Husband not bought anything for baby-anyone else?

[lazymum]

Well, Yo Yo, I am even sure if you are for real. Have you seen any other man talking to a bump? I was nerve talking to my bumps…
And for shopping? He is working hard trying to provide for you and your growing family and you want him to go shopping after long hours at work??
Yes, my husband came once to look at pushchairs but not willingly. Everything else I bought myself for all of my 3 children. My husband just not into shopping it doesn't mean he doesn't care about us….
If you husband doesn't help you at least with some chores that might be difficult for you in your condition (like lifting a heavy sofa), yes it is a bit worrying but he doesn't need to go shopping for baby clothes to show that he cares...

 

[Nikko88]

My husband isn't into the shopping or registry. Instead he's been fixing things around the house, cutting trees and refinishing rooms.

I'm a little concerned about the budget, but there's nothing new about that.

 

[ready4num2]

My husband has a bigger shopping obsession for the baby than I do! This is my second but his first. He's just so excited. We usually go together but he will come home randomly with baby clothes or toys. Every man is different. My husband also like to go grocery shopping with me lol

 

[minties]

Mine never bought anything, touched my bumps or talked to them etc. pregnancy just held zero interest for him.

He takes the kids out every Saturday now and buys them something little.

Pregnancy often is boring or doesn't seem real if it's not your own body.

 

[wookie130]

Well, Yo Yo, I am even sure if you are for real.

Well...being as this is the internet, none of us can be sure if we are for real. I'm sorry! That was TOO easy!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!

 

[Bex84]

Dh will come to shop but I tend to make decision. He is a fantastic daddy to lo so I don't care. Its material things after all. He will put comments in about things. Ivtell him research done like fact we spent more money for better carrier. He has been away forvwork and he will buy our daughter a gift and he hasvrung us every night making sure to talk to her, for fathers day we did family day out and we come first so the fact I go out and get most stuff does not bother me as the other stuff is more important. We set a budget together and he will comment on stuff he things will be good but I am usually decision maker on clothes, birthday and Christmas presents

 

[Lois22]

My husband hasn't as I have control of the money. He would probably be too worried, it would be wrong lol.

He's not interested really until the baby is actually here. He's an awesome father to our little girl. Plus he works hard to provide for us

 

[lilmackate]

This is baby number 4 for us and as with my other babies my husband doesn't get involved much until I go into labor lol he doesn't touch my belly or speak to it. He also doesn't remain affectionate with me. He's very distant when I'm pregnant. I soon as I have the baby though he flips roles and returns to the man I married lol guys are strange creatures.

 

[emicakess]

My OH is pretty into my pregnancy, more than some guys but not totally into it. I think most of it is to make me happy lol he listens when I read my pregnancy app but doesn't ready respond. He rubs my belly every once in awhile. There's been a couple times he was into looking at clothes for her but most of the time I feel like I am taking up his weekends if I ask him if we can go look at baby stuff. He gets pretty bored shopping for anything other than himself. If I put his hand on my belly to feel kicks he will just hold it there and continue watching tv and not even notice when she kicks lol
I think he's done a pretty good job at atleast trying to keep me happy but he is who he is lol and I know he's excited.
He hasn't gone to many of my appointments but he did go to all of my birthing classes with me and was REALLY into it. Hes an information nerd though, i think he really liked understanding how everything works with labor and delivery and finding out how he can help me.
Oh I wanted to mention that there was this one time we were shopping and he saw this stuffed animal bear toy that I thought was pretty ugly lol he picked it up and just stared at it. He was like "I think she will like this" and I wanted to be like "nooooo"and I almost did but then I realized and recognized that he had found something that actually made him feel connected without me asking. I thought it was really sweet and he loves that ugly bear lol.

 

[pinklightbulb]

My ex picked out nothing for any of his 3 kids (first isn't mine). He said he doesn't connect to his babies until they are born, wonder if that's a protective thing actually. Mama's baby, Papa's maybe, as he put it. Even though he didn't question the paternity of my two (or his first at the beginning, though he did later) he still had that "doubt" until he physically saw them. Then he began to bond.

 

[Aneesa_09]

I have picked everything out myself like you OH just gave me his card and said get whatever he needs. Don't get too upset about it because as you said he is a great dad already and when the baby is here I am sure he will kick into gear and help u with everything possible.

My OH was really into my last two pregnancies, he does give my bump a rub and a talk to now and then not as much as our first but we are both so busy now I understand.. x