I feel so evil

[6lilpigs]

Those were lovely words Kala, I hope they themselves bring comfort to angelstardust if she finds she needs to continue on this tragic path.

Angelstardust, my heart goes out to you in such a sad way. Life deals us some wicked blows sometimes. You have to take YOUR life very seriuosly. We lost out mum due to cancer when we were children, some people said that it was because she was so run down with us kids (she had 5). If you was to ask my mum if she could have lived but not had my little brother I'm sure she would have said 'on yer bike' as any mother would say for the children she holds in her arms, but to take the risk for a child which may not make it either knowing you might be leaving your boys devastated, which they will be for a while is a truly difficult decision to make. If it was me, I have no idea what decision I would make, the hope of what might and could be might be too strong a feeling to go against. But the reality of the odds stacked against this pregnancy has to be seriously thought about. Good luck in reaching your final decision I would seek a second opinion just so you know you have looked into every option.

 

[sam76]

im so sorry , i really do not know what i can say, exept where all here for you at anytime xxxxxxxxxxx Take Care

 

[angelstardust]

I went for my termination appointment today...

Got there and had to speak to a nurse who asked 'is this what you really want?' to which I blurted a no. We talked about why and she asked if I had had two normal pregnancies would we be concidering this, my husband and I both answered no. She told us to go for a walk (I was upset) and she would get someone to speak to me.

We were then seen by a consultant (the one in charge of terminations etc) and we spoke to him for a while. He had read my notes and spoken to another consultant who specilises in maternal illnesses. I am so so glad we did. I told him what the other consultant said, that he really only went into detail about the complications last time but didnt actually say outright that he would reccomend a termination. This consultant told me that the complications were to do with the abruption, not the blood pressure.

Anyway, what it boils down to is this, I have a 40% risk of blood pressure problems, but they are manageable. More importantly I only have a 5% risk of another abruption!!!!!!!!! And husband, who was in favour of a termination as he didnt want to loose me, was very releived after speaking to the consultant. A few nights ago I asked him what if I did keep it and he lost his temper a bit, he was so worried, which again this consultant understood saying ofcourse he felt like that, he had to stand around feeling incable of doing anything as I was basically dying.

What a wonderful consultant. He came up with my care plan. I will be under teh specialist he spoke to and seen by my mw every two weeks till 24 weeks, then weekly by the consultant for bp, urine and blood checks and fortnightly scans.

Thank you to everyone who gave words of support, I wish you all happy conceptions and sticky pregnancies!!! 2009 is to be the baby boom year girls!!!!

 

[sparkswillfly]

Thats great news. Im really pleased for you. xxx

 

[becky77]

Oh thats wonderful news i am so thrilled for you, bet your glad to be getting such thorough care ,and so relieved the consultant explained things properly,the other guy has a lot to answer for, all the heartache he has caused you and your dh.
good luck have a happy and healthy 8 months x

 

[Jkelmum]

Thank god for that i am sat here crying thinking how i have ethan a healthy 2 yr old and how at 16 wks they tried to presure me to abort due to my own health risks and that at best i could end up on life support the pregnancy wasnt easy but i am here and so is my son which proves they are not always right
hugs serina xxx

 

[6lilpigs]

I have been wondering how you all were and this is just fantastic news!!!!! Please keep us informed of how you are doing they have a pregnancy journal section here and I know I will be following your progress right up to delivery day!!! Congrats again.

 

[Ivoryapril]

What a wonderful update. You sound like such a caring and wonderful Mum and this baby will be so lucky to have you just like the two you already have. Congratulations and all the luck in the world! x

 

[MrsJD]

Fantastic update

2nd opinions are always worth it!

Congratulations.

XXX

 

[ellie]

phew ... what fab news! bl*ody medics ... i am glad you have found a good one! good luck and hope the rest of your pregnancy is trouble free!

 

[3 girlies]

wow thats fantastic news, i hope everything goes well for you and your family. xxx

 

[Sweetie]

Fab news, so happy for you

 

[superp123]

This is fantastic news hun! I'm so glad for you and your family. Congrats and I hope you have a healthy happy pregnancy.
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[eclipse]

That is wonderful news! I am so glad they are going to watch you so carefully and take good care of you. What responsible, wonderful doctors and nurses you had at that clinic. They should be commended. Seriously. I'm just thrilled for you!!! I hope everything goes well. You stay healthy and don't hesitate to call those docs the second you need them!!

 

[alyxzandra]

This has been such fantastic news. I am so glad that the consultant gave you a better prognosis. It is always best to go for a second opinion. I am looking forward to hearing that you gave birth to a lovely little girl. Good luck!!!

 

[esther]

I'm really sorry to hear about this, but support your decision 100%. All the best

 

[shoesnob]

I am very relieved to hear about your second opinion!!!! Thank God you are not stopping that little heart.

 

[dan-o]

Wow, so glad to read this update! Amazing! xx

 

[loz]

i think its heartbreaking the decision you have to make but i think even though i dont agree with terminations i would do the same in your position. you have 2 kids to look after. i just could not risk leaving mine without a mother. my heart goes out to you x x

 

[loz]

sorry hun just read your recent new. thats great news really pleased for you x x