i have a dilema...

[JessNJeremy]

I have a dilema on my hands! I think I am about 8-9 weeks pregnant and currently living on Kadena Air Base in Okinawa, Japan with my husband! Well, I am not actually on his orders or command sponsored yet and have 5-6 weeks before I HAVE to go home (on a traveler passport you can stay in Japan for only 90 days and I've been here for over 6 weeks already). I don't know if I should come home in the next couple weeks so I can see a doctor at home or if I should wait and see how much longer it will take for me to get on his orders. Mind you, I can't use the medical facilities here until I am on his paperwork! So, we either fork out some money and I go home for awhile until everything here is taken care of (once everything is taken care of I can come back on military $), or I risk waiting weeks without being able to see a doctor and maybe cutting it close to getting "kicked off" the country! I don't know if it'd be safe/wise/healthy to knowingly put off seeing a doctor. Any opinions? They'd be greatly appreciated!

 

[shamrockgirl4]

im not sure what to say hun i hope one of the others can help u with ur dilemma but welcome to the site

 

[Imi]

Does he have any contacts in the camp hospital??

xxx

 

[scotchbonnet]

Wannabemommy!!!

Please Please, don't post such personal information about yourself on the net....or on a forum ever. Hope you get it sorted - but immediately I thought this was a red flag post.

I would advise you to delete it ....... ....just my two cents

 

[Imi]

She was explaining background and the information wasn't that personal??

Wannabemommy, if he has contacts in the med centre GREAT see if you can get a sly exam, if not do you know ofsomeone through someone if you know what i mean??

Military are so ARGH sometimes, can you see if they can ush paper work forward???


xxx

 

[tinytoes]

hello? whats so scarily personal here? some people use their real names and post genuine pictures and names of their children?!

If I were you want2b i'd see a doc. just in case of anything. can't put a price on health

 

[JessNJeremy]

I didn't think I put anything too personal, there are thousands of people on this base...I think I have decided to go home for a couple months and let my husband take care of paperwork and such things here for now. It is much easier for me to see a doc back home. I could get an appointment the day I get home if I needed (and I kinda do). I agree with Tinytoes in that you can't put a price on health and I think I just needed to hear/read it from someone else...we unfortunately don't have any connections here. I would feel like a bad parent already if I know I need to see a doctor and am able to back home but don't. Does that make sense? lol
Well, thanks for the replies!

 

[tinytoes]

does that mean you'll be without DH for a couple of months? tough going, good luck!!!

 

[JessNJeremy]

yes, that's the hardest part about it because he'll be alone for the holidays while i get to be with my and his family. i feel terrible about that, but i have to do what's in the best interest of the baby and right now that's seeing a doctor which i can't do here. he's being understanding about it though thank goodness.

 

[tinytoes]

oh well best of luck. these first months are harder than i ever expected so at least you'll have your family. and your baby and bump pals!!


and hopefully you'll be back together when the sh*tty bit is over and you'll be a happier person for him to be around too! Could work out well.

 

[JessNJeremy]

thanks! it'll be rough for awhile, i really wanted him to be there for the us's and appointments, but ultimately it'll be good for both of us. I've been so emotional lol he deserves a break from my mood swings! thanks for the words of support

 

[scotchbonnet]

Your choice really on what you post online.

I do hope you get your situation sorted.

You see, I may very well be in a similar situation like you to know how very well these things on "family postings abroad" on camp situations work and also have knowledge on what minimal information posted online can cause even when you think - "oh - no one will possible figure out who I am here......."

A little added info - I am also away with my husband.....I am not talking off the top of my head. I am talking out of experience.

 

[scotchbonnet]

Unless you really do not want them to know....I would say give the Family Office/Unit a call or send them an email....

They can be helpful, at times....depends on your situation and your husband's role......

 

[Imi]

Hun i had a problem with them at dekeliah in cyprus and ended up coming home in jan 2006 pregnant with maddie, they really can be insensitive and un helpful, some people will put themselves out there but not many.

Scotchbonnet - hunni there really isn't anything in there that was that personal i think your just reading into things way to much, she hasn't give out her husbands number, name, Job nothing- chill chick!

Wannabemommy - it is hard but i did the sam as you and it is prob the right choice for the time being, just make sure you can get it all sorted before your time scale to fly runs out darlin.

least hubby is being supportive thats what you need, if you want a chat hun feel free to PM me or add meto MSN,

take care

Imi

xxx

 

[scotchbonnet]

I'm chilled. Sorry for interfering......Maybe you are right - I am reading too much into things.

I am paid to read a lot into things and find leads, get evidence from info that others see no significance in and what I saw gave me a whole lot of info - if I was interested - I would need no further info. But hey - means nothing to me so yeah I am chilled! LOL

 

[AquaDementia]

Wannabemommy!!!

Please Please, don't post such personal information about yourself on the net....or on a forum ever. Hope you get it sorted - but immediately I thought this was a red flag post.

I would advise you to delete it ....... ....just my two cents

she didn't post anything too personal. you must have had a bad experience yourself.