i have had put my foot down with harrys dad asking him to pay am i wrong

[hotsexymum]

i have had put my foot down with harrys dad asking him to pay am i wrong ? i have been to soft but i can not cope like this no more he dont5 pay me a penny for his sons marcus and harry harry is on milk free diet i get widdows beenfit to pay for my other 2 why should i struggle to live .


i just told him pay for your son or i will go to csa , he son marcus had op last week did not come to see him cos he was at pub please dont put this on my facebook as he is on there and his ex wife that gets everything

i said to him if you want to see your sons pay for them is that wrong off me ? it is i no but i can not cope no more

 

[mernie]

HUGE hun! Its not wrong of youa t all! Why shouldn't he pay for them?! They're his responsibility too after all. Hope it all gets sorted for you sweetie.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I think this should be in single parents... But I do think he should be paying child support, yes. I am not sure I would threaten that if he doesn't pay, then he won't see his kids, but I can see why you are upset.

 

[hotsexymum]

i have ask him to pay and he just at me cos he nos he could get away with it so i have to let him see i mean it

 

[Nikkinoonoo]

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I don't see how he can get away with it?! If he isn't making payments, keep a journal an write down how long this goes on for etc, and bring him to court... He will have to pay you backpay for the money he missed, and he will be forced to pay you monthly, likely by garnishing his wages. Sorry to hear he is being such a jerk

 

[xJG30]

If he won't pay, then i'd certainly go down the CSA route, it's not fair on you or the kids to struggle.

 

[nataliecn]

he definitely should be paying support!
you're definitely not in the wrong for asking for it!

he should be focusing on things like that instead of sending you texts about wanking!

 

[impatient1]

You shouldn't have to struggle at all hun, he should be paying and I don't think it is wrong of you at all, if he doesn't start paying or complains about it go to csa and talk to them hun.

 

[DizzyMoo]

Tbh hun go straight to csa, although they are useless it means you have a proper record of things. He will not have to pay back anything if its a private agreement as neither of you have proof of payment or non payment if you're with me. But with csa each week is calculated that he should be paying, they will contact him for you & then he has to answer to them. Dont get me wrong hun they are bloody shit at times & you do get alot of stress from trying to keep on top of them .

I contacted csa when my son was 6wks old.. they still havent taken him to court over his constant job hopping so he didnt have to pay.. but it all still gets added up from day 1.

 

[nervouspains]

Go to the CSA hun!

I think, even if a man dosent want contact with his children- well the children are here and they arent to blame, so he should contribute money to theyre upbrining as well!
xx

 

[staycutee]

no of course you aren't wrong, why should you have to do it all on your own? some men make me so mad!!

 

[hotsexymum]

thanks for your kind words and surport