I can't do it..

[Serene123]

She was fine. I read her a story in her cot and she was happy as larry. Then I tried to leave her.. She screamed and screamed and screamed!! I left her for 10 minutes, went back in, gave her a cuddle, laid her back down, put her mobile on, walked back out, she screamed anymore. By this point I'm devistated, standing their in tears, and I just can't do it.

 

[x-amy-x]

sorry your having a hard time hun xx

 

[Ema]

Aw hunni

really dont know what to say no-one lieks to see there baby upset. I know you've maybe tried it but what about puttin her in and staying in the room sorting stuff out but just ignore her, i do this with jacob when he's being fussy but he knows im there and eventually falls asleep. XxxX

 

[Serene123]

I know it's meant to be hard but she isn't even used to me leaving her with someone else, let alone all on her own!

 

[x-amy-x]

Why not get her to sleep with you and then move her? its a start

 

[alio]

aww darlin.... it will be hard to break that routine.... i know what you mean.... fin sleeps in his own cot until 3am and then wakes up and screams to come in with me. i try and leave him but i'm too soft. try keep at it. east to say hey?!

 

[Serene123]

Well after that I sat in there with her, with her in her cot, and she just kept shouting "mum" "mum" "mum" and crying Blergh!

 

[ryder]

Sorry it didn't work out... tbh I think you shoudn't bother trying it again unless your going to stick to the routine... being on and off again with it is only going to make it worse. Personally I think a good routine would help with her temper and biting etc... im only making this observation based on what you've posted.

 

[AppleBlossom]

hun. Grace was the same. It is hard and it feels like it's hopeless and will never work but keep at it and it will, I promise you! Maybe sit next to her cot and sing to her to calm her down and every so often move nearer to the door? Does she have any kind of comforter? Like a blanket or teddy? (your boob doesn't count lol)

 

[AC81]

It must be so hard hearing her say mum!!! When I got Erin going to bed on her own (she still comes in with me some nights) it was very hard for the first few nights. What about doing the pick up put down? pick her up when she cries, get her settled, then put her back down - you do have to repeat this though until she falls asleep and will kill your back but does work.

Good luck and don't worry if you can't go through with it, just try it again in a week or so. xx

 

[Serene123]

It doesn't help when I have people going "she's scared, stop being cruel." I did have every intention of sticking to it but someone upset me and I couldn't do it anymore. Some of us don't have support and it is hard doing EVERYTHING on your own.

 

[Ema]

XxX

 

[x-amy-x]

It doesn't help when I have people going "she's scared, stop being cruel." I did have every intention of sticking to it but someone upset me and I couldn't do it anymore. Some of us don't have support and it is hard doing EVERYTHING on your own.

Its not cruel hun. She will get it one day, she just loves her mummy and is used to sleeping with you xx

 

[AppleBlossom]

It's not cruel, she has to learn to sleep on her own. She is just so used to being with you and new things confuse babies sometimes. They will make you feel horribly guilty and I suppose her saying mum makes you feel worse. But you can do it. I did it all on my own

 

[1st_baby]

OK my pc turned off while I was writing this lol ..as I was saying ..

I started maxim in his cot and routine at 3 months , It took allot of me sanity and all but after 10 min of crying he calmed down ..It did take about 2 weeks for him to get used to his own time but what you need to remember is your daughter will need to learn independence on her own as your a single mom your already shown her how strong you must be and your doing a great job at it

But that being said she needs to have HER time , and yes right now your her only true friend but try to give her something that makes it seem like mom is not here but is here type thing ..example ..I bought a nice teddy for maxim and slept with it a few times ..and now its his sleep friend as it smells like me ..trust me something so silly can actually help you ..

Just as mentioned before don't give up ..routine is so important for your LO and you .

 

[alice&bump]

aaw hun, try not to listen to people who say its cruel. its not doing her any harm, she's just crying cos she's not used to it.

it's horrible when people try to tell hyou how to look after them and that you're wrong.

does she have a cot mobile? katie loves hers and it calms her right down, she knows its sleep time then xx

 

[Serene123]

She has a mobile and the 3 teddies that always sleep with us are now in there!

I will try putting her in there after she's asleep, but I seriously don't think I can do this!

 

[Ema]

you can hunni XxxX

 

[1st_baby]

You can do it sweetie ! your so strong ..

Do you have the ocean wonders aquarium there in the UK , I found it worked wonders with max and its so soothing ..he loves crickets and ocean waves

 

[AppleBlossom]

Be brave Toria! it will happen eventually, it took me a good 3 weeks to establish a routine. Grace used to cry and cry and always had to be put in bed awake but she wouldn't go to sleep till 10.30 which left me no time for myself. I tried everything I could think of the first week and had no luck. I felt so horrible for not picking her up when she cried but I knew in the long run it would pay off for the both of us and it really has. Stick to your guns, it WILL be hard but if you keep at it you'll do it!

Edit: Grace has a rainforest sounds mobile. It has lights on and music with rainforest noises, it's a miracle worker, I'd definately recommend it!