Okela
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Hi ladies,
Little background story: I suffer from fibromyalgia. It's a non-desctructive form of rheumatism that causes pain, makes one tired very quickly, plus a dozen other issues. I was diagnosed last year after breaking down physically, spent months on recovering and learning how to deal with my body not working as it's supposed to. My husband has been wonderful during those months, really living up to the 'for better and for worse' part.
But now we have a new situation: I am now more or less 13 weeks pregnant with my second (his first) child and I have had every pregnancy symptom in the book, including extreme fatigue. It's been though, but using what I've learned last year I'm actually coping pretty well. Now here comes the irritating part: my husband obviously does not understand that me being tired is related to my pregnancy, rather than my illness. He accuses me of not taking enough care of myself. In his mind, me being tired only happens when I don't rest enough and eat the wrong things (too much sugar and carbohydrates are my main culprits), so naturally I must be doing something wrong.
He means well, I know he only wants to take care of me, but I can't seem to be able to explain to him that being tired is also part of being pregnant. With my first, my fatigue was way worse than it is now. I do take care of myself, and it's not that weird to want to go to bed early when you're pregnant right? It's not like I'm not able to do anything on a day-to-day basis.
Ugh, sorry for my rant ladies! If anyone has any ideas on how to explain this better to my husband, you are more than welcome to share them with me!
Little background story: I suffer from fibromyalgia. It's a non-desctructive form of rheumatism that causes pain, makes one tired very quickly, plus a dozen other issues. I was diagnosed last year after breaking down physically, spent months on recovering and learning how to deal with my body not working as it's supposed to. My husband has been wonderful during those months, really living up to the 'for better and for worse' part.
But now we have a new situation: I am now more or less 13 weeks pregnant with my second (his first) child and I have had every pregnancy symptom in the book, including extreme fatigue. It's been though, but using what I've learned last year I'm actually coping pretty well. Now here comes the irritating part: my husband obviously does not understand that me being tired is related to my pregnancy, rather than my illness. He accuses me of not taking enough care of myself. In his mind, me being tired only happens when I don't rest enough and eat the wrong things (too much sugar and carbohydrates are my main culprits), so naturally I must be doing something wrong.
He means well, I know he only wants to take care of me, but I can't seem to be able to explain to him that being tired is also part of being pregnant. With my first, my fatigue was way worse than it is now. I do take care of myself, and it's not that weird to want to go to bed early when you're pregnant right? It's not like I'm not able to do anything on a day-to-day basis.
Ugh, sorry for my rant ladies! If anyone has any ideas on how to explain this better to my husband, you are more than welcome to share them with me!