I Dont know wht to do...Im scared.

[Blonde_Mommy]

so my mom is saying that since the legal age of consent just went up to 16...she can force me to get an abortion or give it up for adoption and she said she will do it. i dont know what to do cause neither me or my OH wants to do either. we want to keep our baby and raise her....

 

[Blob]

Nobody can force you to do anything, its your baby. No doctors are going to give their permission to that!? They cant make you have an abortion without your consent!!

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Yes the age of consent is 16 but they CANNOT make you do anything you dont want to do!!!
Age of consent means if you say yes or no to the person your about to have sex with not wether to keep your baby or not !!

Winds me up that !!

*BIG HUGS* xxx

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

im just so confused cause she is saying alot of stuff and like i still live there but im not considered her child anymore...and yet i wont qualify for any means of financial help apparently cuz my dad makes too much money(even if im not living with them) if i keep it me and my boyfriend get kicked out but if i dont...i will never forgive myself.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Nobody can force you to do anything hun especially to have an abortion x

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

shes just telling me like all that stuff and then saying im irresponsible and i planned it..i wanted it but i didnt plan it..

 

[Carley]

Don't worry she can not make you do anything you do not want. You should go talk to someone.

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

She cant make you do anything hun. You need to get some help and find out what your rights are someone will be able to help you.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Once you move out your parents income has nothing to do with what you will get. In fact.. when you live under their roof, it doesn't, either. She is being the manipulative Mum. How old are you? Are you at school? Do you have a teacher/older friend at all who you can get to help you, because believe me hun money etc is all so confusing even when you are older that we could all use some support You Mum can't make you do a thing, if she takes you to the doctors and says she wants you to have an abortion, if you don't want one, you sit there and you tell the doctor you don't consent. They can't carry out medical procedures (esp. sexual health related ones) without your consent.
Best of luck xx

 

[aSh_x0x]

dont worry hun, if you've made up the decision to not have an abortion, no1 can force you into having one. NOONE! so dont worry about that. but if your 100% sure on having this baby, you need to be aware that by the sounds of it..your mum isnt going to be there for you to support you through this, i think i read you were 15 in another forum? well, you need to figure out if you are going to continue at school (if you go to school) you will need to find a place to live, if your mother isnt letting you live with her..you really need to go to an adult, someone that can help you through this difficult time. Im not sure where your from..but where i live we have this thing called centerlink. They will give you money fortnightly because you live out of home and your a mother..you will get additional money if you continue your studdies. Some schools..not many, but i no of some that have childcare facilities within the school designed so teenage mothers can continue there high school studies without worrying about day care and things like that. Look into all these options..but just no, that there are always going to be options for you, no matter how many people turn on you or do not support your decision..there are some people in this world that will help you in this time of need.
best wishes, and i hope you mum comes around..
xx

 

[mBLACK]

I'm 15 and under the age of consent too, and there's nothing anybody can do to make me give up my baby. I'm pretty sure there is absoloutely NOTHING she can do. If you want to keep it, you can keep it, nobody can make you have an abortion or give him/her up for adoption. I know here in Canada Child + Family Services gets involved if you're under the age of 18, and they keep a close eye on you.. But here they would never take your baby away from YOU, they'd bring you with the baby, and the age of consent HERE means that if you're under that age then you can't have sex with anybody over the age of consent. (Ex: I am 14. The age of consent is 16, and the boy I had sex with is 15. There's nothing they can do about it, whereas if I were 14 and he was 16 he could get charged for statutory rape)
That's just an example. Hope everything gets worked out with you and your mom.

 

[TashaAndBump]

Hunny you really need to talk to someone objective who can support you and give you all the facts - I'm sorry to say it but your mother is feeding you lies; She cannot force you to do anything you do not want to with YOUR baby. Also, you will be entitled to financial help regardless of your parents income.

Please make an appointment to discuss all of this with your doctor, or go and talk to a teacher who you trust.

I really wish you all the best in your future - please keep us updated with everything x

[edit: Also, hun, your mother will most likely come to terms with your pregnancy and start to be more supportive once she knows that you are keeping it and there's nothign she can do to stop you...]

 

[nikky0907]

What is she gonna do? Grab your hair,take you to the abortion clinic and then chainn you to the bed while some nurse holds you down and the doctor is terminating your pregnancy?

Please,nobody can do that.
The age of consent means that it's the age from which you're allowed to have sex with a person that is above that age.

For example,over here is 18 and If I was 17,my baby's dad who is 20 could be charged for statutory rape(although I'm 18 and I'm legal)...It's not the age where parents treat you like a puppet and you do what they say or you go to jail....

It's time for your mom to realises that her daughter is not a baby,she's having a baby and will have to grow up very fast and very soon...
And you made your decision,it's the decision that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life and if you're aware of that than your growing up process has began...

 

[~KACI~]

Are you UK? Wasn't sure? Citizens Advice or the Job Centre could tell you what help you might be able to get, if your 15 like i think i read there are a some things you can't get until your 16 but if your partner is over 16 then anything you can't claim- like tax credits for instance, he would be able to claim. Hope this helps and hopefully your mum will come round to the idea x x

 

[7WZ]

If you are worried about financial things and housing then you would be best going job centre or CAB(citizen advice burea) I don't know what you're entitled to but you will get help.

 

[polo_princess]

I cant believe your mum tried to pull a stunt like that on you im shocked!!

But like the others have said nobody can force you to do anything, its your body, your baby, your decision

 

[YummyMummy]

im just so confused cause she is saying alot of stuff and like i still live there but im not considered her child anymore...and yet i wont qualify for any means of financial help apparently cuz my dad makes too much money(even if im not living with them) if i keep it me and my boyfriend get kicked out but if i dont...i will never forgive myself.

i live with my mum and i still get financial help even though my mum earns to much, cause its about u supporting ur child nt ur parents, try and speak 2 a adviser n see what help u can get.. xx no1 can force you to do anything u dont want to, wen i was 1st pregnant my mum wanted me 2 have an abortion but now shes excited she just needs time to get to terms with the situation, hun jus do wat u want its ur body & ur baby xx

 

[Danielle]

no one can tell you to do anything, your the one carrying the baby and your the mom, you can do what you want, maybe give your mom time, my mom sed she was going to send me to get an abortion but shes come round and is really excited now, im sure your mom will come round to!

good luck with everything

 

[Novbaby08]

Go live with your bf then. Raise the baby with him.

 

[mynamescharly]

What is she gonna do? Grab your hair,take you to the abortion clinic and then chainn you to the bed while some nurse holds you down and the doctor is terminating your pregnancy?

Please,nobody can do that.
The age of consent means that it's the age from which you're allowed to have sex with a person that is above that age.

For example,over here is 18 and If I was 17,my baby's dad who is 20 could be charged for statutory rape(although I'm 18 and I'm legal)...It's not the age where parents treat you like a puppet and you do what they say or you go to jail....

It's time for your mom to realises that her daughter is not a baby,she's having a baby and will have to grow up very fast and very soon...
And you made your decision,it's the decision that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life and if you're aware of that than your growing up process has began...

you stole the words out of my mouth.

in the UK if your under 16 your boyfriend/partner can be arrested charged and sometimes imprisioned if your parent decides to press charges.

and sorry but what she is saying about her having the choice about your baby is utter bollocks!!!! omg thats made me soooo angry!!

We live in the 21st centuary now!! its all about freedom of speech and expression. to be able to live your life as you wish not to be dictated by our elders who think they know what is best for us when they know diddly squit!!


(kinda makes me sound a bit hippyish there talking about freedom of speech and such ha ha)

xx