I am now a single mum :(

[Jennifurball]

I have admitted defeat and moved back home. OH (ex) preferred alcohol to his family, never paid a penny and generally caused me hell, although sometimes he was nice, and that is what kept me there but now his family are involved saying I am as bad as him and they will get her taken off me so I decided enough is enough and moved back home.

All the neighbours heard was him shouting abuse at me and once they even called the Police.

Although I know I have done the right thing for Scarlett, I feel sick and my heart hurts. I hate the thought of him meeting other women and the fact I still have to see his family and him for Scarlett. Although I don't want them near her.

I just hate this situation. Will it get easier?

 

[whatwillbe]

Sorry hun, i know it hurts but from what you've said, you have done the right thing, it is hard at first, especially when theres still love there, but it will get easier with time x

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Hi hun, was wondering where you had got to.

I'm really sorry to hear what happened., but you are definitely better off. I remember your threads about your OH and it seemed it would happen eventually.

I'm in a similar situation, though without the abuse/arguing etc. Me and Jessica have moved in with my parents for now til we sort it out. It is really difficult to begin with, mostly what gets me is the thought of him with another woman.

If you need to chat feel free to message me. Scarlett looks gorgeous btw

Hope you are ok. You will get through this hun, promise

 

[Jennifurball]

That's my biggest worry, seeing him, looking in his eyes knowing he has done things with another woman that has only been between us for the past 5 years, especially now I have his baby to bring up, not that I mind that because she is my world.

I feel better tonight as I have my parents ranting at me at what a loser he is, it is stopping me pine for him.

 

[jenfirstbaby]

He definitely is a loser! All us girls that were in 3rd with you know that too. The girls here are great, they encouraged me to do the right thing and im so much happier now. glad you have the support from ur parents. x

 

[Jennifurball]

This place has been a godsend, I have missed it so much but I didn't have net access where I lived apart from facebook on my phone lol so it is good to be back, I can see myself stalking this place now! Although I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it is so good to hear from other girls going through the same and are proving they are coming out the other side.

Men are useless!

 

[emeraldbaby]

You did the right thing in leaving.
I left my husband who is abusive a couple of months ago. I am going through this pregnancy alone, he won't be at the birth and I will be raising this baby alone. Despite the circumstances and knowing it was the right thing it still hurts like hell some days. I like you am wondering when it will get easier.
Thank goodness for the support of our family and the people on b&b

 

[KayBea]

i left my OH (ex) in early june...
i was fine at first but lately hes been putting pics on facebook with him & other girls & it makes me feel sick..


what makes it worse is that he can go do that but i cant, i dont have the time, nor the money to go out( of course he doesnt pay a penny!!) or the guts to be fair, im not ready iykwim?
it kills me seeing him moved on so quick without a glance at his daughter, hes not seen her since we split (i had him arrested)

feel free to PM me for a rant anyone xxx

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Its good to have you back shame its not under better circumstances though!

Any time there's a cat mentioned in a thread people mention you x

 

[Jennifurball]

I've got rid of facebook for that reason mainly, cos I know he will brag, he did it last time we split up, which was hard enough.

LOL @ cats!

Love how you girls are keeping me strong, I felt dreadful before.

 

[jenfirstbaby]

I started a cat thread when LO was like 3 weeks old and was torn apart for it!! Haha I would have loved if you'd been around, you'd have agreed

 

[Jennifurball]

Haha gutted, can you direct me to it or was it locked? Fancy a laugh!

 

[KayBea]

theres alot of girls in our situation hun

xx

 

[Jennifurball]

I can't sleep now.

Will this get easier?? I don't know why I even care if he is looking elsewhere now, but it bothers me.

Everyone I know has said I can do better, and people have actually had a quiet word with my mum asking why I am with him, and they know nothing about the drunken abuse, they just said I can do a lot lot better.

 

[teal]

Massive hugs It really does get easier

You've done the right thing, no-one deserves any abuse from anyone. You deserve so much better xx

 

[KayBea]

honestly let him get on with it.. i know EXACTLY how u feel.. PM me if u need a chat!!

i feel sick to the stomach that hes just kicked us to the curb.

to make it worse his new thing is half his age!!!
think this makes it worse, feel sorry for her because shes so nieve & he obviously hasnt told her whats going on. probably not even told her he has a daughter..

xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Men can be so vile.

He is being arsey about access, wanting her on Saturday night lol, he is an alcoholic! I went round before and there was food burning in the oven cos he was pissed! He also supports his cousin for calling SS saying I'M an alcoholic. I hate them all.

CSA can't help me either re; access, that is ridiculous.

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Jen you are the primary cater. Until things are actually set like with a lawyer etc then I defo wouldn't give him access.

My ex wants Jessica over night and I've told him no, he wasn't happy but I've said not til im comfortable with it and he can prove he can take of her , which so far he hasn't! If he's not willing to co operate then don't contact him at all! Xx

 

[Jennifurball]

I don't understand it when she was living with him, he couldn't be bothered with ANYTHING. Now he wants her for the night?? I am sure he is only saying it because he knows it will bother me, I haven't left her overnight with anyone, never mind him.

Just had a bit of a cry thinking about what a short space of time it has been since he was there for me during labour, now this.

Is it normal to wonder if I have done the right thing despite knowing he was no good?

 

[jenfirstbaby]

I don't understand it when she was living with him, he couldn't be bothered with ANYTHING. Now he wants her for the night?? I am sure he is only saying it because he knows it will bother me, I haven't left her overnight with anyone, never mind him.

Just had a bit of a cry thinking about what a short space of time it has been since he was there for me during labour, now this.

Is it normal to wonder if I have done the right thing despite knowing he was no good?

Jen I swear my oh was the same. I won't go into it but one of the reasons I left is because I felt like a single parent, done everything on my own, he was out all the time , never done a night shift etc. When I split with him he all of a sudden wanted to see her all the time, do over nights. I told him he's not getting over nights coz he doesn't know what he's doing seen as he wouldn't do a night shift.

When I told him all this his excise was 'its different, when you stayed here I could see her whenever I wanted'.... Yes, but U didn't!