Basically I feel as if I am either losing touch with my friends, deciding I don't like my friends anymore, or both! I feel really selfish as they were all there for me when things with my ex (the father of my LO) were really bad, although looking back on it all now they weren't really there that much at all. My best friend is in an abusive relationship. I have tried so hard to help her these past 7 months, but she just refuses to help herself. She lives with her boyfriend and if she was to leave would have to go into a hostel, or have 'nothing and no one' as she puts it. He makes her feel as if she would pretty much die without him, that he is the only one who really cares for her and understands her, and blindly she believes him. Just recently he tried to turn her against me, she tried to blame me for him hitting her. She apologised after I called her and defended myself, attributing it to 'just losing her rag' but for me that's not good enough. As everyone keeps so politely telling me, it's not just about me anymore, I have my child to consider, and I don't want this man around my baby. I have no qualms about my best friend babysitting, but only if she is on her own at my house, and right now I'm not sure if I can trust her to keep to that (I have not yet told her my proposal, I'm waiting for the right moment) if she will so willingly attempt to ditch me when her boyfriend clicks his fingers and says the right words. I know that deep down she is vulnerable and needs support instead of people turning their backs on her (Lord knows she's had enough of that), but I am one of the few friends she has left and she shouldn't treat me that way. I am vulnerable myself, but I am not too proud to ask for help, because I know I am in no situation to do so. Nowadays I rarely see or speak to her on the phone without having to talk to him as well, or listen to her try to have a conversation with two people at once. I never see her without him around, she always has something to do with him so I can't find the right oppurtunity to talk to her about this. I know it would offend her as well. I have another friend who is suffering from an eating disorder and other body issues, along with Lupus disease and general depression/low self esteem. I can't help her, I've tried, but she just throws it back in my face. She is another who just refuses to help herself. She indulges in the uni lifestyle, going out drinking and having many sexual partners. Considering she doesn't eat properly and is on tablets for her Lupus (and another unspecified 'potentially fatal' disorder that she hasn't told me the name of) she really shouldn't be doing either. It's like she is on a path to self destruction, she feels she deserves to suffer for 'not being pretty or skinny enough'. There's no point trying to convince her otherwise, she just doesn't listen and goes into one if you do try. However she has the nerve and ordacity to make judgements about me and my choices, and when I get angry about things. I have other friends who I have just lost touch with. They're the types that if they can't talk about getting pissed with you, then they just won't talk to you. I don't know if its just the hormones blowing everything out of proportion, or whether I am slowly coming to the realisation that these people aren't really my friends. All I know is, they said they would be there for me....and they're not.