I found out I was pregnant at 3.5 weeks. It was very much planned and wanted. I soon realised that I would need to sell my house which is 500 miles away and that I wanted to move back to my home town where my family live for the baby coming.
I moved 500 miles away 18 months ago for my OHs job. We have enjoyed it but I miss my family so much. When I found out I was pregnant I was planning on waiting until the new year to buy a bigger house in my families location. This would give me 1 year maternity leave and 9 months maternity pay. After this I would hand in my notice as I would be 500 miles away and get a new part time job in my new location when my maternity leave ended. Everything was perfect.
Then the logistics of selling our house and getting a mortgage started being discussed between myself and OH. I was only about 4 weeks pregnant. We ended up having a MASSIVE row. I was so stressed out about moving 500 miles away, selling a house, getting a new mortgage, going full time in my work to get a mortgage, telling them I'm pregnant, buying a new house, decorating it and getting it organised for the baby coming in May.
The night of the argument between OH and I, I got so stressed. I felt he wasn't pulling his weight and didn't realise the urgency that was required to get all of this sorted for the baby coming. If only I knew.
I could feel my blood pumping round my body. My hands were shaking. I was so overwhelmed and incredibly angry. I blamed it on my hormones and I was acting like this because I was pregnant. I threw the remote control for the tv off the wall and sobbed. My OH called me lots of names and was generally horrible.
A week later I started bleeding and it's been confirmed I will miscarry. I'm just waiting.
I'm so disappointed in myself. Why did I stress so much when there are hundreds of people who don't have a home and bring a baby into the world. Even if we couldn't buy a bigger house immediately, we would have worked it out. I feel like I've lost my baby due to this stress and I knew at the time I must stop it. But I didnt.
I'm so angry and disappointed in myself. It makes me question my relationship with OH. He was so unsupportive and disn't sympathise with my worries and stress. Just provoked me. Now that I'm waiting to miscarry im fine one minute then bursting into tears the next. He isn't emotional. Just says it wasn't meant to be and we will try again. He doesn't understand why I'm so upset. He looks at me as if I should be locked up in a mental hospital. He tells me I'm being too emotional and to be strong. I called in sick at work today as I'm too upset and he asks me if im enjoying my day off as though it's a holiday.
Now I just have to wait on the miscarriage and never know if I caused it. All that stress to make sure everything wAs perfect for the baby coming and now I won't even get to meet him or her. I can't desribe my feelings. I worry there is a god and I will be punished after life. I Know deep down its irrational, I know but I cannot help it because I know deep down I was out of control and I should have acted differently.
Since the bleeding started I've been so down. I haven't had time for my son and lay in bed or on the couch crying. He has begged me to play with him but I've just told him no. I feel so bad
I moved 500 miles away 18 months ago for my OHs job. We have enjoyed it but I miss my family so much. When I found out I was pregnant I was planning on waiting until the new year to buy a bigger house in my families location. This would give me 1 year maternity leave and 9 months maternity pay. After this I would hand in my notice as I would be 500 miles away and get a new part time job in my new location when my maternity leave ended. Everything was perfect.
Then the logistics of selling our house and getting a mortgage started being discussed between myself and OH. I was only about 4 weeks pregnant. We ended up having a MASSIVE row. I was so stressed out about moving 500 miles away, selling a house, getting a new mortgage, going full time in my work to get a mortgage, telling them I'm pregnant, buying a new house, decorating it and getting it organised for the baby coming in May.
The night of the argument between OH and I, I got so stressed. I felt he wasn't pulling his weight and didn't realise the urgency that was required to get all of this sorted for the baby coming. If only I knew.
I could feel my blood pumping round my body. My hands were shaking. I was so overwhelmed and incredibly angry. I blamed it on my hormones and I was acting like this because I was pregnant. I threw the remote control for the tv off the wall and sobbed. My OH called me lots of names and was generally horrible.
A week later I started bleeding and it's been confirmed I will miscarry. I'm just waiting.
I'm so disappointed in myself. Why did I stress so much when there are hundreds of people who don't have a home and bring a baby into the world. Even if we couldn't buy a bigger house immediately, we would have worked it out. I feel like I've lost my baby due to this stress and I knew at the time I must stop it. But I didnt.
I'm so angry and disappointed in myself. It makes me question my relationship with OH. He was so unsupportive and disn't sympathise with my worries and stress. Just provoked me. Now that I'm waiting to miscarry im fine one minute then bursting into tears the next. He isn't emotional. Just says it wasn't meant to be and we will try again. He doesn't understand why I'm so upset. He looks at me as if I should be locked up in a mental hospital. He tells me I'm being too emotional and to be strong. I called in sick at work today as I'm too upset and he asks me if im enjoying my day off as though it's a holiday.
Now I just have to wait on the miscarriage and never know if I caused it. All that stress to make sure everything wAs perfect for the baby coming and now I won't even get to meet him or her. I can't desribe my feelings. I worry there is a god and I will be punished after life. I Know deep down its irrational, I know but I cannot help it because I know deep down I was out of control and I should have acted differently.
Since the bleeding started I've been so down. I haven't had time for my son and lay in bed or on the couch crying. He has begged me to play with him but I've just told him no. I feel so bad