I just kicked my husband out....

[I-want-1-2]

For good.

Since I got pregnant, he's been promising to give up the drinking sessions. Don't get me wrong, I love a drink as much as the next person, but things have to change. The problem is work, we're both in finance and it's quite a drink-fuelled culture (taking clients out, drinks after work etc). So today he took some people out at lunchtime and never went back to the office. To cut a long story short, he rolled in about twenty minutes ago (11.30) absolutely legless. He'd been ringing me since 9pm, singing down the phone and generally being a pest, so I turned my phone off. He's left my car parked in town in an open air car park (company car, but it's new and that's not the point) as he's using it while I'm on mat leave.

He woke me up when he got home because he didn't have cab fare. I never carry cash, so I just had to go outside in the rain in my pjs and pay the taxi man with a cheque. I lost my temper and slapped him when I got back in (husband not cabby!) and he started shouting and woke baby up. I know I shouldn't have hit him, but then I smacked him again . Not proud of myself.

He called me every name under the sun so I threw him out. It's now midnight. I've had enough of him putting me and lo last, I left him 2 months ago and he promised to change, but he hasn't.

Just wanted to vent, can't exactly ring anyone at this time of night

 

[I-want-1-2]

Oh, and perfect timing but in meant to be in work tomorrow afternoon on a 'keeping in touch' day. Guess I'll have to can that as I'm not leaving lo with him.

 

[Kato2]

That is so selfish! He deserved a slap! Sorry your having to deal with this x

 

[Ceejay123]

Hope things look up soon. Don't know what to say or advise.. but didn't want to R+R. You obviously shouldn't have hit him.. but he also shouldn't roll in drunk at 11:30. Do you think this is the end for good?

 

[I-want-1-2]

Yep. I've had enough. He can't say no to going out for a drink and I'm not putting my daughter through this. Sick of fighting over it. It's got the stage where I don't know what he's bringing to this marriage.

 

[ChristinaG]

Can you bring LO with you to work? I'm sure everyone will want to see her anyway
best of luck to you

 

[I-want-1-2]

It's a meeting, so no unfortunately. I could get my sister to mind her though. Would probably be a good idea to get out the house!

 

[mad76]

 

[erikab922]

I'm so, so sorry - sounds like you've really reached the end of your tether. On a practical level I'd keep the KIT day if you can, if you will be supporting yourself and LO at some point in the future you will want to make sure work is secure (sucks to have to think of these things). I would have been absolutely furious, even if it was the first time it happened, but the fact this is a recurring issue makes it worse.

 

[PandaPrincess]

I'm sorry Hun, you need to do what's best for both you and LO. Do you not have anyone else you could leave LO with? Xx

 

[Mummy Bean]

sorry about his hun. i also work in finance and know what the culture like. but it no excuse, he a grown man and shoukd know when to say enough, or to just have a coke.

it sad to think that he rather choose a few drinks over his family, and if u already given him chance to change...and he still wont listen.

I hope u ok, and hope he can sort himself out and grow a pair...to be the husband/father hs supposed to be.

 

[Natasha2605]

Do yopu think he could possibly have a drink problem? Just the not returning to work and favouring to stay drinking screams problem. Or highly irresponsible!

Hope you and LO are okay xx

 

[I-want-1-2]

More highly irresponsible, but he is an all or nothing kind of person. My sister is having her for me, currently on the bus to go pick up my car - hoping its in one piece! Not what I need right now. Thanks for your support guys x

 

[Pielette]

You poor thing. So sorry you've been dealing with this but if he's always going to put alcohol first you're doing the right thing.

Hope your car is ok!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I would have smacked him too!

 

[loving_life]

Having the same problem with my OH.
It's not work related drinks though, it's that he can't say no to a sociable drink with his alcoholic father. We had a huge row over it last night and he didn't come home. He apparently stayed at his parents after having a drink with his dad and his dads friends.
I find it disgusting that he puts alcohol before seeing Eva. She's only 4 months old!!
It was the 1st time last night that Eva and I have been alone for the entire day and night. And I managed perfectly well so I know I could easily do this without him.
He deserved that slap IMO. X

 

[happysaurus]

Sorry this has happened and he was terribly irresponsible so good job throwing his out but I'm a bit aghast at the number of people that think he deserved a slap. I don't believe that'd be the reaction if a man had reacted to his legless wife in that way.

 

[Bevziibubble]

Im sorry to hear that He sounds very selfish bag needs to get his priorities right

 

[bumblebeexo]

Sorry to hear I hope things get better now for you and your LO.

 

[rebeccalouise]

he sounds very selfish to me. you've given him a chance to change & he hasn't, I'd say you've done the right thing. stay strong hun.

edit: I do agree with the other ladies that have said the slapping was wrong, I think you know that though. x