Racheldigger
Rowan Aeshna born 22/3/09
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Is there anybody else here whose OH is the one who's keen for a baby? Everyone else seems to be saying "oh, I want a baby now, I want lots of babies all now, but I can't persuade my OH to have any!"
Having the baby we've already got was OH's idea in the first place, which he suddenly came up with when he heard the last strokes of my biological clock, and I thought long and hard before I agreed. Now he's desperate for another... well, in fact, he's been broody since this one was about six months old, and now she's starting to walk, he won't shut up about it. Bless him, he loves her so much: he was the one who did the instant bonding, when he was holding her all the time I was being stitched.
OH's thoughts are as follows:
Rowan needs a sibling if she's to grow up well-adjusted
Rowan is lovely and he wants another one
I shall be forty-three next week and time is running out
My thoughts are as follows:
I hated every day of being pregnant
Rowan's birth (emergency forceps delivery) was quite scary enough
I love my job, and don't want to mess my employers about with another lot of maternity leave so soon
I shall be forty-three next week and my chances of conceiving a normal baby are slim (we had already aborted a Downs Syndrome-affected foetus before conceiving Rowan, and I don't want to go through that ever again)
Rowan's childcare is already taking a third of my wages, and that's with childcare vouchers and Grandma helping out: we couldn't inflict two very small children on Grandma on such a regular basis, and the extra costs this is going to generate will make it hardly worth my working at all
OH's job is very demanding, and muggins here gets to do almost all the housework and baby-tending on top of her own job
Rowan is so lovely - beautiful, bright and ridiculously sweet-natured and easy-going - that I can't imagine we'd ever get another one like her: any other baby we had is unlikely to come up to her standard, and would suffer from being compared to her (I was a sweet, sunny baby and my little brother was a whinger, and I know he had a rough time from being compared to me)
Anyone any encouraging thoughts?
Having the baby we've already got was OH's idea in the first place, which he suddenly came up with when he heard the last strokes of my biological clock, and I thought long and hard before I agreed. Now he's desperate for another... well, in fact, he's been broody since this one was about six months old, and now she's starting to walk, he won't shut up about it. Bless him, he loves her so much: he was the one who did the instant bonding, when he was holding her all the time I was being stitched.
OH's thoughts are as follows:
Rowan needs a sibling if she's to grow up well-adjusted
Rowan is lovely and he wants another one
I shall be forty-three next week and time is running out
My thoughts are as follows:
I hated every day of being pregnant
Rowan's birth (emergency forceps delivery) was quite scary enough
I love my job, and don't want to mess my employers about with another lot of maternity leave so soon
I shall be forty-three next week and my chances of conceiving a normal baby are slim (we had already aborted a Downs Syndrome-affected foetus before conceiving Rowan, and I don't want to go through that ever again)
Rowan's childcare is already taking a third of my wages, and that's with childcare vouchers and Grandma helping out: we couldn't inflict two very small children on Grandma on such a regular basis, and the extra costs this is going to generate will make it hardly worth my working at all
OH's job is very demanding, and muggins here gets to do almost all the housework and baby-tending on top of her own job
Rowan is so lovely - beautiful, bright and ridiculously sweet-natured and easy-going - that I can't imagine we'd ever get another one like her: any other baby we had is unlikely to come up to her standard, and would suffer from being compared to her (I was a sweet, sunny baby and my little brother was a whinger, and I know he had a rough time from being compared to me)
Anyone any encouraging thoughts?