I feel like a terrible mom.

[Ashley1021]

Ds1 is a little over 2.. we have been having such a rough time with brother coming along. He's a little over a month. He has been acting out terribly. Hitting me, punching me, throwing things at me, trying to bite me etc. he screams and spits in my face. I'm usually good about keeping my cool. Telling him it's not ok etc, showing positive examples but this morning I lost it.

I was trying to get him dressed for daycare, brother was up all night with gas, I was running on two hours of sleep. He was screaming in my face, kicking me. As I was putting his shirt on he smacked me across my face, hard. It left a mark. I don't know what came over me. I instantly swatted his butt and shouted "you don't hit your mother." He burst into tears, as I have never done that before.

I felt so bad I cried myself. I hugged him, told him I was sorry, mommy was frustrated and it is never ok to hit. He said "it's ok mommy" and gave me a kiss.

I've cried all day about this. I'm so worn down with his behavior. I'm thankful I'm getting a night away tonight and dh is staying with the kids but I feel SO guilty.

 

[Parkep]

Aw! Please dont be so hard on yourself. That is a really frustrating situation. Is there anyway you can spend some more one on one time with him? Maybe take him out for a mom and son date?
If you breastfeed, I would usually read a book with the older child. Or cuddle up and watch a movie.

Its just a phase and it will pass.

 

[BlingyGal]

Big, huge hug!

It's the toughest job in the world.

You're trying your very best and want to do the best for your child but kids are strong willed creatures that can push us over the edge! And sometimes we slip up in ways that we aren't proud of. All we can do is learn from them and prevent it from happening again.

 

[Ashley1021]

It is such a tough job! It makes it worse that I'm the only one he does it to. If daddy is home it's all kisses and hugs.. I try to include him in everything I do for his brother. Washing bottles, bath time etc and he just tells me off. He will scream bloody murder anytime I do anything for his brother.

When we go out him and I, he's a perfect little angel. I'm excited to have a night away with friends and Come back with a fresh perspective. It's all so hard and I'm not adjusting well and either is he.

 

[SarahBear]

The important thing is that you took steps to correct the behavior (yours). If you're able to admit your mistake and work to correct it, you are modeling important skills for your child and working to improve your own parenting. "Terrible moms," don't have that skill.

 

[Swiftintent]

Parenting is a very hard job. Don't beat yourself up to much about what's going on. Maybe you can set up a special time even if its for 30 min. reading or something for just you and him to spend together so he can still have that one on one time with you and you guys can talk and spend time doing something he likes? Maybe that will help change his attitude and he can see he is still important to mom just as much as his sibling is. I pray you are able to find some peace in your situation soon. Keep your head up mom

 

[twobecome3]

ive done it! around that age too! just gotta move on

 

[MelH]

Oh gees mommy please don't be so hard on yourself, I am sure we have all had moments that we aren't proud of, i know i have had a few. We are only human and I figure if we do it right 95% of the time we will be forgiven for the 5% we don't do right.

 

[Left wonderin]

I'd love to give you a big hug and a cuppa tea right now . The fact you are upset about it speaks volumes. Give yourself a break , you sound like a great mom . I've a 2 year old , 3 end of feb and a 8 month old ... all I can say is no 2 is a game changer !!! This is by FAR the most challenging thing I have Ever Done in my life !!!! I love being a mum but boy my big by knows how to press my buttons !!!

I have had so many days where I've gone to bed regretting how I handled a situation .... But in the moment its so tough !! I've decided the only thing I can do is get up every day and try my very best to be the type of mum I want to be . Staying calm is so tough sometimes .. Ok alot of times lol...