hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[Dream.A.Dream]

katy, I really sympathise with you and feel so bad you dont always have drs and midwives around you who are supportive. I feel so lucky that everyone (aside from one consultant last week!!!!!) has been so supportive and understanding and its made a big difference to me as I spend so much time worrying about what exactly all this sickness could be doing to baby, fortunately all my health providers are reassuring!

Fingers crossed for your scan today.

I'm not sure if part of it is my age. I think about it sometimes and that's the only solution I can come up with. That because I'm young they somehow think I'm doing it to keep my weight gain down or something

Although from researching younger maternal age is one of the risk factors, so they shouldn't think like that. I'm just glad it'll all be done soon.

Thanks for the luck, I'm a bit nervous that he's going to be way too small xx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Back from growth scan. He's small. I didn't get much by way of explanation. I was just told that I have to come back for another scan 2 weeks today and to see a consultant. And that based on today's measurements he's below the 10th centile so will likely be under 6lbs if he gets to 40 weeks. I didn't get an actual estimated weight at present so I need to find a website where it will tell me if I put the measurements in.

When she was measuring his tummy I could see on the screen and his AC measurement was saying "EDD (based on measurement)- 14th March" then she did another which said "EDD- 13th March" and then another which said "EDD- 18th March" so he must be pretty small as I'm actually due 17th Feb

xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

honestly hun try not to worry.. ruby was estimated to be HUGE and wasnt, cratymums jacob was estimated to be like 4lb or something, and her bump was barely there, and he was 7lb+
big hugs xxx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

I feel like shit and I don't really know where to post. So I'm afraid it's going in here lovelys.

I'm really really feeling down tonight I feel awful. I've been quite sick which hasn't helped, but mainly I'm just a bit depressed. I'm fed up of being sick, I'm fed up of feeling sick. I feel guilty that my baby is measuring small because I have failed him by being sick. I don't understand why my body can't manage to do the whole pregnancy thing without making me so ill I've been hospitalised. I feel like I've let OH down because I can't manage to grow his son properly.

Argh, I just want him to be here and pregnancy to be over If I go overdue I seriously don't know what I'll do, knowing I could potentially have 2 more weeks, making it almost 2 more months in total

And now I'm going to be sick again because I've been crying xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

huge huge huge hugs babe... you CAN do this... i promise!
im not going to give u all the shit about only a few more weeks.. cos i know it might as well be a few more months, even the thought of another day is horrendous...
just tell urself you are gonna get thru the next day.. the next hour if its real bad.. dont think about how many days / weeks are left, cos we both know it doesnt help..
i remember feeling exactly the same at about this stage.. i felt like my stupid body was letting me down every day, and i was letting dave down by being miserable, not being able to do a thing, and by not even being able to give ruby the best environment.. but i promise.. REALLY promise, that once that little man is here, none of this will matter.. please dont stress about going overdue.. i drove myself insane with it.. when my due date came i was like a woman posessed, and the next day when i had a sweep done, and they informed me i wouldnt be induced for 2 weeks, (making it 16 days overdue) i cried hystericaly to the nasty midwife who couldnt have cared less and made some snotty comment about having done 9 months so what was another few weeks.. i sobbed my heart out in the car on the way home, wailing about how i literally could not do one more day... i felt like i was going to be pregnant and sick forever.. but my waters broke that night, and she was here the next evening... you gotta keep the faith that things will go well for you babe. you need your energy for basic functioning right now.. try not to waste it on worrying about what might or might not be...
Hg babies are generally totally fine.. a bit of jaundice seems to be about the worst... its us who suffer.. your body knows what baby needs and is sending it to him.. even tho that makes u feel even more ill..
he will probably be a small baby.. like ruby was.. but i bet hes totally fine, and once hes born, gains weight at a rate of knots, like ruby & jacob have both done..
and the good news is that they really do seem to be happy chilled out babies and there really seems to be some truth in the 'nasty pregnancy = good labour' thing.. i dont know an HG lady whos had a horrible labour, and thats DEFO something good to focus on!
just try to get some sleep / rest, breathe properly (sounds weird but it REALLY helps) and soldier on xxxxxxxxxxx (said i wouldnt say it, but it is really nearly over!!)
hugs xx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Thank you I really appreciate the advice and support I get in here. I'm going to take myself off to bed I think, hopefully it won't seem so bad in the morning xx

 

[craftymum]

Hi Katy, firstly big big hugs as I know how you feel and right now you feel like this will never end but it will I promise you and like Kat says your baby will be fine, Jacob was estimated to be about 4lb at birth and I ended up having to return 2 weeks later for another scan and I spent that whole time worrying and stressing that I'd failed my baby by being so sick, when I returned for the rescan the girl who did it was really worried as the measurements were tiny and I ended up waiting at the maternity unit for 5 very long hours for a Doctor to have a look then the Doctor said Jacob was about 7lb - how can 2 scans on one day b so different and how could he have went from an estimated birth weight of 4lb to 7lb in 2 weeks when I was still losing weight? They really are just estimates as one midwife told me that it's like trying to draw an invisible tape measure as they can't really see the head etc properly and depending on how baby is lying (Jacob was back to back yet I still had straight forward labour with no pain relief, no tears or stitches and no intervention) try not to stress about it as Jacob was 7lb 2.5oz and 56cms long at birth, and he arrived 2 weeks early!! I've also heard of a girl who was told her baby was only gonna be 2-3lb the induced her early and she had an 8 pounder!! Also don't worry about your lack of weight gain as I gained very little and my bump was so teeny to be carrying such a healthy weight baby. I know it's so hard not to worry, I was sick from 6 weeks pregnant right through until the day after I Gave birth, if you read back through this thread from the beginning (if you have a few hours spare), you'll see just how desperate I was, I felt like it was never going to end, I felt so depressed and spent most of my days undressed, unwashed, in bed with my bucket and crying. They really were the worst days of my life, but I was saying to Kat today that 3 months later and those HG days already feel like a lifetime ago - I never ever thought I would say that but I am and you will too and once you hold your baby for the first time it will all feel so worth it. HG ladies are strong and our babies do statistically tend to be the healthiest most laid back babies - and our labours tend to be a lot more straight forward than others too. I really really feel for you as it is a really long hard journey - possibly the hardest thing you will ever do but the end result really is so worthwhile, hang in there you will get through this
here's a pic of my bump taken on the day I went into labour just to show you how little I'd gained

 

[craftymum]

here's me and Jacob not long after birth (excuse the state of me, I still hadn't dried off from being in the pool lol)

 

[anothersquish]

I do feel for you Katy, Im a bit at wits end, I thought hed have been here three weeks ago and all this would be over but hes not and its not and I know even though I only have "a couple more weeks" the thought of one more day is practically unbearable. I cry at OH, hug a dog and then play with some baby clothes or my lovely cloth nappies and eventually feel a bit better. To be honest Ive really played down to most people how crap this pregnancy has been and I smile and say "he will come when hes ready" but when Im sat throwing up at 5am there nothing I want more than my waters to finally break and to get him out of there.
I cant reassure you about afterwards just yet but Im hoping I havent got too much longer to hold on (EDD tomorrow!) and I will be able to give you some more hope!
Huge cyber hugs your way katy, we CAN do this!

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Thanks to both of you

Craftymum- it's really reassuring to hear that he wasn't anywhere near as small as they said he'd be. Hopefully my LO will be the same. Jacob is gorgeous by the way

squish- I hope you go into labour soon Sending lots of labour your way. It is hard towards the end and you're even closer to being due than me so I can't really imagine how you feel. At least we will have our babies soon although sometimes it feels like forever

xx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Putting this is here as I think it'll just attract annoying replies in 3rd tri.

What are/did you all do for clothes after you had LO? I know that I will still have a tummy after I have him and that it'll take a fair while to go down. But in the meantime I think my old clothes are going to hang off me?

I bought some size 14 maternity stuff when I was about 8 weeks and that fit then, since then I've lost more and more weight so that I'm now in size 10/12 maternity. I tried on some old clothes the other day from pre preg and even with my bump the size it is now all the size 14 stuff and some of the size 12 is huge around my arms and stuff.

I dunno what to do? Because I think all my stuff is gonna look like crap on me.

xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

yeah i had this problem... i mainly just wore my own clothes throught, as even tho i had a decent sized bump, i lost 2 / 3 dress sizes, so it all fitted fine.
i mostly wore trackie bottoms for the first bit after ruby was born, or PJ bottoms lol... so i went for the ones with a drawstring waist, so they fitted me through a few sizes...
im still wearing a size smaller than i was before i got pregnant, so ive had to buy a few pairs of new jeans, but tops & stuff im just still wearing.. you wont be wanting anything too clingy for a while anyway, so roomy is good! my pre preg jeans fitted me straight away, but when my bumb fully vanished, they were far too big!
just plan for being comfy for the first few weeks, as you will want to be comfy, and also your size & shape will change dramatically, then plan a nice shopping spree when bubs is a month or so old!!!

 

[anothersquish]

Well I am waiting til a week or so after he arrives and will do some mail order shopping then. Ive lost 5 stone and I have no idea how much will come off just after he gets here, possibly another stone or so straight away which will put me from size 18/20 clothes into size eight....Ive not been that slim for 15 years!!!!! My pre pregnancy clothes fit over my 40 week bump and still fall off (seriously I can put on a pair of jeans do them up and they fall straight off, its insane) but I have some joggers, some size 10 maternity stuff and T shirts etc that will do me for a week or two, may look silly but its clothes and it will have to do.
Even then Im going to get the bare minimum as I KNOW I will put some weight back on afterwards because I will be classed as "underweight" and I have lost pretty much all muscle tone (no suprise). So really Im not looking at a new wardrobe til 6-8 months after birth but then I dont have to go back to work or anything so I can take the time.

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Thanks, I'll just wear my smaller maternity stuff for the first few weeks then and the normal clothes I have that don't fall down. Then after a few weeks or a month I shall take myself off to primark and buy myself some stuff that fits xx

ETA: I was thinking about it because I bought myself a long t-shirt type thing in a size 12 thinking I'd have to diet a few months to get into after LO was born and I tried it on just to see and it fits me now So I was sitting there thinking....jeez, how much weight have I actually lost?!

 

[NIfirsttimer]

yeah its mad lol...
when i was about 12 weeks pregnant i ordered some maternity stuff for when i got bigger, and 'stopped being sick' (in my dreams!!!) i was wearing a 14, so i ordered some 14 and some 16 for when i got 'bigger' lol.. i ended up in size 10 mat jeans lol.. im up to a 12 now tho....

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

yeah its mad lol...
when i was about 12 weeks pregnant i ordered some maternity stuff for when i got bigger, and 'stopped being sick' (in my dreams!!!) i was wearing a 14, so i ordered some 14 and some 16 for when i got 'bigger' lol.. i ended up in size 10 mat jeans lol.. im up to a 12 now tho....

Sounds like you were/are a similar size to me. I still fit in my old normal size 12/14 jeans now. It's mental. I'm not pleased about it though, it just makes me worry. Most people would tell me to be glad I'll weigh less when I give birth than I have in years but I'm not

xx

 

[mrsraggle]

Hi guys,

I don't have HG, but I have suffered with pregnancy sickness since week 4 and still going strong at 25+5. I'm sick every day, mostly mornings and evenings, and once to twice a week - all day.
I'm just about at my lowest point in this whole pregnancy. I hate being sick - I work full time, as a Marketing Manager so have a duty to my team and company to be there as much as I can but sometimes it's so hard to get out of bed... and even when I'm at work I'm nauseaus all the time and all I think about is "don't be sick". I've often had to run out of meetings heaving, upchuck in the loo next door, and go back in to carry on!! I leave work in 9 weeks and it can't come soon enough - I want to be sick into my own toilet!

I've gained weight rather than lost it - just under 7lbs so far.

I'm fed up of people telling me "it'll be worth it!". I know that!! I'm totally grateful to be pregnant and I love my littlebug but I feel awful! I look awful!

I haven't read this whole thread but you guys have been through so much worse, so if this is purely for HG please let me know and I'll rant elsewhere

 

[craftymum]

I was the same I ordered loads of maternity stuff for when I stopped being sick and started getting bigger but that never happened and I went into labour still wearing my normal pre pregnancy size 10 jeans - after I had Jacob I came home in those same jeans and they were too big on me, they fit me now though. Tops have been the same I'm an 8-10 on top and although my boobs got bigger they never got so huge that I had to go up a size. That is the one (and only) good thing about hg - we don't have all that weight to lose after, instead we have to gain it and what better excuse to stuff ourselves with all those things we couldn't eat whilst pregnant!

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Hi guys,

I don't have HG, but I have suffered with pregnancy sickness since week 4 and still going strong at 25+5. I'm sick every day, mostly mornings and evenings, and once to twice a week - all day.
I'm just about at my lowest point in this whole pregnancy. I hate being sick - I work full time, as a Marketing Manager so have a duty to my team and company to be there as much as I can but sometimes it's so hard to get out of bed... and even when I'm at work I'm nauseaus all the time and all I think about is "don't be sick". I've often had to run out of meetings heaving, upchuck in the loo next door, and go back in to carry on!! I leave work in 9 weeks and it can't come soon enough - I want to be sick into my own toilet!

I've gained weight rather than lost it - just under 7lbs so far.

I'm fed up of people telling me "it'll be worth it!". I know that!! I'm totally grateful to be pregnant and I love my littlebug but I feel awful! I look awful!

I haven't read this whole thread but you guys have been through so much worse, so if this is purely for HG please let me know and I'll rant elsewhere

Feel free to rant That still sounds awful.

I'm the same, I hate being sick in a different toilet. xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

yeah lol.. i hated being sick in other loo's too!!
we put a new bathroom in while i was pregnant, and when i managed to make it to the bathroom place to pick one, i said to the guy 'ooh that looks like it would be a nice one to throw up in' i think he thought i was insane!!