I am now a single mum :(

[Jennifurball]

Exactly, I couldn't trust him anyway, in the rare times he did help, he didn't wash the bottles before sterilising, guessed on how much water to put in the steriliser, didn't hold her properly and I was on edge etc.

He thought I was gonna come back, can you believe that? After a row, maybe, but not when he is letting his family report me to SS.

 

[teal]

It is normal to question your decision I know it's easier said that done but try not to let second guessing and what if's drive you crazy

The fact he thought you would go right back to him after allowing his family to involve ss speaks volumes about how little respect he has for you. You're being so, so strong

ps: I was getting confused because two of you lovely ladies are called Jen I'm a Jen too xx

 

[Jennifurball]

lol I guess that name means we are unlucky in love!

I know it is none of my business now but I have asked him to respect me by not seeing other women just yet, I just can't bear the thought, he said he wouldn't and for me not to, even if I wanted to, which I don't, how could I with a 3.5 month old baby!?

I don't think he will stick to it once he gets used to being single/speaking to friends etc but I made this decision and I have to stick to it.

You are right, to think I would take him back means he doesn't care how he treats me.

 

[teal]

Aww sweetie I hope that you don't have to deal with him seeing someone else so soon. If he does then at least it's something else to show you you've made the right decision. From what you've said on your opening post he doesn't deserve to have you or your daughter in his life. You're the one who went through pregnancy and birth, have had your hormones all over the place, he should have been being supportive, not drinking and putting you through hell.

I know it's hard now because it's still so raw but you really are so strong for getting you and your daughter out of that situation. It won't always feel like this xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Thanks, stupid brain has woke me up again early and am going over things but I am starting to slowly accept that we will never be a couple again. Feels far too soon to think about other men but I know so many women who have found amazing men after leaving an abusive one, or maybe they are just normal men but seem amazing after having been treated so crap!

 

[teal]

Hope you're not too tired I'm sure you will meet someone who is right for you, you deserve to be happy xx

 

[Jennifurball]

He is making it easy for me to get over the split, because he is being a total b*****d with me. Grrr.

 

[teal]

Definitely use any shit he gives you to reinforce you've made the right decision xx

 

[Jennifurball]

He is doing my head in, one minute he is ringing me with abuse, then ringing me to ask me out then saying it is my loss when I say no!!

 

[teal]

Why do these idiots think being abusive is going to win you over!

It's most definitely his loss if you say no!! xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Quick update:

He called me early this morning to say he is staying with family in Scotland (sadly the loser who called SS on me), part of me is sad but part of me is glad he is getting away to sort his head. It is in the middle of nowhere so he will HAVE to sort his drinking out.

He called again whilst on the train and started crying and apologising and saying he is missing us both, he even said he would love to sit there feeding her and has realised now what he has lost.

I warned him if his cousins cause me any more bother, I will ban the whole family from seeing her, although I am thinking they won't be bothered about me now we are apart. I am just glad I don't have access issues with him in that he is happy for me to keep her whilst he sorts himself.

It is sad because for once he sounded sober, and was nice to me. But I need to keep remembering the bad times, and there were many of them.