I had to voice my rant

[DollPosse]

I'm half way through my pregnancy and people are very into telling me about "going natural." I even have people sending me random links so I can "go natural." I have had to have two EMCS, and it feels a little distasteful after two failed attemps. It's not just how to have a drug free vaginal birth but also things like "how to labour the right way." Like obviously if I laboured the right way I wouldn't have had two sections.
I know it's probably not meant to be a jab, but it feels like people should know better.

 

[Mrs Doddy]

Oh how upsetting for you - sometimes things aren't in our control and as long as baby is delivered and is ok that's all that matters surely ? Both ways have their pros and cons - I've had a v birth and c section booked for this time - I'm not upset about it we just have to deal with the situation as it comes nothing to be ashamed of x

 

[DollPosse]

I'm not ashamed. I'm annoyed that people feel the need to send me links, and articles.

 

[Mrs Doddy]

I didn't mean that's what you thought x people like to tell you whats best , only you know what's best for you and your baby xx

 

[HBGirl]

I find it rude that people even ask how your baby is coming into the world. Its no ones business.

 

[zanDark]

Bleh people are already pestering me about vbac even though I just had my baby a few months ago...and it's not exactly easy for me to get pregnant in the first place! I get that a lot of women want to experience labor naturally and I'm all for supporting whatever they want to do...but it's just not for me! My labor experience wasn't the best and ended in an emcs, and I'd much rather have an elective section the 2nd time around. I find the 7 hours of being in pain with a failed epidural and baby's heartbeat going up and down haunt me more than the surgery did. I feel calmer knowing what's going to happen..but that's just me! My brothers wife wants a vbac even though she had a very traumatic emcs...and I admire her for wanting to try to labor naturally...I want the drugs and the half hour birth

I really wish people would stop shoving their opinions down each others throats My best friend is currently pregnant and is TERRIFIED of giving birth and wants a section...yet she's even more terrified to admit it to anyone besides me because everyone is so judgmental!

 

[DaisyMai]

Hey,

Oh I understand how you feel hun! I had a section with my first son as he was breech and small.During my pregnancy with our second I had a couple of people go on at me about how I should try naturally and how good their births were.
I found it really irritating and rude! My body,my baby,my chioce,none of anyone elses business =o)

I know its hard to ignore, but just try and think that you're doing what you feel happy with and that's all that matters!

 

[DollPosse]

Thank you ladies. I knew you would understand. Whatever gets baby or the babies out healthy and safe is the way to go no matter the way it is

 

[Nela]

It's simple: People don't know or simply don't care about boundaries anymore. People shouldn't be meddling into your affairs as it has nothing to do with them. I sent a polite but direct note to everyone thanking them for any eventual thought of wanting to link me about this or that but that I was not interested in people's opinions. I stated that I am a grown woman, capable of informing myself and making my own decisions, especially when it comes to my own body. People backed off then. It wasn't to be rude, but I just didn't want to feel judged nor start doubting myself. If I have a second, it will be an elective c-section, even though I might be able to Vbac. I am more comfortable with that and that's what works for me. Don't let anyone get to you, you do what feels best for you and yours

 

[DaisyMai]

Well said Nela =o)

 

[Eternal]

It's always annoying why everything thinks it's their business to say something. I've had so many people make comments either way! My nana said to me last week how I should have a section as it's less painful haha! Some people have no idea.

I'd have to say something like. I don't care what other people think is the right way, this is the right way for me and my baby and the safest, so go take your article some place else.

I think most people are trying to be helpful but have no idea what they are saying.

 

[Ruth 1980]

I'm half way through my pregnancy and people are very into telling me about "going natural." I even have people sending me random links so I can "go natural." I have had to have two EMCS, and it feels a little distasteful after two failed attemps. It's not just how to have a drug free vaginal birth but also things like "how to labour the right way." Like obviously if I laboured the right way I wouldn't have had two sections.
I know it's probably not meant to be a jab, but it feels like people should know better.

Gah!! what is wrong with people?!!!! Such rudeness! I would be in a rage if I was you. People need to butt out and shut up. At the end of the day, what if you are one of those people who just cannot give birth naturally (i.e you would've died having your first back in the 1800's!), your body hasn't managed to safely deliver your previous two, therefore it makes perfect sense that you would get this baby out safely by c-sec.
I say get your rage on and blame the pregnancy hormones if anyone gets too offended x

 

[lewood88]

I had people pushing for me to have a vbac with my second but I stuck to my guns and had a section and when we have another I'll have a section again

Your body your choice end of