I feel like a horrible sister...

[his.baby.mama]

I'm 19 & Due in January. I have 2 sisters, 20 and 23. My eldest sister just told me she's pregnant with her 2nd child. I'm happy for her but I'm kind of full with Mixed Emotions. I feel bad for being upset that she TTC when I was pregnant & tried to have her baby so close to mine. I feel like her children will be favored more because she lives literally down the street from my parents. Growing up our grandparents had a huge favoring of the grandchildren, & my sisters & i clearly did not make the cut. I don't want that happening with my child. I don't want it to wonder why it's cousins have more stuff, or gets more attention, like we did. And my other sister lives in North Caorlina, across the country from us, & planned on coming out in february (i'm due jan 30) to come see my bundle of joy, but now she'll be waiting until April to see my other sister's as well. This wouldn't bother me as much if I wasn't super close with her. We were inseperable all throuhgt jr high & high school. I wanted her here thru everything. & Now I have to wait even longer to share my baby with her. I don't know if it's my hormones or what, but it all just makes me sad. I feel like this just started a big competition, like my sister will be waiting for her kid to do something before mine, or something. I feel stupid for even feeling bad...i just needed to rant a little!

 

[amandad192]

Didn't want to read and run.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

 

[divershona]

didnt want to r 'n' r but i'm sure things will settle down and hopefully you'll feel better soon

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Didn't want to read and run either. I can see why you are a little upset.. but I'm sure it will come right in the end. Chin up

xoxox

 

[17thy]

I completely understand. I found out I was pregnant in March. Then less than a month later, my husband's step-sister announces she is pregnant, THEN 2 months after that, his OTHER step-sister announces SHE's also pregnant. I feel bad, because I think that their children are going to get more attention because of my husband's stepdad. I totally feel like i was pushed out of the loop because of them, and yes, I am jealous.
And I know this sounds really bad, but I hope my daughter is way prettier than their children lmao. I know she's healthier already. Both of his sisters chain-smoke cigarettes still, and one of them smokes a ton of weed on a daily basis.

 

[MommyMika]

I'm pregnant at the same time as my sister, too! My sister is due at the end of December, and I'm due at the start of April... so yes, I was the one who got pregnant second lol but it was a surprise pregnancy...!

Another thing that's similar... my grandparents definitely had favourites, and my sister and I were definitely not in that group... so I know how you feel!

My sister and I are actually both thrilled to be preggers at the same time, so I thought I would pop in and let you know the good points we've found about it so far

First, it's fun to compare symptoms with someone who has the same background as you... plus it's nice to have an honest answer to "is this baby name good?" or "what do you think of this crib?"

It's nice to have someone close to you who's going through the exact same thing, and is truely interested in the same things you are at the moment!

My sister has also been looking at sales for mat clothes, and even grabbed a bunch for me while she was at one store... bonus!!!

and the best part of all... the cousins can grow up together

You might feel frusterated now, but look at the bright side... it's a super bright side

Also, not be be negitive... but if a grandchild is not a favourite, I don't think it's because he/she was born at the same time as another... you know??

My sister is BlueHorizons if you want to ask her 'first sister pregnant' opinion on the matter, she'd love to chat about it!!!

HUGS!

 

[Tanara]

honestly its what you make of it instead of looking at oh my poor kid, look at it like awesome my child as a cousin the same age.

My OH's cousin is due in nov, im due in jan and his other cousins fiance is due in march. I couldnt be happier about it, ill spoile my children and give them enough love and attention it wont matter who does and doesnt, im just happy that she is going to have 2 cousins togrow up with.

 

[his.baby.mama]

I feel much better now that i've talked to my sister. We are glad our children will grow up close. Our other sister doesn't plan on having children for a long time, and there will be a huge age gap so they might not be as close! She's due on my OH's 21st birthday!!
I think my hormones were getting the best of me, plus i was worried about my other sister, Ash, not being there for my baby's birth. My eldest sister,Amber and I both want her there & she doen't have enough money to go both times. But sadly my sisters are in a huge fight, so now my will come to my baby's birth but not my other sister's. Which makes me feel sad, but it was my pregnant sister's decision anyways...just hormones are really getting the best of me!!

 

[QuintinsMommy]

glad everything worked out I was going to tell you to sit down and talk to her about how you feel, because sometimes people don't know ... anyway you already did that

 

[his.baby.mama]

Thanks! Ya my sister knew how I felt right after she told me, she said she tried putting herself in my shoes, & she wanted to make it clear that it can be about both of us, and all the good about having little ones so close in age!

 

[MommyMika]

Glad everything's worked out hun

Hopefully they won't be fighting for long

 

[his.baby.mama]

I hope they won't but my eldest sister doesn't put up with the bull my other sister gives out. She can be mad forever, but i'm hoping her hormones work against her!

 

[amylou1992]

i know how you feel about been pregnant around the same time as your sister., in my case it's past tense now but it caused alot of arguements and upset amongst my family, which i truley wished had never happened.

my sister was due in early april but had her baby 25th feb,
i then went on to have my baby 2 days later on the 26th feb
and then my OH's sis-in-law had her baby 7 days later on the 27th!

it was pretty upsetting for me at the time finding out my sister had her baby before me. and also shocking th my OH's sis-in-law had her baby the next day.

i just hope they all grow up with a close bond between them.