I feel so stupid...

[hmu04146]

Hey ladies,

I just tested an hour ago and got an immediate strong pg came straigt away I only tested because I fainted in the supermarket ( as I did all the time when I was pg before). I want this baby more than anything but now im super scared. I had a very drunken night on saturday my first night out since the MMC and I had tested a week before and pretty much every week since MMC and always got a BFN so had given up before my AF, I feel like ive harmed this baby and I am dreading it all happening again. I dont want to tell OH incase he gets his hopes up or is scared too we hadnt decided to try again just NTNP as he didnt think i could deal with another loss and hes right I cant? Also does getting pg before AF cause problems? Any help would be great lovely ladies! x

 

[Drazic<3]

Hey darling,

Congratulations on your BFP! Please try not to panic, I got drunk at a Christmas party and got my bfp a week later. I felt SO bad, but really it would be too early for the baby to even have implanted so there will be no effect. Just knock the booze on the head now. I asked the midwife about it and she didn't even blink. She said almost all women have the drunk before they find out experence! It's amazingly common. A friend of mind didn't find out until 24 weeks, and she had been drinking every weekend and she is a perfectly healthy little 2 year old now. I wouldn't recommend that! But you see what I mean

 

[hmu04146]

Thanks so much Drazic! That sounded excited but im not allowed to be... must play it cool lol! You know the ironic thing is I never really drink anymore it was the first drink since November! I'm just praying dont even know if I'll tell OH yet! x

 

[Beadette]

Hun, Don't worry. On the Thursday before my BFP (on the Sunday) I was steaming drunk and smoking like a good one!! In actual fact I enjoyed a glass of ed most nights in the 2 weeks leading up to my BFP. I just didn't think it ws our month and we were also NTNP after our MMC in Jan. I have had one AF since ERPC then got caught.

Anyway what I'm trying to say is that you will not have harmed your baby - its what ou do now that counts.

To make you feel better, you should look at my jounal - page 58 - entry 580 - its about my friend who has only just found out she is pregnant and is due in 6 weeks!!!!!!!!!!

CONGRATS - try and enjoy it babe x x x

 

[Drazic<3]

Aww hun, I can understand being scared to be excited. I can only allow myself little flashes of excitement now and big scans still have me a wreck! But this will be the stress we are signed up for life now! We all understand how you feel and will be here to help you through the ups and downs. But PLEASE don't panic about this - you can't have done harm, little bubs wouldn't have even been connected and it would only be you who suffered! Be kind to yourself

 

[hmu04146]

me again! What are the chances of a false positive? Does it cause any problems that i haven't had af after d&c? X

 

[Beadette]

No Hun, it won't have done harm. There are a good few ladies round here who have got preg without af in between and are having perfectly normal pregnancies.

I also think the chance of a false positive is very slim given that you have had negative tests since your loss. I would go doctors perhaps and they could do bloods to check your hcg is rising and put your mind at rest! Xxxxx

 

[hmu04146]

Thanks again... just over thinking... can i go to sleep for the next few months til everythings fine? x

 

[everthingX]

Hi hmu04146, I asked the question about falling pregnant straight after ERPC (D&C) whilst I was in hospital and the Doctor said to me, there would be no harm if you fell straight away, the only reason they advise you to wait for your first AF is so they are able to date the pregnancy, that is the only reason, so realx hun, it will all be fine, you'll see Congratulations on your BFP by the way!!! Just keep telling yourself your body was obvioulsy ready for the new baby otherwise you wouldnt have fallen so soon, good luck hun, enjoy it xx

 

[hmu04146]

Thanks again I love all you ladies time to tell oh i think x

 

[lauralora]

hey hun, hope your ok ... best advice i can give when your worrying about a pregnancy in the early stages is to take each day at a time, not letting yourself get excited is the best way, i no it sounds cruel but i did it right up untill my 13 week scan. xx

 

[staycutee]

Try not to worry hun there are SO many women including me who get drunk before they find out they are pregnant and everything turns out fine. Just try to relax and enjoy it and congratulations!

 

[hmu04146]

Thanks missmurder and awwwww at that wee baby grow, wheres it from? Not that im allowed to think about buying things but awwww! x

 

[Clarrisae]

I know how you feel, I had my second mc in December went away for Christimas for three weeks, drank and smoked, partied on NYE and was planning to have a break from trying again for a few months, then found out in January that I was pregnant again. I had big guilt wondering if I'd done something to harm the baby but now I'm four months tomorrow and so far so good - don't beat yourself up about it.

It is difficult to let yourself get excited, I have only just started to tell people, you do protect yourself from it 'just in case' for the first few months and panic at every slight twinge, it is to be expected! Hope all goes well for you! xx

 

[isolabella]

Hun, had to post as you were so supportive on first tri when I first joined. I've got everything crossed for you! Don't worry about the drinking, it probably did you a lot of good psycologically after all you've been through and our beans are tough little things. My OH's mum didn't know she was having him until he actually came out and she did lots of "no no things in pregnancy" and he's absolutely fine (don't tell him I said that though!) big hugs to you. xx