I belong here now....

[sue_88]

at the weekend my boyfriend finished with me....by text. We've been seeing each other a few years, soon to be living together.

Just said he wasn't coming home, and to enjoy my life. WTH !?!

He didn't come home or message all week, so I texted him & said he could expect a call from my lawyer regarding the baby.....and it's come out that he was married, with 3 more children than I knew of and his soon-to-be ex wife is taking him for everything.

Such a big shock, I'm trying to be stress free for the baby........luckily I have my own home, very good job & have no money worries....but this week has been WEIRD! Can't believe my life will pan out this way, and all the time I thought I had the perfect relationship. How can someone be so messed up to lie about their entire life?? Ergh.....my mum thinks I should see him, but if I see him right now I'd rip his face off, I don't want anything to do with him or him to have any connection to the baby.

This is a rant, sorry but yeah I guess I belong in the Single Mum group now.

 

[whatwillbe]

welcome Hun, it never ceases to surprise me the things I hear about these so called "men" , sorry you've found all this bad stuff out about him, think of it as a blessing in disguise if you can, it's better you've found out now rather than later, my fob left me at about 5 weeks preg, it's been hard but at least vie had time to come to terms with it, and get used to the idea of bringing up baby alone, congratts on your pregnancy ! Try and just think of you and baby for now, you don't need any stress

 

[Dezireey]

Woah, he was married the whole time? did you even go to his place? that's a huge red flag there if that didnt happen, bummer. I'm sorry you got involved with such a liar. No, I wouldnt see him either, i'd probably shove something up where the sun doesnt shine if I saw a man who did that to me.

Thing that I still and never will understand.....why oh why cant these stupid men just put their feelings aside for once about the woman/ex/wife etc and just be there as like a friend for her pregnancy or something? I mean its not ideal and still very upsetting but I would have much preferred my FOB to say 'look I will support you through the whole pregnancy, go to the birth and just help you out in general but I need to go my own way after the baby is born because its not the life I want'

Men, they suck.

 

[Ceejay123]

Oh wow! I'm so sorry to hear this. You were together for three years, and you find this out? Some men are seriously scumbags! It sounds as though you're better off without him x

 

[Danie1stbaby]

Wow,married? With a whole family? Hell is going to have so much fun with him.Satan has put a mint on his pillow,straight to hell he will gMG!!!!!!! I am so sorry you are going through that.No contact at all,is the route I would take.I know it hurts,so I can't tell you to brush it off.I can't believe men like this exist.Then through text? That was heartless,and what a loser he is.His wife does not have much in a husband,imagine being his wife..at least you have a chance to get away.hugs hun,it's hard to be strong,but we have no choice when we have children

 

[teal]

I'm so sorry to hear that he deceived you for so long. Welcome to this part of the forum, all the single parents in here are lovely

 

[sue_88]

Hi everybody, thank you for the welcome!

We used to each have our own place but we would always visit each others houses, and there was never any indication that he was married.

I knew he had an ex-fiance and two kids, but married with more children then I even knew about has just blown my mind.....he's well & truly out of my life!

I am so glad I found out now so now I can cut him out & just enjoy me & the baby and do everything my way. I've been a bit upset but that's to be expected but I am sooooo excited about the little one!! Can't wait.

 

[Jennifurball]

Gosh. Well you are 'lucky' that this has come out now and not after the baby is here. You can say the father is unknown if you want to when it comes to registering so he has no legal rights. If he/your child want contact in the future then fine but you don't want to legally be tied to someone like that. Must be awful for you but you are fortunate enough to be able to support yourself and your baby.

 

[fairydust87]

Good riddence. You will be a better mum without him. Sounds like a twat x

 

[sue_88]

Thanks everyone.

I am slowly getting there feeling great about my little baby and I have been making some wishes & thoughts about baby things this weekend, it's been lovely.

Im very excited for my scan on the 23rd Nov & so happy that it will just be me in the room that gets to enjoy the feeling

I'm better off without a loser like that! (Correction: We're better off!)

xxxx

 

[Lemonflower]

Congratulations on your bean and welcome!!

What a shock to find that out about your ex. You can be with someone for years and not know them at all!!

By the sounds of it you are better off without him.
Looking at your signature your bean looks like your miracle baby!

Enjoy everything! His loss! Xx