i feel like a horrible person i hated my sister in law today :(

[kdutra]

BINGO thats my life. Ive asked my OH loads of times if hes sure this is what he wants cos he doesnt seem bothered or excited he keeps saying he will be excited when iam pregnant but i suppose its not there bodys that are going through it they have nothing to watch every second of the month for signs so i suppose it must be hard for them to get as into it as us but thats just my opinion my OH hasnt comfirmed any of that for me haha

I reckon that's the case with my OH! He just kinda smiles and nods when I talkto him about it but I reckon that when I do get me BFP he will be over the moon... only problem is is that the way he acts at the minute makes me unsure if it's a good idea. I've told him this but it doesn't change how he acts... men are frustrating!!

It must be a man thing, My husband is the same way. I know that having a baby is what he wants just as bad as me but for some reason he can controll himself better then i can, and im sure its because my moods are just swinging lately! He is my Rock.

 

[BH040]

DOn't feel bad, I hate my sister in law every day! Lol that's sounds bad but it's truE! I can't stand my soon to be mother in law either.

 

[Lenny]

It's a perfectly normal reaction. It's if it lingers on too long or that you never feel happy for her through out the entire pregnancy that should dig deeper into what may truly be going on with you in regards to all this.

I've gone through this...hurt...down feelings...not wanting to be bothered. 3 people close to me found out they were preggers around the same time. It made me feel like a failure. But after about a week or so I was back at it and still happy for them overall. I logged on here. I was happy for everyone especially my bnb buddies who became pregnant but for some reason these three in my personal life just hit really hard.

It will pass. You will have your moments. Keep your head up. I know it seems unfair, but everything happens in its time. Your day will come. Wishing the best for you hon!

iam feeling a bit better now i did try to avoid her a little bit last week cos it was the first time i would have seen her but she phoned me and asked if she could come round of course i said yes and i was ok i was kinda shocked how ok i felt she didnt talk about her pregnancy much actually i think she was trying to keep a lid on it cos she nos me and OH are trying so i was grateful for that lol but i think it was mostly me bombarding her with questions lol

 

[ellielou]

Hi.

My brother and his fiancé started trying in march and yesterday, she was telling me how hard it is to get pregnant, and how dissapointed she feels every month. Me and my OH been trying for two years and one month. So I am totally annoyed at her!!
I feel horrible too, but it is not fair on us who suffer from our deprivation.
I understand entirely.

Xxx

 

[mg80]

Don't feel bad, I too hate my SIL! We planned to try on honeymoon. She announced she was pregnant with her third on my WEDDING DAY! I was pissed that she had stolen our thunder. Then the smug cow sent my DH his birthday card in March with the message: "congratulations, by the time this card reaches you you'll be an uncle for THE THIRD TIME!!!!!!" - meanwhile we're still trying, I could've strangled her! We couldn't give a toss about him being an uncle, we want him to be a daddy!!! Grr.

 

[Armywife84]

Don't feel bad, I too hate my SIL! We planned to try on honeymoon. She announced she was pregnant with her third on my WEDDING DAY! I was pissed that she had stolen our thunder. Then the smug cow sent my DH his birthday card in March with the message: "congratulations, by the time this card reaches you you'll be an uncle for THE THIRD TIME!!!!!!" - meanwhile we're still trying, I could've strangled her! We couldn't give a toss about him being an uncle, we want him to be a daddy!!! Grr.

What an ignorant, ungrateful cow!!! Who the heck sends a birthday card announcing their pregnancy in it??

 

[Kristofel]

Hey hun - My soon to be sister in law just had her lil girl a few days ago.
She tried once a little while after her 16th and just got it first time round while I have been trying for the last 2 years.

In other words - I know EXACTLY how this feels.
It sucks, we have to stick smiles on our faces and just be happy theres another little life coming into the world.

 

[JaanRuk]

awwe hun your not alone! we all feel like that once in a while its completely normal! its all such an emotional roller coaster i wish you baby dust!!

 

[Princess24]

You are not a horrible person i promise. Envy gets the best of us all. I work with a girl due aug 9th so for 3mo ive had to watch her get bigger and bigger and i couldnt help but hate her. Just seeing her on the schedule the same day as me pissed me off. Plus im a server so ateast once a week i get to see a new preggo woman and i just want to cry. Ive gotten stuck with the baby tables and my neighbor's son just up and decided to start bringing his new born over. I pride myself on being a good person and i love kids (elem edu major) but ive been making myself sick with the mean things in my head. I am able to keep it locked up and tell myself there is no need to be jealous. Its just not my time yet but soon. (like this month i hope lol). Best of luck and baby dust. Go find your sil and gie her a big hug. You never know you could be bump buddies for one and just imagine how scared she is preggo unexpected @ 18 & 19. No job and a newlywed. She needs you.

 

[MrsRalphie]

I'm so with all of you! I have watched SIL get preggo twice now, and it has broken my heart in two... twice! I just call her fertile Myrtle to her face... She laughs it off. Frankly that's the way I can deal with it! Baby dust to us all!