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I Cannot be Pregnant, but Once Again I Think I am.

Melts

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This is so frustrating. For about the first year we were trying everything was a sign of early pregnancy and every month I was like " this has never happened to me before, and the Internet says....... So I must be pregnant." And then my period would come and I would be disappointed.

Here I am almost two years later I know I can't be pregnant cause my husband has a cout of 8000, and if we conceived naturally with that low a count it would be a miracle.

I started my period right on time and it was just as heavy as usual but I had absolutely no cramps ( this is very odd for me) . Then it only lasted thre days and on the third day it just completely stopped I did not have any spotting after that. Usually my period last 5 days and I always have spotting afterwards.

So I google period with no cramps, google says pregnant. Then I google period only lasted 3 days, google says pregnant. Then I start to realize I have been really sick to my stomach everyday for the past week and I have been exhausted, so what do I say to myself " this must be morning sickness, since that can start at 4 weeks, and I am never this tired so it must mean that I could be pregnant."

Ahhhh! I would just take a test but I threw them all out when I was upset about my husbands low count cause I told myself I would never need them since I would never get pregnant. I was not thinking straight obviously.

I don't know what to think, because I have read so many stories about when you finally give up it happens or the month I wasn't paying any attention cause we were moving it happens, and this cycle there was a lot going on and TTC was the last thing on our minds.

So once again I am looking at everything like its a sign, but it can't be because I can say I'm 99% sure that if I took a test right now it would be negative.

What are other reasons my period would be like that? And has anyone else had a period like this?

My periods have been basically the same for the past two years except for two that were late by a few days.
 
Well, I must say I can truly relate. Every month something different would happen, and I was so convinced every single month that I was pregnant it was insane. In my case, it was really impossible, as my DH has less sperm that yours, and I have poor eggs and blocked tubes, so there is no way I was ever pregnant. If its just a male factor, there is always a possibility that one little spermy made his way to the finishing line so I have everything crossed it could be your little miracle. XXXX
 
Thank you so much!
What is it with our bodies doing things that have never happen before. it is so frustrating and makes this struggle harder.
You gave me the hope that I needed to beleive that some day it could happen for us.
I'm sorry to hear about your fertility struggles. :hugs:
 
Every month I look for signs that I might be even though it is practically impossible. Every month I take at least two pregnancy tests in the lead up to AF. Every month is a BFN and AF arrives as usual. When you want it so badly you will always read every little sign as a positive and with every Google search you do, you will find people for whom it has been a positive sign. I understand why you might think so, and I really hope for you that it is, however I would test and rule it out one way or another as soon as poss so that you can deal with it. :hugs:
 
Thanks. I'm glad I am not the only one. I don't know ifs want to test cause I told myself no more tests unless i was almost positive that I am pregnant and right now in pretty sure I'm not. I just want to be so bad that I am telling myself that I am.
 
I do the tests so that I don't hold onto false hope any longer than I need to. They are more an exercise for ruling things out than ruling them in! Having had my body behave like it was pregnant for 9 weeks (molar) I know how I would feel if I was. Unhappily, all the symptoms for AF are exactly the same for pregnancy. Its cruel :wacko:
 
Yea, I don't know what to do. I want to test but I don't want to let myself. But then I keep telling myself if I am pregnant then it would be good to know so that I can make sure everything is okay. Maybe I will go get a test tonight.

I cannot imagine thinking for 9 weeks that I was pregnant. I thought for about a week one time cause Af was late and it felt so good to think that it was finally happening even though the tests were negative.
 
I know how you feel girls. I had a chemical pregnancy in June and for about two weeks I was thinking that I was pregnant. I really did not want to let it go. I had also and the worse symptoms - nausea, dizziness, very sore nipples, constipation (this one made me test :( ).

Now again every month I look for symptoms. I hate tww. Drives me nuts.
 
I know how you feel girls. I had a chemical pregnancy in June and for about two weeks I was thinking that I was pregnant. I really did not want to let it go. I had also and the worse symptoms - nausea, dizziness, very sore nipples, constipation (this one made me test :( ).

Now again every month I look for symptoms. I hate tww. Drives me nuts.
 
Symptom spotting is the worst. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
 
Okay, all day I have been thinking about Af and how unusual it was and the more I think about it the more I feel like I'm pregnant. Now I am having cramps but I think it is all in my head. My period ended on Saturday night and I have not had any spotting at all since. I have read a bunch of stuff and I am hoping that it was breakthrough bleeding and that I am pregnant despite all odds. So I guess I am just going to have to go get a test to put my mind at ease. :nope: I hate this.
 
It really messes with our heads and bodies all of this. I agree that testing will do the trick, there is nothing worse than limbo XXX
 
BFN of course. I can't deal with this anymore we are going to let whatever happens happens for the next couple months and then aftertaking all our vitamins/supplements for 3 months we will try again for a while and then I'm done. I need to try to get on with my life. I just don't think that there is anything good after this.
 
I'm sorry for the BFN, Melts, and I understand your frustration and not wanting to continue.:hugs:

I made the decision to stop using opks and stop my prenatals (though I'm still taking Folic Acid, just in case) two cycles ago. I actually had the most "normal" cycles I've had since my mc once I stopped the prenatals. It didn't help me get pregnant, but I do feel less stressed, and like I'm just living life now. I still get the twinge of pain and anger when I see newborns/BFP announcements from people who don't have to try, though.
 
Yea, it is so hard to move on when every where you go and everything you do reminds you of the kids that you can't have. Just last night when we went to get a pregnancy test there was a pregnant woman that we ran into twice, before we left.
 
Sorry about the BFN :hugs: I don't want to seem nosey, but seeing you have a male infertility factor, have they offered you IVF with ICSI? XXX
 
We are just not sure if we want to risk that, because the success rate is low and we are still young ( both is our early 20s) so we decided to hold off and wait to see what happens before we spend all the money on ivf.
 
I must say though that the success rate is not low at all with IVF and ICSI, it works most times actually. I can understand you wanting to wait, I really hope you get that BFP. XXX
 
Thank you. I always read that the success rate was not very high. Besides that I just hate the thought of needing medical help everytime we want more kids. We had plans to have at least 4 kids but we wanted 6, and now we can't even have one without doctors.
 

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