I dont know if I can keep being nice to him

[SophiasMummy]

Well my LO is 8 mnths old her dad didnt bother seeing her till I told him he had to start seeing her or he wuldnt ever see her when she was 6 weeks old and hes only seen her around 15 times in total, she was seriously ill and spent the first 5 days of her life in neonatal when I told him she was really ill in hospital he just sed 'i hope shes ok' no visits or anything! Oh and hes never paid anything for her he didnt even buy her a xmas present, we fell out a couple weeks ago as he canceled again but this time we had waited in half the day for him as he text me in the morning saying he was coming then didnt text til 1 with more crappy excuses, all that day I could of taken my LO out to baby club etc, his family always email me about her when they see pictures of her etc and go on about how much her dad loves her and talks about her all the time (his family have never met my LO), to top it all off him and his gf who has a daughter thats a month older than my LO that isnt FOB were telling all his family last week that my daughter was going to stay overnite at his gfs house with them (baring in mind sophias dad has never had her by himself at all and never even fed her or changed her nappy), he only came up with this blatent lie so he could then say a wuldnt let him have her and make me out to be the bad person to his family again, urgh sorry about the rant im just so sick of his lies and really cant deal with him anymore he hasnt seen sophia in over a month and she doesnt really even know who he his, im so angry at him I just wish he would sort his bloody priorities out and stop messing my daughter about!

 

[AbbynChloe]

God - Priorities. I don't understand why their Children, their own flesh and blood will not be a priority for them??

i'm Sorry sweetie - they're really should be put on a planet somwhere far far away and shot! imo anyways xxxxxx

 

[TiredNurse27]

Maybe make a rule that it's every weekend or no weekends?

I wish I had done this when my LO was smaller, now he's attached to FOB and he thinks he can take the piss missing weeks at a time.

 

[TiredNurse27]

Maybe make a rule that it's every weekend or no weekends?

I wish I had done this when my LO was smaller, now he's attached to FOB and he thinks he can take the piss missing weeks at a time.

 

[SophiasMummy]

He works (apperently) 2 jobs though says he has no money, he says he works all weekend but I think he actually spends it with his gf so he says he will always come down when he has a day off, but if I dont contact him asking when hes next coming then I dont hear anything from him at all, ive decided im not contacting him anymore and its his job to contact me about seeing her instead, ive tried for 8 months to get him to see her regularly by contaccting him everyweek, sso I think now its up to him at least I can say to sophia when shes older that I did try. One of my male friends actually sees sophia more than her own dad does im sure if I stuck her in a room with both of them she wouldnt go to her dad

 

[Kacie]

I think you are right.. you've done everything you can and tried all you can. Don't worry about what he is saying to his friends and family.. They'll believe whatever they want to believe, even if it is so obviously lies, no matter what you do or say. (Sorry it's harsh but it's true, the ex is always seems to be painted as the bad one no matter what). If he isn't contacting you about her then you shouldn't have to keep pushing him to. You and your daughter deserve so much better.

I can't believe he can be with someone with a baby and yet not show any interest in his own child. But I also think it's better that he shows his true colours now before your LO is old enough to remember it.

I agree with the others.. give him set contact.. every other weekend (or whenever's convenient).. take it or leave it. If he leaves it then he's made his choice as awful as that is but you can't keep living around him the whole time.

I hope things work out ok

xxx

 

[expecting09]

I agree with the other girls, sounds like he just wants to see LO when it suits him.

If you can both talk rationally I would sit him down and explain LO needs structure, arrange a day and time, and for how long, and if he doesn't stick to it he knows where he can go!

 

[SophiasMummy]

Thanks for the advice girls, unfortuniatly its impossible to talk to him about anything generally but I will try thats if he ever bothers to make contact again which isnt seeming likely at the moment xx