I feel so let down

[mummytobe]

I chose my maid of honpur because shes my best friend, organised, and very reliable... well i dnt know whats happened. Everytime she says shes gonna help me with the wedding she cant make it.. fair enough, its my wedding i should be doing it and she has other commitments. Then she was meant to help me pick my wedding dress, but she forgot and planned a meal with her bf, i thought thanks but hey ho. And now shes meant to help taste the meal so we can plan what to have on the big day, bt now i get a text asking qs like what time ? when will it finish? i was like can you still make it and shes all 'well ive been invited to oxford, same day, typical' it sounded like its a burden to come help me, i said she can go but shes got all snappy with me and me being the over emotional girl i am, I just wanna cry surely she can go clubbing in oxford another time, but then again i dnt want her there if shes gonna be unhappy! Am i overreacting ! I want a diff maid of honour now

 

[MadamRose]

i had a similar kind of situation. me and my partner chose best man and maid of honor and they are acutuall a married couple themselves. we were about to start looking for dresses and suits ect, and they took us for a meal and explained that best man's brother had booked a wedding for the same day. Which wouldn't have bothered me as i know family come 1st, ut best mans brother was my ex and we were still on speaking terms and he was asking about wedding ect and asked the day, so i think he did it on purpose to really piss me off.
And now my old best man and maid of honour seem to be ignoring us
I know its annoying chin up hun things will be fine

 

[mummytobe]

Thanks for the reply, i know its a diff situation but still upsetting isnt it have you found another best man and maid of honour ?

 

[MadamRose]

Yes but wasnt too easy and dont get on with them as well. and we feel bad as they know they were 2nd chose. have you?

 

[mummytobe]

i still have the same one but after these let downs i want some one i can reply on

 

[MadamRose]

Aww yes i know what you mean. It feels awful I tried not to show it with them but i was almost in tears. And im pissed off they are ignoring us when its them that let us down

 

[subaru555]

To be quite honest hun one of my BM's let me down too and if that is the way she is treating you then how do you know she'll make the effort to stick around on your wedding day?

I personally would pick someone else. She is not worth getting upset about.

 

[mummytobe]

I was thinking about picking someone i can rely on, i mean what if she gets a better offer on the day is she going to um and arr on that too But i cant just unpick her if you know what i mean ? We had a lil argument after the texts and havent spoken to her since (although it just been a day) makes me not look forward to the wedding

 

[MadamRose]

No one should make you not look foward to it. it is a very special day for you and your other half its your day no one elses. If you can no longer trust her you can no longer trust her.

 

[mummytobe]

True, i might just see how she is when i next speak to her, if shes still gonna be arsey and rude then thats it, i wanna look forward to my big day, not dwell on her x

 

[MadamRose]

Good exactly its your day. is your daugther doing anyhting speacail at your wedding she is lovely

 

[mummytobe]

Aww thanks, she'll just be there looking pretty hehe, hoping if she can walk then she will have a bigger part

 

[MadamRose]

Shes so lovely. I cant wait for my little on to be here. I know someone who was desprate for their flower girl to learn to walk for their weddign (wasnt their baby was a friends baby) and it didnt look like it was going to then one week before the wedding she just started walking loads.

 

[mummytobe]

My lil one would prob run riot hehehe! Oh just read your ticker, congrats!!! Are you going to find out what your having?

 

[MadamRose]

I dunno im so confused. At 1st even before i was pregnant it was a defingiht "I AM NOT FINDING OUT" then my mum and people started saying its easier and my partner listened to them and now he wants to find out. Im scared if i do i will regret it not being a suprise, if i dont find out im scared i will regrate not being able to bye pink/blue stuff. DId you find out and were you happy with your decission?

 

[mummytobe]

I found out, only cause im an impatient lil mite i dont regret it as im not a fan of neutral colours for a girl so wanted to be prepared. I wish i had the patience for a suprise tho. Tis a hard decison me thinks... you will have to let me know what you decide x

 

[MadamRose]

i will i can see me not actually deciding until im actually in the room having the scan. I know it sounds silly but its such a big decission espcially with your 1st. I know it never changes the out come of the sex, but it changes the way you feel for the 20weeks between either finding out or not finding out and having the baby

 

[mummytobe]

I agree it is a big decision !! I think you will know on the day whether you want to know or not, whatever you choose, you wont regret your decision x

 

[MadamRose]

Aww thanks. It will be 4weeks tomorrow and feels like a life time i will be 20weeks to the day at the scan so im using it as my 1/2 way milestone