I cant believe what i've just read(sorry if tmi)

[Happyhayley]

I enjoyed "ring of fire" I've never heard that before but yes that is an extremely accurate description.

Isn't it? It's the kinda stuff that makes you want to kick a MW in the face, or jump off the table .. if you could, that is.. because that's the very moment when you just think.. "Holy hell, my hoo-hoo is going to split in two!" and you can't do much of anything but be in shock... thank goodness it only lasts about 15 seconds.

Oh wow. And i have this to look forward too.
Will i get it twice because of twins or is it once one is out the other will feel fine?

I have no evidence or anything. But I would imagine you would feel it twice because it starts to burn as the head is crowning so 2 heads is 2 burns but maybe the 2nd wont be as bad since your already stretched out or something??

 

[PurpleKisses]

The book sounds a little interesting, but the thought of my OH stimulating me sexually while I'm giving birth to our child grosses me out. My OH would probably be completely grossed out by this to say the least...it's just...I don't know....to each their own...

Also, birth isn't meant to be as painful as we make it. It's just like once you tell a kid a shot is going to hurt, he/she anticipates the pain. Also, although giving birth does kinda complete a cycle that began with sexual intercourse, I don't view giving birth as a sexual experience. I say "kinda" because in all actuality the cycle (or circle) isn't complete until the postpartum phase is completed...not during the labor and delivery of the baby.

Anyway, like I said, to each it's own. In a sense, labor and childbirth is about finding ways to cope with the pain...and everyone copes differently..

 

[FlatShoes]

Right - I'm choosing my words carefully on thsi post so I don't go waaayyy into the realms of TMI...

When OH has wanted to engage in a little 'back door action' I find the only way to block the pain and enjoy it is by flicking my bean. It really blocks any pain/stretching/ripping feelings and just makes it nice.

I would imagine birth-orgasm to be like this on a bigger scale?!

I'm intrigued!! hehe

 

[milkmachine]

The book sounds a little interesting, but the thought of my OH stimulating me sexually while I'm giving birth to our child grosses me out. My OH would probably be completely grossed out by this to say the least...it's just...I don't know....to each their own...

Also, birth isn't meant to be as painful as we make it. It's just like once you tell a kid a shot is going to hurt, he/she anticipates the pain. Also, although giving birth does kinda complete a cycle that began with sexual intercourse, I don't view giving birth as a sexual experience. I say "kinda" because in all actuality the cycle (or circle) isn't complete until the postpartum phase is completed...not during the labor and delivery of the baby.

Anyway, like I said, to each it's own. In a sense, labor and childbirth is about finding ways to cope with the pain...and everyone copes differently..

why does it gross you out? he stimulated you sexually to give you the baby in the first place

 

[milkmachine]

Right - I'm choosing my words carefully on thsi post so I don't go waaayyy into the realms of TMI...

When OH has wanted to engage in a little 'back door action' I find the only way to block the pain and enjoy it is by flicking my bean. It really blocks any pain/stretching/ripping feelings and just makes it nice.

I would imagine birth-orgasm to be like this on a bigger scale?!

I'm intrigued!! hehe

this is kind of the idea also orgasm gives you loads of good feeling hormones. you got to try everything once right lol

 

[Kirst264]

The book sounds a little interesting, but the thought of my OH stimulating me sexually while I'm giving birth to our child grosses me out. My OH would probably be completely grossed out by this to say the least...it's just...I don't know....to each their own...

Also, birth isn't meant to be as painful as we make it. It's just like once you tell a kid a shot is going to hurt, he/she anticipates the pain. Also, although giving birth does kinda complete a cycle that began with sexual intercourse, I don't view giving birth as a sexual experience. I say "kinda" because in all actuality the cycle (or circle) isn't complete until the postpartum phase is completed...not during the labor and delivery of the baby.

Anyway, like I said, to each it's own. In a sense, labor and childbirth is about finding ways to cope with the pain...and everyone copes differently..

why does it gross you out? he stimulated you sexually to give you the baby in the first place

I guess some people (myself included) don't class child birth as a sexual experience. I'm sure many many women would agree this is the last thing on their mind and some women don't even like to be touched whilst in labour

 

[Happyhayley]

The book sounds a little interesting, but the thought of my OH stimulating me sexually while I'm giving birth to our child grosses me out. My OH would probably be completely grossed out by this to say the least...it's just...I don't know....to each their own...

Also, birth isn't meant to be as painful as we make it. It's just like once you tell a kid a shot is going to hurt, he/she anticipates the pain. Also, although giving birth does kinda complete a cycle that began with sexual intercourse, I don't view giving birth as a sexual experience. I say "kinda" because in all actuality the cycle (or circle) isn't complete until the postpartum phase is completed...not during the labor and delivery of the baby.

Anyway, like I said, to each it's own. In a sense, labor and childbirth is about finding ways to cope with the pain...and everyone copes differently..

haha well maybe you've had a different experience but all my friends told me it wasn't so bad and it would be just fine and for me it was excruciating so saying birth is only painful if we believe it is....I think it's painful cause theres a baby coming out of your va jaja

 

[DottyLottie]

I actually have a colleague at work who admitted to me she did this! I posted about it here
https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnan...ite-shocked-sexy-stuff-during-labour-tmi.html

I cannot honestly say the idea appeals to me, I guess it makes sense that it would help, but I cannot help but think that it is the last thing I will feel like doing, and certainly not with a midwife present!
Some of the natural birth videos I have seen show women rubbing themselves between their legs, but it looks like a natural reaction and something they are not doing consciously or in a sexually motivated way.
Having had 3 labours, I have never reached between my legs and rubbed myself off, but each to their own!

 

[FlatShoes]

Right - I'm choosing my words carefully on thsi post so I don't go waaayyy into the realms of TMI...

When OH has wanted to engage in a little 'back door action' I find the only way to block the pain and enjoy it is by flicking my bean. It really blocks any pain/stretching/ripping feelings and just makes it nice.

I would imagine birth-orgasm to be like this on a bigger scale?!

I'm intrigued!! hehe

this is kind of the idea also orgasm gives you loads of good feeling hormones. you got to try everything once right lol

I'm willing to try ANYTHING that will stop the pain!

 

[francismummy]

I've been reading some stuff about labour and one site said that clitoral stimulation helps during labour.
Im sorry but i couldnt imagine having my DH doing that infront of the midwife while i was giving birth.


Wouldnt it be embarassing

its meant to really help with labour

x

 

[milkmachine]

The book sounds a little interesting, but the thought of my OH stimulating me sexually while I'm giving birth to our child grosses me out. My OH would probably be completely grossed out by this to say the least...it's just...I don't know....to each their own...

Also, birth isn't meant to be as painful as we make it. It's just like once you tell a kid a shot is going to hurt, he/she anticipates the pain. Also, although giving birth does kinda complete a cycle that began with sexual intercourse, I don't view giving birth as a sexual experience. I say "kinda" because in all actuality the cycle (or circle) isn't complete until the postpartum phase is completed...not during the labor and delivery of the baby.

Anyway, like I said, to each it's own. In a sense, labor and childbirth is about finding ways to cope with the pain...and everyone copes differently..

why does it gross you out? he stimulated you sexually to give you the baby in the first place

I guess some people (myself included) don't class child birth as a sexual experience. I'm sure many many women would agree this is the last thing on their mind and some women don't even like to be touched whilst in labour

its all a sexual experience though, what gets the baby in an all that

 

[PurpleKisses]

why does it gross you out? he stimulated you sexually to give you the baby in the first place

I think it's weird, my OH would be grossed out...he's more conservative than I am. For lack of a better way to put it, sex with my OH isn't really about the sexually stimulation, although that comes with it. It's more involved than that for us.

haha well maybe you've had a different experience but all my friends told me it wasn't so bad and it would be just fine and for me it was excruciating so saying birth is only painful if we believe it is....I think it's painful cause theres a baby coming out of your va jaja

Everybody is different...and honestly I can't say that childbirth was that painful to me. Of course, it was an intense and completely new experience for me, but I can't say it was excruciating...the easiest part (pain-wise) was when I started pushing and DS came out...so like I said, everybody copes differently.


**Afterthought: Thinking back, given the state of mind I was in when I was in labor with DS, I couldn't imagine OH rubbing my bean lol...it would just seem very out of place. When I had DS, the only thing I was thinking about was "he's coming" and whatever pain I experienced during the contractions was secondary to my instinct to birth my baby. The nurses gave me a narcotic, which allowed me to sleep...the painkilling effect wore off before I got into hard labor...so I felt every contraction, but was able to sleep intermittently. I remember how my contractions started out high up and as my labor progressed, they were more intense down low. The thought of DS's father stimulating me just doesn't seem like it fits in anywhere in the equation.

That's just me. To each their own. I find a lot of things that people do to be weird and things I wouldn't do, but that's just my opinion. Like I said in my previous post, everyone copes differently....so, to each their own.

 

[NetsaBaba]

As i said its only my opinion. Everyones opinion should be valued and it doesnt gross me out that people do it, but the thought of my DH doing it does.

 

[Catters]

As i said its only my opinion. Everyones opinion should be valued and it doesnt gross me out that people do it, but the thought of my DH doing it does.

You are absolutely 100% correct.. I mean, afterall, it's OUR births... if someone wants to do it, DO it.. if someone doesn't want to do it, DON'T do it. I love the fact that people are open to things and express their feelings on here, however, I don't think others (that don't feel the same) should then have to 'watch their wording' in expressing their dislike to something someone else is incredibly open to.

It is an interesting subject (and although not my bag, I'm close with my practioner and am tempted to ask her if she knows how many women have done this over her 16 years of birthing babies on a daily basis... just curious).

Just MOO.. and all that.

 

[NetsaBaba]

As i said its only my opinion. Everyones opinion should be valued and it doesnt gross me out that people do it, but the thought of my DH doing it does.

You are absolutely 100% correct.. I mean, afterall, it's OUR births... if someone wants to do it, DO it.. if someone doesn't want to do it, DON'T do it. I love the fact that people are open to things and express their feelings on here, however, I don't think others (that don't feel the same) should then have to 'watch their wording' in expressing their dislike to something someone else is incredibly open to.

It is an interesting subject (and although not my bag, I'm close with my practioner and am tempted to ask her if she knows how many women have done this over her 16 years of birthing babies on a daily basis... just curious).

Just MOO.. and all that.

Tell me what she says if you can im really interested.
And i didnt make the topic to offend and ive found it really interesting, people can say its gross if they like i mean if you dont agree you can call them whatever you want as i said everyone has different opinions and tbh if the world was full of people the same it would be very boring.

It just shocked me as i read it and deffinitely isnt my cup of tea.

 

[Saywhat]

interesting thread! i love it
i've actually got a book right now that i'm almost finished reading and it is called 'orgasmic birth'.... i find the whole subject of orgasmic birthing totally fasinating!
just to keep things short&sweet as i'm dead tired and need to get to bed - the natural rhythms and waves of the uterus in orgasm can actually help birth the babe without tearing or trauma... the pain receptors are blocked due to the heightened sensations of the vagina, and as well, the tissues of the birth canal as well as perinium are softened and become stetchy&more pliable, reducing the pain and chance of tearing/episiotomy.
birthing is a very sexual event in some ways.. it's like the full circle of intercourse in a way.. there are deep spiritual and physical aspects to this type of birthing, it can help heal birth traumas as well as empower the mama to have a gentle loving easy birth - yes, it IS possible!
i'm not so sure if it's all about these women having an orgasm just to get off, but from what i've read, when a woman surrenders to the flow and rush of energy (known as 'contractions') moving thru her body and works with the breath to relax deeply (rather than tensing and trying to avoid 'pain') and allows the body to do what it's inherently designed to do, some pretty phenomenal sensations can be felt.
obviously, this is a pretty controversial subject and not a well known one either, but if there's a possibility that enhancing sensations that feel GOOD in the body can aid in blocking the 'pain' receptors, i'm all for it!
i actually have a line in my birth preferences sheets stating that if labour slows, me&OH want privacy for either nipple &/or clitoral stimulation - both very effective at releasing oxytocin to prevent chemical stimulation of contractions. we're also looking at doing some smooching, which my dear OH is ALL FOR , during contractions as doing that can aid the body in doing its inner work - and gets the mind off of the actual contraction - i'm the kind of gal that loves to try out things like this, who knows, maybe it'll work..? i got that from ina may's book of natural childbirth - which i highly recommend! it's got some amazing birth stories!
anywho, time for me to get to bed, just couldn't get there first without commenting on this thread!... sooo fascinating!
bless x

Ooh gosh thats really interesting as i said its not my thing but if your up for it and it feels good then by all means go ahead xD
I will be interested if it works or not though youmust tell me when LO comes!

we'll see how things go and what actually ends up happening - might end up so focused on my hypnobirthing relaxations that i forget about the smooching and so on .... i'm not so sure i'll be up for some serious 'bean rubbing' as it was hilariously put earlier lol however, it makes sense to me that it's possible and why not i say? i'm open to it! there is science behind it, but the whole concept of orgasmic/gentle birthing seems counter to what our popular culture/media/medical systems portray it to be.
it's def not for everyone, but like with most things in life, it helps to keep an open mind and go with the flow, so to speak haha
i'll def post a birth story of some sort after she comes and tell all.... like i said, i've tended to be somewhat unconventional and experimental in my life and kinda march to a diff drummer, if you will, and well, the whole topic of pleasurable birthing is just fascinating!

Well said, keeping an open mind for the whole process and being open to all methods however unusual to others. I would love to be able to ask for peace and quiet for just me and oh to do our thing, i've packed all manner of massages oils and aids as thats the time i relax the most. Each to their own i say. x

 

[Catters]

As i said its only my opinion. Everyones opinion should be valued and it doesnt gross me out that people do it, but the thought of my DH doing it does.

You are absolutely 100% correct.. I mean, afterall, it's OUR births... if someone wants to do it, DO it.. if someone doesn't want to do it, DON'T do it. I love the fact that people are open to things and express their feelings on here, however, I don't think others (that don't feel the same) should then have to 'watch their wording' in expressing their dislike to something someone else is incredibly open to.

It is an interesting subject (and although not my bag, I'm close with my practioner and am tempted to ask her if she knows how many women have done this over her 16 years of birthing babies on a daily basis... just curious).

Just MOO.. and all that.

Tell me what she says if you can im really interested.
And i didnt make the topic to offend and ive found it really interesting, people can say its gross if they like i mean if you dont agree you can call them whatever you want as i said everyone has different opinions and tbh if the world was full of people the same it would be very boring.

It just shocked me as i read it and deffinitely isnt my cup of tea.

Will do! and I know you totally didn't mean to offend anyone -- it was just brought up as a discussion of something interesting you had read.... you are right.. if we we were all the same, it'd be hella boring, fo sho!

My next appointment is a few weeks away.. I'll give a PM and let you know what she says..

 

[lovealittle1]

this is a very interesting thread - is this just when is crowning or can it help in early labour like when you are still in the privacy of your own home?

 

[NetsaBaba]

this is a very interesting thread - is this just when is crowning or can it help in early labour like when you are still in the privacy of your own home?

It can help through every stage of labour to relax you if youre up to it

 

[xprincessx]

i dont want to orgasm as my son enters the world...in my opinion it sounds a bit wrong to mix the two...and also as a previous poster said i dont want him to come out covered in my "juices" x