I can't do it..

[Vickie]

you CAN do it but it takes time to establish a good routine.

 

[PitBullMommy]

I'm so sorry she gave you a hard time, I hope it gets better!

 

[Linzi]

It is really hard hun. Is there no one who can help to take over for a bit? Your mum or sister or a friend?

The only way I get through it is by leaving Matt to deal with it. He's so much more calm than me. I have to go downstairs and do the dishes or something because I can't bear it. We've been doing it months now and I still can't.



xxx

 

[Rachiebaby24]

where does she sleep when she has a nap.....with maley we put her in her cot so she is used to sleeping in there for a few hours....hopefully when we put her in there for the night she will be used to it....

hpe it goes well and she sleeps in there all content

 

[Sarah88]

You need to do whats best for you hun. All the best and we are all here for you!

 

[nikky0907]

It's really hard, and Lola was exactly like this when I was putting her in her own room... would just cry each time I tried to leave her.

It takes some time for them to get used to it but you need to stick with it. Establish a routine and go with it every night. It won't happen immidietely, it took Lola about a week and she was much younger than Caitlyn.

 

[emma_27]

You can do it. I couldnt leave Benn crying either it just didnt work for us but what i did in the end was stayed in the room with him stroking his hair for a few nights then i just stood in the room right next to his cot for a few nights then i moved closer to the door for a few nights and when it was time to leave the room i just stood behind it and everytime i heard him get up i went in and lay him down. I tried not to talk to him or give him eye contact and in the end it got to the point where i could leave him and id done it without him crying. This time round im abit tougher with Ellie i try my best not to leave her crying but in the day time its impossible she wants me to breastfeed her to sleep so i put her in the cot and leave her with the mobile on and only go to her if shes really screaming and its slowly working its took 3 weeks but for the last few days shes not cried at all when ive put her down and gone straight off. Keep at it hun you will do the right thing us moms know whats best for our babies.

 

[ryder]

It doesn't help when I have people going "she's scared, stop being cruel." I did have every intention of sticking to it but someone upset me and I couldn't do it anymore. Some of us don't have support and it is hard doing EVERYTHING on your own.

It is definately NOT cruel... Establishing a good routine and proper bedtime is probably the best thing you can do for a child and will benefit Caitlin so much. Even babies, Caitlin is at the age where she is beginning to understand things, she is learning what words mean too.

Here are some good pointers and info on why routines are important:
https://www.babycenter.com/0_establishing-a-bedtime-routine-with-your-baby_1507759.bc


Of course you need to do what you think is the best.

 

[ryder]

BTW, I do everything alone too I may have an OH... but he works midnights, sleeps most of Jasmines wakeful hours and unfortunately doesnt get a good opportunity to help out.

 

[brownhairedmom]

You can do it! Renah adjusted after a couple of nights but I moved her at 6 weeks.

Are you letting her nap in her crib in the daytime? Maybe let her play there sometimes when you're doing other things in the room to let her get used to being in there?

I know its difficult sweetie but if you don't do it now you're going to end up with a 3 year old in your bed still! The longer you keep her there the harder it is.

Do you have some sort of crib musical thing with lights so that she doesn't feel so alone?

 

[sabby52]

If you dont think you can do it them maybe you should leave it for a while, and it most defo. is not CRUEL I have done it with Dec and it worked well, I found myself crying along with him but he had to be done and now his routine is back.
I do EVERYTHING on my own to, yes I am married but OH works 6-7 days a week then he works a different job Tuesday and Sunday nights so he is hardly ever here, you just need to start a routine and stick to it, if she cries she cries, if you keep starting different routines and not sticking to them she will know she has the upper hand and will play you for all she can, ALL babies are smart little beings and they will try everything to be in charge, you just dont let them.

 

[doctordeesmrs]

How'd it go?

 

[oOKayOo]

You can do it!! Stick to it thats all that will make it work , not only will she be in a routine , she will soon sleep better and you will also have a better sleep!

Sadly in alot of cases because she co sleeps and she has done for all that time , its going to take ahwile for her to get used to just her in the cot. It will be hard to watch , but its 100% worth it!

Image in your head a 3 even 4 year old having to still sleep with u? Wouldnt like that Best to nip it in the bud while she is young. Not cruel whats so ever

If you need any advice or support just ask , i also do everything alone as OH works all day and night, so i know what its like

 

[Serene123]

I can't do it

She bloody climbed into my bed with me Think I will have to put the mattress on the lowest setting, it's already second to bottom.

 

[oOKayOo]

I had to put Ella crib lowest aswell , best bet and try again tonight

 

[Serene123]

I think I'll take the laid back approach this week, then tough love next weekend when I have my friend here to help me.. That sounds bad but she offered

 

[reallytinyamy]

I still get Chloe to sleep with me then put her in her cot. Now she will settle herself if she wakes up. Its awful but persevere and do whats best for you- I keep getting told I shouldnt get Chloe to sleep before I put her in, but I dont care!!

Hope it works out soon

 

[ryder]

I think I'll take the laid back approach this week, then tough love next weekend when I have my friend here to help me.. That sounds bad but she offered

Glad you will have some help! But seriously, DO NOT keep starting things you arn't willing to stick to... The more you do that, the harder it is going to get. She is old enough to start understanding when she has got you whipped. And thats when she is going to be screaming etc, because she knows you will give in.

I already moved Jasmines mattress to the lowest setting! It is so dangerous not to once they begin to sit up and stand!

 

[marley2580]

What about ditching the cot and getting a bed instead? We moved Kaya from our bed into her own single bed and it meant that at first we could lie do with her and get her off to sleep before leaving. This really helped her to get used to sleeping in her own bed, and meant that we didn't have to listen to her cry. We showed her how to get off of the bed and how to come through to our room.

Another option would be to put a mattress on the floor of your room, I know a lot of co-sleepers do this as a halfway measure

 

[ryder]

I have a feeling since Caitlin climbed out of her crib... a noral bed wouldnt stop her from doing that