I give up!!!

[PnutProtector]

I called my mom yesterday and asked her if she was free today so we can go through invitation books and pick some stuff out. She said yes, so we went. We get there and she's watching a movie, so we finish watching it with her. When it's over I show here all the ones I marked and she flips through them a little, then picks up the remote and chooses another movie to watch. I try to get her to really look through the books again, but she just ends up watching the movie instead

If I say something about it, she'll get upset at me so I keep my mouth shut. The movie ends and I nudge her to start looking at the books again... she chooses ANOTHER movie!! At this point I am visibly upset and she can tell. She asks me what's wrong and I tell her "I want to at least narrow it down to 2 or 3 choices before our meeting with the wedding planner next Saturday. I told you that we were coming to do this today." So she gets all huffy and snatches the books and goes into another room to go through them. She picks a few things, all of which I don't like, so she argues with me about that saying that I have my mind made up on what I want and I'm not open to anything else. But when I chose something different, she still doesn't like it. Nothing I picked out made her happy. Nothing OH picked out made her happy. She was doing exactly what she complained that I was doing.

I can't seem to please her without compromising what I want. And I don't think I should have to compromise too much, or settle for anything. It's MY effing wedding!! It's not about what she wants, it's about what OH and I want and I don't understand why she can't just accept that.

So I give up

I'm not going to ask for her opinion anymore. It only causes arguments and frustration. And I don't want that to ruin my planning experience. So, OH and I decided that we are going to make all major decisions on our own and just tell her how its going to be.

Ugh... and now she thinks she's going to the appointment with the wedding planner... awesome... just awesome. I don't know how to tell her that I don't want her to come.

 

[sparkle]

I'm so sorry she's being like that. Have no advice, but I'm glad you have your OH on your side too!
My Mum and I had an argument about the wedding last weekend and I ended up in tears... I think it's just how things are.

 

[Lil_Baby_Boo]

If watching a movie is more important than helping you plan the biggest day of your life then I just wouldn't ask her for help or her opinion again!!

Arrange to meet your wedding planner at another location or at an earlier time and just don't bother telling your mum - if she asks why you never told her just tell her you didn't want to disturb her movie watching!!

If someone was making me feel upset at not wanting to get involved then I wouldn't want them involved and possibly forcing me to make a decision and then me regretting it would be another reason to not want them involved.

Sounds harsh - its your perfect day - if you want someting - you have it!