I don't want to be single :(

[Jennifurball]

I can't help but feel jealous of couples now, going to baby clubs, the doctors etc and their partners come with them and I am alone, I just feel like crying.

I hate having such an uncertain future, I want someone to share my life with and to feel loved.

 

[KayBea]

youve got your Princess



i know how you feel though! xxxx

 

[whatwillbe]

I know that feeling it was really sad going to my scans alone and seeing happy couples together, but you will meet your prince and forget this tough time x

 

[teal]

 

[Jennifurball]

Thank you, I am desperate to meet someone new and feel normal again.

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

I feel the same way... But then I realize that if fob and I were together sure he'd be at the appts and all but it would be nothing but bickering!

I'd rather go it alone then give him the pleasure of bickering and having control over me and LO.

 

[Jennifurball]

You are right, I remember once ex came with me for a scan, then I had to see the midwife afterwards for a blood test, as you prob know, these things take ages waiting about and he really kicked off at me to the point where the midwife took me aside checking if I was ok. It was embarrassing. I couldn't take him anywhere in fear of him showing me up. I need to remember this.

 

[Dezireey]

I used to feel like this until I really started watching these couples (you dont notice them before because its not a sore point) and I have to admit, whether it was at the supermarket, Docs, restaurants, high street etc, nearly half looked miserable, bickered or argued and in some cases, some of the men looked like they wanted to be anywhere but there. Soooo, not everyone is as happy as they look in their little happy families and we all know that not every relationship is perfect. Dont lose heart, you'll meet someone one day and you will be glad that you found someone that loves you and vice versa

 

[Jennifurball]

Thank you. That made me feel better. I know the majority of couples have problems, especially with a LO, I guess after being in such a bad relationship, it is better to be alone and unhappy with the potential to find someone, rather than sticking with someone who makes you sad, just so you can say you have someone.

 

[Brionybaby]

I know the feeling, when i take Scarlett out to farms, zoo's etc its just family's and makes me feel like crap! I don't think i'm ready to meet someone new and I know FOB is an arsehole but now FOB is single i keep picturing us all together taking scarlett places

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I just remember that ex-oh would most likely be being horrible to me anyway if he was there. I am happier without him. He was no help to me with anything. But I do totally feel the way you do too! I keep seeing fb updates from people saying how lovely their oh is to them, I've never been treated that nicely boo.

 

[kirsteen]

Me and FOB have really split now we were gonna wait to split properly when I moved but now I'm staying at my mums
I'm so lonely, I don't want to be by myself.. i feel like I might of well of just stayed with him and been unhappy than been unhappy and alone
pffft
I know how you feel hun, sending you big hugs x

 

[Jennifurball]

Thanks. Even now I wish I was still with him, even if he was shouting at me. I just can't imagine being with anyone else. Even though things were mostly bad, it felt like we were meant to be together for some reason. Even he said we would be together forever and now I am crying again. It will kill me when he meets someone else.

 

[nolansmom]

I understand wanting to have someone by your side but have you considered all of the completely miserable couples with children who are going to the Zoo and parading around as happy? My own mother who had 4 children and was married for 45 years told me in no uncertain terms that being single with child is "easier" than married with child. Yes some men are good husbands and father **Some** but few. You don't have to do extra laundry or iron suits or deal with a man who has wandering eyes right in front of you. It could be that I am bitter and jaded but I just don't come across many super fantastic men who seem worth all their hassle. In 2012 there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single with child and maybe you should "own" your life and make no excuses for it. The hours those couples spend arguing and bickering and complaining about each other - worrying if the other is cheating etc.. Ughhh, dreadful..

 

[Jennifurball]

I understand wanting to have someone by your side but have you considered all of the completely miserable couples with children who are going to the Zoo and parading around as happy? My own mother who had 4 children and was married for 45 years told me in no uncertain terms that being single with child is "easier" than married with child. Yes some men are good husbands and father **Some** but few. You don't have to do extra laundry or iron suits or deal with a man who has wandering eyes right in front of you. It could be that I am bitter and jaded but I just don't come across many super fantastic men who seem worth all their hassle. In 2012 there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single with child and maybe you should "own" your life and make no excuses for it. The hours those couples spend arguing and bickering and complaining about each other - worrying if the other is cheating etc.. Ughhh, dreadful..

Thank you.

That WAS my life. There was no trust at all and I was not happy at all really, I just tried to be.

 

[RaRalalala]

I know everyone says 'you're better off without them' but it is true! If me and fob had been together I would of been worse off, he has nothing to do with LO so if I hadn't ended it I have a feeling I would still of been left holding the baby constantly and I would of possibly ended up resenting LO. This way there is just you and your little girl and no stress from fob! But I do know how you feel, we all want to find that special someone, guess we just have to wait a little while longer

 

[DragonTamer]

I think I may be part of the minority here. My ex and I had an awesome relationship, we were excited to be bringing our son into the world and had this great future planned for our family and then 3 weeks ago that all changed. He was accused of something awful and was arrested. He's been in Jail awaiting his arraignment with an outragious bond that no average person could ever afford. Being the charges are so severe and carry a very stiff punishment I pretty much had no choice but to leave him. I didn't want to, he didn't want me to but I can't be a "prison wife" I still cry everyday and wish this nightmare would end but know that I will most likely have to raise our son with zero help. It hurts and I feel lost but I'm trying to figure things out. I haven't been single in 5 years and its going to take some getting used to.

 

[Jennifurball]

I am sorry to hear that. Must be so hard. Although mine is a different situation, I was with him 5 years too and it takes a lot of getting used to when you are on your own practically overnight. Once you adjust and accept this is your life, it does get easier and you just get on with it.