I hate how...

[poppy]

a miscarriage not only causes you sadness at losing a baby but puts you months back on your journey towards having a baby.

You keep thinking, 'I would have been X weeks along now...'

I am waiting to have my first AF after the miscarriage and I worry it will take ages to get pregnant again...and what if I get pregnant and it ends up in a miscarriage again. So many worries.

 

[Starry Night]

That has been one of the things I hated the most too. TTC takes time for even healthy couples without fertility issues (not many get pregnant first try every time) and miscarriages can take long to heal as well. I have averaged about 3 months recovery time before my cycles go back to normal. The longest was 5 months.

It's a big reason I don't want to try for a third should I get my second rainbow. DH will not agree to start TTC again until a year has passed. Then I will have to figure in several months for the first bfp, then a few months of being pregnant (I tend to m/c around 12 weeks), a few months to m/c & recover and then a few more months to conceive again. Months can quickly add to years and I am not getting any younger. I'm not old yet but I'm not in my 20s anymore either.

The waiting game is the worst. I hope your body doesn't keep you waiting too long and you can get your sticky bfp soon.

 

[ThinkPositiv]

Omg. U took the words outta me.

D&c 2 weeks ago. Waiting to O.....

I hate this

Hate this

 

[Angelbaby_01]

I totally agree and hate it so much. I wanted three babies, but think after my rainbow one day I would consider being done.

 

[Button#]

Agreed. I was so excited when I got pregnant and thought what a lovely age gap and I would be done with pregnancy by 32. Now I'm just worrying about how much further along we'll be. Being pregnant over Christmas, how much bigger the gap will be between LOs and as I get older whether that'll mean more problems.

Sorry bit of a mini rant there. I just hate all the worry at the beginning as well and I would be nearly past that now.

 

[Radkat]

I'm right there with you. I'm trying to refocus on TTC because it too hard to focus on the what ifs. What can I do to get my body in the best shape to conceive, focus on the positives and the future. But it's hard. Hang in there, all of us!

 

[RaspberryK]

It sucks.
I'm fed up of waiting waiting waiting.
We are not even ttc properly we are wtt/ntnp I'm just hoping to be extremely lucky.
My miscarriage was over 5 weeks ago now and I've just had a little spotting tonight so I think that's af on her way.
I got an email today i must have forgotten to unsub to telling me what to expect now I'm 17 weeks
Xx

 

[ThinkPositiv]

Oh ladies we are in this together.

I hope I O sooner than the 6 weeks post d&c I did last
Time!!! Ugh. And my hubby isn't into sex lately (what???). So this all blows.

 

[ExpectingTC]

I totally agree. My SIL found out she was pregnant 4 days after my D&C and one of my good friends is pregnant. We were due 2 weeks apart. Going to all of her showers/events/hanging out has been so hard... it's a constant reminder. Ugh.

 

[Tasha]

totally agree. I am two months on from my latest loss but as I had to wait a month to see the specialist (15 miscarriages and two stillbirths) and I now have to wait six weeks for the tablets to be fully in my system so I am ages back and with all the loses it has been long enough already.

Hopefully your fears about it taking ages to get pregnant are way off and you have a sticky bean soon

 

[ThinkPositiv]

Tasha - i envy your strength. Still births and miscarriages, that is devastating. At loss is awful, but the shear number you have been through is overwhelming. I pray for a sticky baby for you. Have they found a cause?

 

[curlykate]

I hate this as well.
OH and I compromised, as I didn't want to wait so long between LOs, and he wanted to wait even longer. Now I'm kicking myself with the "What if I'm too old now?" and "I shouldn't have waited so long". Now I have to wait even LONGER. It's driving me insane.
The LO I lost would have been born at the perfect time...DS heading to school, a nice age gap between LOs, Birthdays in different times of the year.
Now it's looking like we can't even try until late June/early July (Drs orders due to hemmorhaging and an emergency D&C), which is when we got pregnant with DS. I don't want two children born in the same month, but I don't want to wait any longer to TTC again.
So frustrating!!

 

[darkriver]

can very much relate. this is my second mc. I thank the goddess that I have already been blessed with a child but we planned to have them ten months apart. Now though they wont be. I am still wait for my first AF

 

[floridasian]

Exactly - my m/c has robbed four precious months out of my short remaining fertile years (I'm turning 36 in June). Not only did I find out that my pregnancy wasn't viable at 7.5 weeks but it took another two weeks for the heart beat to stop and another week for the D&C, my hCG was dropping ever soooooo slowly after the D&C that my doctor thought I had a pregnancy tumor and wanted to start me on chemo. And then I found out that the scar tissue I had before the pregnancy was still there and unresolved, and it's now 4 months later and I still haven't been given the green light to TTC again! This is indeed the most frustrating part of the m/c!