I have had enough!

[TTC4+yrs]

So I think I am finally accepting the fact that we may never be able to have a child.... We have been trying for 5 years now, I just started AF after my 4th round of clomid....I just don't want to go through this anymore... I am not even sure I want to start the next round of clomid, I am sick and tired of the whole thing!!

Sorry for the mini-vent

xo

 

[2Dogs1Cat]

It's good to vent, no worries!

There are many roads to motherhood, sometimes the one we want is not the one that we are on, but could still get you there!

We, too, have almost reached the end and will be looking to adoption at teh start of the new year.

Good luck to you, do what you need to to protect yourself and your marriage.
Sara

 

[FutureMommie]

TTC can be so stressful and we can come to a point where we just don't feel like doing it anymore. I was there before my surgery in Jan. afterwards I was pretty much forced to take a 6 month break, and now I feel like I can actually try again. You have to do what works best for you and your family emotionally. I know whatever you choose will be best for you.

 

[PR&TR13]

Oh I'm so sorry that you feel like this I imagine that it is difficult & I'm sorry for the stupid questions that I'm about to ask. Do you go to a FS? Has your DH had a SA? Have they checked your tubes? There are other options other than clomid, have you sought out those options?

TTC - I'm very sorry that anyone has to go through this and I know that it seriously gets the best of you and it's hard on the family but I do wish you the best and will have you in my prayer. If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to message me.

Best wishes!!

 

[Ebony_Blaze]

Hey him just wanted to say chin up, at least we all can symphathise
and have a bit of a vent, it's the longest, hardest, most tiring roller coaster I've ever been on x

 

[Basel]

A huge Amen to that. I think it's about 3 years for us, and for various reasons.
How's this, we finally had a few cycles after fibroid surgery, thought 'this will be the first good chance'. Then out of the blue, my wife gets.... A UTI!
Awesome.....no trying again for this cycle. More disappointment. Hooray!
I swear sometimes we feel cursed, but the main thing is we try to keep communicating as much as possible with each other, and be totally honest about how we are both feeling at any given time. I do think it's actually brought us closer together, but man it is getting old.
Keep the faith?
Cheers.

 

[lichunda1980]

good luck ,new year is comeing

 

[Chris77]

Oh hunni I know exactly how you feel! Don't give up though. It WILL happen for us!

 

[TTC4+yrs]

Thank you all for your kind words! I know I can't give up but its just so hard when each and every month she shows up... we have been to the FS, he is baffled, my OH has great sperm and I have checked out great! He just does not understand why its not happening..... You would think that in 5 years I would have once poas and it come out positive but nothing! The last appt I had with him he had some bloods done to see what my progest was at...... 78!!!! Which is fantastic according to him! I am now 30 with no kids, I have always wanted a large family and it just feels like its too late now..... I am supposed to start my 5th cycle of clomid tomorrow - not sure if I am going to bother with it or not yet.....

Good luck to all you lovely ladies!!!
xo

 

[crystal443]

Hiya,

I've just finished up my 6th round of Clomid and I've said no more, I to tested fine and hubby has tested fine and there's no reason not to get pregnant, I am lucky though i have two other kids which were also difficult to concieve but I"m grateful I have them. We'll be going to a new FS on the 18th of this month and just hope there's something a new doctor can find. I'm 36 and I have a daughter 14 and son 12 and we have not been on BC since before my daughter so we've been trying for a third for about 10 years, not all the time trying but no BC and if it happened it happened. We started really trying and tracking temps, OPK's etc about 18 months ago and nothing even with Clomid, my tubes are clear and I do O on my own so I have no idea. I had two CSections and I sometimes wonder if that might be the reason for my problems, I don't know what the problem is but it is so frustrating and even depressing at times. We love kids and have always wanted a big family but at this point I'll be happy to have 1 more. I wish you all the best and I hope whatever road you choose brings you that baby

 

[678star-bex]

It's ok to vent it make me feel better. im 30 too and wish for big family but dont have anyone except OH. feel really sad some times but i wont give up. i wish u all the luck and pls come on here and chat becasue it does help.

 

[TTC4+yrs]

Hello again Lovely Ladies... Just an update but I did start taking my 5th cycle of clomid this morning, I figured since I have already paid for them I might as well take them and who knows, maybe it could work this month... I feel like an emotional rollercoaster..... I am not going to temp anymore or use opk's, I am just going to go with the flow and see what happens....

xoxo

 

[Omi]

Hi hun, i cant really add anything to the great words already been offered but as far as hope is concerned, there's always that. This may do eff all for you, i know, but its still worth a mention i think. I had a friend at work you has been trying for 5 years too. She was told her only option was ivf which she was not really wanting to do. They both came out as totally healthy, nothing wrong. Anywhoo, this was at xmas last year. She went off sick an came back after a month pregnant! Turns out she she was off due to severe morning sickness. But the things is it did happen and she just gave birth to a baby girl yesterday.

At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you and i can very much understand how you feel, hun.

All the best and good luck

 

[jaykay]

So I think I am finally accepting the fact that we may never be able to have a child.... We have been trying for 5 years now, I just started AF after my 4th round of clomid....I just don't want to go through this anymore... I am not even sure I want to start the next round of clomid, I am sick and tired of the whole thing!!

Sorry for the mini-vent

xo

I completely understand how you feel, but I just wanted to try and give you some hope. I met a friend of mine for coffee this morning, she'd been trying for at least 5 years I think, and had 9 rounds of clomid before giving up on it because they wanted to increase her dose. She's now 8 and a half months pg, a complete shock for her, she wasn't on anything, it just happened naturally. Her story really gave me hope, I hope it does for you too.

xx

 

[susan_1981]

I definitely feel your pain! We've been TTC for over 2 years now with 1 miscarriage and one chemical. But do you know what, I think giving up is probably the best way to get pregnant. My friend used to work in an IVF clinic and she said it was amazing how many people had to cancel because they had fallen pregnant. I really do think it happens when you're "not trying" but I can't ever imagine myself not thinking about ovulation and whether I'm pregnant or not. I hope you get your BFP soon xxx