LOT of weight too. Also he goes a bit funny about it all as soon as i get a bump and says like he feels like its 'wrong' having sex when theres a baby in there and imagines his **** is hitting the babies head or something.

He actually told me last night hes not actually that excited about haveing another baby, cos he reckons its too early since our last kid (who is nearly 3)!!! Also he really wants another boy and i told him it probably will be a girl. I guess he was like it the other two times too, just not as excited as me and didnt wanna talk about it, and told me not to tell him when we are 'trying' cos he doesnt wanna think about babies during sex! He doesnt really want much to do with them as babies cos he feels useless cos he can never settle them (got no breasts haha) but absolutely loves them now! A great as dad. Just sux feeling a bit alone at the mo. I feel for you!!!!

P.S I have made him a little folder of me when lately (still slim) dressed up in lingerie and doing 'naughty things/poses" so he can look at that if he feels the need for looking at someone slim! lol

 

[YoshiPikachu]

I have not had that, but I am not that big yet either.

P.S. I see that you live in Minnesota, so do I.

 

[Arisa]

Hubby seems to think I am "hot" if I am in dirty p.j's with messy hair. I have no idea how that is attractive at all. lol
I will say that my hubby really could care less what I look like so this is not much of a compliment.

I am having the opposite issue. I am just not attracted to him at all really right now.

SAME here and I feel terrible especially since so many women do struggle with men not finding them attractive
I just do not want him near me, he is so patient and loyal.

 

[Ventri]

To answer an earlier post, he's like this at all times but feels intensified when I'm pregnant... probably because I'm more selfconsious and emotional. Yesterday morning he was lovey again before I left for work but when I came back he seemed pissed off and agitated... not sure what that's about but I notice this more and more he wont talk to me about it either. He usually gives me a, "nothings wrong" or "I've been busy doing chores (he loves to clean) and I'm just settling down now." This man has a lot of adrenaline and it doesn't take much to start it!

I think I'll ask him today specifically if he is afraid he will hurt this little one and have the conversation start there. I have to pick my timing carefully to have "talks"

Thanks again for all the support!!

 

[bumpbear]

Good luck - let us know how it goes!