hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[Squishy1982]

Kate looked a bit out of it to me to be honest, I would hate the pressure of being in the public eye and having to deal with it xx

 

[shocker]

yup back on the IVs and getting anti sickness injections on top of my zofran and zantac, all the bruises on my backside have decided to join forces to make one massive bruise haha and my IV is icey cold so my hands frozen but feeling so much better knowing i might actually have a date tomorrow i asked them if they would sterilise me at the same time but they refused because of my age, i had a feeling they would they did say i could get a mirena coil at my 6 week appointment and they said it actually had a higher success rate than having tubes tied so twas reassuring.

thank you carli i have no doubt the thought wouldve crossed my mind if i had to go any longer! they asked if i had any preferances for the birth and i said at this pont you can take him out through my nostril so long as he gets out safe and well i really dont care!

 

[Aaisrie]

Eugh poor you shocker hope you get sorted soon!!

Simmy I'm thinking one of those SARS masks migh be good for Christmas cooking smells!!

Feeling rough today - hate ptyalism... It's really bad today and I've a friends wedding to go to. At least she knows and is sympathetic to my HG so if I have to leave she'd understand.

 

[shocker]

How did the wedding go Aaisrie?

Well theyre upping my dosages and adding losec, i think its pointless at this stage, little man is now 4lb 11oz and no longer breech! Theyre going to review my induction date every week depending on how things are going but said if things go to plan they will induce at 39 weeks, they originally said 37 so im a little upset but she said that will be the main plan and we'll see how things are each week

 

[Squishy1982]

I take it that some of you lovely ladies work, how have your work been with you?

I know they can not touch you for pregnancy related sickness but I have got a meeting at work tomorrow to discuss my absence. I have been off since mid sept so around 13 weeks at the mo and can see no end in sight at the mo.

My sickness is nowhere near as bad as some of you girls and I have managed to avoid being admitted so far but its continuous and absolutely no pattern.
They want me to do a phased return to work, i e 2 hours a day to start but I have no idea how I would cope. Luckily I get 6 months full pay so don't have the money issues to worry about.

I have had 2 home visits since being off and I have no idea what they are expecting me to say when they know that my situation hasn't changed.

Hope you ladies are feeling a bit better xx

 

[missy1]

I take it that some of you lovely ladies work, how have your work been with you?

I know they can not touch you for pregnancy related sickness but I have got a meeting at work tomorrow to discuss my absence. I have been off since mid sept so around 13 weeks at the mo and can see no end in sight at the mo.

My sickness is nowhere near as bad as some of you girls and I have managed to avoid being admitted so far but its continuous and absolutely no pattern.
They want me to do a phased return to work, i e 2 hours a day to start but I have no idea how I would cope. Luckily I get 6 months full pay so don't have the money issues to worry about.

I have had 2 home visits since being off and I have no idea what they are expecting me to say when they know that my situation hasn't changed.

Hope you ladies are feeling a bit better xx

Hi, don't let them intimidate you into going back before you're ready. All that phased back return nonsense, you know when you're ready and it might be never. Why do they think that 2 hours a day is any easier than 8? It's not if you are an HG sufferer. You still have to get up early put a face on in between the vomiting and get in a car or public transport and get there and back. Your work sound quite like my employer although this time round they have left me alone and not bothered me - so far. I've been signed off for 8 weeks and will not go back until I am 100%. My work like to act like the kind concerned employer 'is there anything we can do for you etc?' when the truth is they can't wait to get you in for an absence management meeting as soon as you have returned and explain how if bad absence continues it could lead to disciplinary action and even dismissal. I just let them read their script and nod politely but I don't spend a second worrying about it. My doc has signed me off and there is nothing they can do.
It's maybe a bit easier for me to fade into the background as I work for a massive company and I can be pretty anonymous. I've never even met my manager and in fact I've had about 5 different managers this year!
Just look out for yourself first and foremost and don't go be bullied into going back too soon hun xxx

 

[Squishy1982]

I take it that some of you lovely ladies work, how have your work been with you?

I know they can not touch you for pregnancy related sickness but I have got a meeting at work tomorrow to discuss my absence. I have been off since mid sept so around 13 weeks at the mo and can see no end in sight at the mo.

My sickness is nowhere near as bad as some of you girls and I have managed to avoid being admitted so far but its continuous and absolutely no pattern.
They want me to do a phased return to work, i e 2 hours a day to start but I have no idea how I would cope. Luckily I get 6 months full pay so don't have the money issues to worry about.

I have had 2 home visits since being off and I have no idea what they are expecting me to say when they know that my situation hasn't changed.

Hope you ladies are feeling a bit better xx

Hi, don't let them intimidate you into going back before you're ready. All that phased back return nonsense, you know when you're ready and it might be never. Why do they think that 2 hours a day is any easier than 8? It's not if you are an HG sufferer. You still have to get up early put a face on in between the vomiting and get in a car or public transport and get there and back. Your work sound quite like my employer although this time round they have left me alone and not bothered me - so far. I've been signed off for 8 weeks and will not go back until I am 100%. My work like to act like the kind concerned employer 'is there anything we can do for you etc?' when the truth is they can't wait to get you in for an absence management meeting as soon as you have returned and explain how if bad absence continues it could lead to disciplinary action and even dismissal. I just let them read their script and nod politely but I don't spend a second worrying about it. My doc has signed me off and there is nothing they can do.
It's maybe a bit easier for me to fade into the background as I work for a massive company and I can be pretty anonymous. I've never even met my manager and in fact I've had about 5 different managers this year!
Just look out for yourself first and foremost and don't go be bullied into going back too soon hun xxx

Thank you hun, I know that they can not discipline me for pregnancy related sick. I think I am going to phone my manager in the morning and tell her I can't make it in (its a 20 minute drive on 70 roads and with my dizziness I really don't want to risk it.) I have kept nothing down today so am dreading tomorrow.

I will go in for a meeting in the new year if I can, my latest note doesn't run out until 8th Jan so don't see why I should have to go back in before then, even just for a meeting. All I want to do is concentrate on travelling to 4hr journey to Birmingham on Saturday.
I agree with you about the phased return. I may use it to my advantage if I do go back as I intend to use my remaining holiday and next years allocation before maternity so could finish at 33 weeks

 

[mummySS]

Squishy, they cannot make you come in for a meeting when you're signed off sick, especially with such a tough journey. How stressful will that be and it'll set you back with the HG too - just not worth it! Tell them you can do the meeting over the phone but you're too sick to do it in person! Don't let them intimidate you into coming back. I made this mistake during my last pregnancy, my job was so stressful and busy that I couldn't sign myself off. I worked my butt off from home the entire pregnancy, and guess what, they made me redundant while i was on mat leave. It's just not worth risking your health for large companies that dont really give a toss.

This time round, work have been keeping in touch with me (over the phone) every couple of weeks, which they have to do from an HR standpoint, but they have just been asking how i'm feeling and i've been very non-committal as to when I might feel better - I mean i wish i could say 'next week i'll be better', but clearly that's not how it works. I also work for a big company and get 6 months sick pay so i'm going to take as long as i need. Please, don't make the same mistake I did last time round. It doesn't get you anywhere...

 

[Aaisrie]

Shocker the wedding went okay, I had to run out right after the ceremony but I didn't pike during the ceremony!! Fortunately I took my zofran then and it stayed down so I started feeling a little better. Just sucks to not be able to enjoy stuff

 

[mummySS]

Eve i remember going to a wedding last time round when I was about 7 weeks and no one knew - it was a nightmare! I spent more time in the toilets than at the wedding, and had to leave when the meal came out. I shouldn't have bothered going - sounds like you did a lot better than me (I wasn't on meds as at that point i had no idea what HG was!).

 

[CarliCareBear]

Congrats!! If it makes you feel any better I was totally sick for my wedding too. I had (and still have) some bad stomach issues even before HG- It was a sunrise wedding and i was puking all morning- walked down the isle and then passed out from phenegren and missed the reception. haha, it was the best day ever- but it sucks to not really enjoy it...
And now every time I talk about with family they say, "yeah it was amazing, sorry you we're sick".

 

[Aaisrie]

Simmy there is no way I could have even gotten dressed without the zofran!!!! Don't know how you did that last time tbh!!!!

Carli it was a friends wedding and I'd promised her I'd be there.

 

[Squishy1982]

I cancelled my meeting at work, she is going to ring me for a chat tomorrow instead x

 

[mummySS]

Not sure how I managed to be honest Eve...

Carli omg that must have been so tough!!

Squishy good call cancelling your meeting!

 

[Squishy1982]

haha!! sorry girls but have to have a bit of a rant/gloat!
As you know I have been off sick for 14 weeks with severe sickness, I have just had a phone meeting with my senior manager and she tried to tell me that they can invoke my maternity leave early from 29 weeks if I am still off sick. It felt bloody wonderful to tell someone who used to be the attendance manager that actually no, you can't. I can take maternity from 29 weeks but you can't force me on to maternity unless I am off sick with a pregnancy related illness in the last 4 weeks before my due date!
She also tried to tie this sick in with previous instances of sick which they can not do as they can not use pregnancy related sick against you in any way! Ha ha it felt sooooooooooooo good!!

 

[Aaisrie]

Yay squishy!!!

 

[missy1]

That's fab. Good on you for knowing your facts! X

 

[mummySS]

Great for you! And how cheeky of them to try it on!

 

[CarliCareBear]

oh- that's good that it was your friends wedding and not yours! that still totally stinks though, i wish you could have had an easier time but kudos for being so brave to go at all. It seemed like any event like that caused me so much anxiety when I had HG- it's so hard to be confident about going out to places when you are looking for the trash the whole time just in case you hurl!

that's awesome squishy! nicely done.


hope you all are hanging in there Xx

 

[Aaisrie]

Carli it's even better when all your friends tell you that you look like trash!!!! Seriously everyone I see is either "you've lost loads of weight" or "you look rough"
WHAT DID YOU THINK ID LOOK LIKE!!!!