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nolansmom
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Am I the only one who feels this way?
Prefacing with.. I love the support offered on this site.. BUT
Are we fooling each other with the "maybe it's implantation bleeding" comments? I've been pregnant before, no bleeding - not a drop. Yes everyone is different and yes some may experience Ib with 1 or 2 or all of their pregnancies BUT it's actually NOT that common.
I know that we all want to support and provide hope when TTC but is false hope really helpful?
It sorta reminds me of the movie "he's just not that into you" which is partially about the ways in which women confuse other women by being too "nice" about things as a way to spare feelings. Saying things like "a friend of a friend of a friend has XXXXX happen to her once and it worked out fine" as a way to encourage (provide false hope) really isn't helpful.
Sorry if this offends, I'm actually trying to do the opposite as I have a close GF who is now TTC and having difficulty and I found myself not wanting to say "it's likely your period" because I know how badly she wants to be pregnant.. I also feel like I was encouraging false hope by saying "maybe it's IB".. I can hear the relief in her voice when she calls me at her lunch break to vent and be sad and she said "could it be IB" and I found myself being over the top about the possibility rather than saying "that's pretty rare" I said "I read online about xxxxxx and it could be that" to which I could hear the hope in her voice.
Yell and scream at me if you want but It's how I feel..
Edited to add*** Maybe there are more IB comments because of the larger reach of a TTC forum resulting in more possible Ib than let's say my circle of G/fs.. This makes sense to me.
Prefacing with.. I love the support offered on this site.. BUT
Are we fooling each other with the "maybe it's implantation bleeding" comments? I've been pregnant before, no bleeding - not a drop. Yes everyone is different and yes some may experience Ib with 1 or 2 or all of their pregnancies BUT it's actually NOT that common.
I know that we all want to support and provide hope when TTC but is false hope really helpful?
It sorta reminds me of the movie "he's just not that into you" which is partially about the ways in which women confuse other women by being too "nice" about things as a way to spare feelings. Saying things like "a friend of a friend of a friend has XXXXX happen to her once and it worked out fine" as a way to encourage (provide false hope) really isn't helpful.
Sorry if this offends, I'm actually trying to do the opposite as I have a close GF who is now TTC and having difficulty and I found myself not wanting to say "it's likely your period" because I know how badly she wants to be pregnant.. I also feel like I was encouraging false hope by saying "maybe it's IB".. I can hear the relief in her voice when she calls me at her lunch break to vent and be sad and she said "could it be IB" and I found myself being over the top about the possibility rather than saying "that's pretty rare" I said "I read online about xxxxxx and it could be that" to which I could hear the hope in her voice.
Yell and scream at me if you want but It's how I feel..
Edited to add*** Maybe there are more IB comments because of the larger reach of a TTC forum resulting in more possible Ib than let's say my circle of G/fs.. This makes sense to me.