I just saw my christmas present from DH on ebay and I don't want it!

[Jody R]

But how can I tell him I looked when he asked me not to?

He's terrible at gift giving. He thinks he's good at it and in one way he puts a lot of thought into it.

But in another way, he hasn't put any thought into it because this is something I already told him I don't want.

It's a limited edition of a book by an author I love, but I've read the story and don't like it that much and I don't 'collect' books in the way this one is meant to be collected, I just buy lots of them and read them.

We were talking about it a while ago when he asked if I had every single book by this author and I said all but this one. He got very excited about it and I said I didn't ever want one, because I don't.

But he doesn't listen to that, he thinks I was just saying it because it costs a lot of money.

But I really don't want it. I know I sound ungrateful but he has spent a lot of money on things I really don't want or like over the years and I'm running out of things to do to stop him, especially when telling him outright that I don't want something doesn't work.

I used to pretend I liked things because he has been thoughtful and generous, then I tried dropping hints about things I did want, then outright saying "I don't like/want that" and if that doesn't work what can I do?

God I just read this back and I sound so spoilt "I keep getting expensive gifts I don't want, help!" But really, we can't afford to waste money on things that are going to waste and although I am grateful that he tries so hard I need to stop him doing it. I'd be happy with something cheaper that I did want or need or even nothing at all.

 

[kiwimama]

Not quite sure how to approach this one, it's a toughie.
Maybe just give him a list, say these are things that I want, you choose which ones you get me, but I don't want anything that's not on this list. Sometimes men just need a good push in the right direction.
My Oh will ask me what I want and I give him several options, so that I know what I'm getting is definately something I want, but it's still a bit of a surprise because I don't know which one he will end up getting.

 

[Arlandria]

Outbid him and then sell it on without him knowing?

 

[honey08]

Outbid him and then sell it on without him knowing?

defo !! dy want me to do it ?cos im leaving my ebay acc

 

[buttons1]

Hmm it is a tricky one could u subtly bring up the subject in a different context something like I hope the author brings out a new book soon as I'd love to read another of her books but iv got them all apart from said book and I don't want that one as I don't like it.

How much has he paid if I dont mind me asking?

 

[Arlandria]

Outbid him and then sell it on without him knowing?

defo !! dy want me to do it ?cos im leaving my ebay acc

What book is it? Post the link!! hee hee

 

[NuKe]

has he bought it yet???

 

[Laura2919]

I think I would just say something like. How you getting on with my xmas pressie, when he says yeah im on to it, say hopefully its not a book! Lol

 

[Jody R]

It's a limited edition Stephen King book called My Pretty Pony and the last time I checked it was at £99.00 but DH has a max bid of £110.00 on it and I suspect he will go a bit higher if he gets outbid.

https://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=200546742021&ssPageName=STRK:MEBIDX:IT

 

[Jody R]

Outbid him and then sell it on without him knowing?

defo !! dy want me to do it ?cos im leaving my ebay acc

Can you do that? I thought they used paypal to force you to pay.

I think I would just say something like. How you getting on with my xmas pressie, when he says yeah im on to it, say hopefully its not a book! Lol

He'd think I'd been kidnapped by the body snatchers if I said I hoped I didn't get a book, normally that's all I want! And if I said I didn't want this book in particular he would know I had looked.

 

[country_girl8]

haha i have seen my xmas present too and to b honest im not that impressed a bloody slow cooker!! i havent asked him ever to buy me a slow cooker

 

[RedRose]

Hmm it's a toughie...

On one hand, you have explicitly said you wouldn't want this book, but on the other, I can imagine him being really chuffed with himself for finding it!

As someone whose husband is also a bit crap at buying me presents but does get super excited about buying them, I'd be tempted to let this one slide and let him think he has done really well. Then next birthday/Christmas be much more specific about what you do and don't want as he clearly has selective hearing just like my DH!

And think of it this way, if you do find yourself really needing £100 at some point at least the book will retain it's value and you can sell it on.

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman! Lol

 

[PinkEmily]

You could always break the internet or keep him busy when the auction is ending.

I give OH a list so that i don't get things that i don't need/want. Doesn't stop him though

Last year i got a massive black hoodie with a picture of Charlie the Unicorn on. He paid quite a lot for it from America.

And this year hes bought me something, which is apparently quite expensive, but i deserve it for carrying around LO for 9 months. I have no idea what it is, really really hope that i like it.

 

[FEDup1981]

£99 for a book!!! OMG!

 

[amazed]

I would act all happy lol usually I tell Hubby a few things what I want and then he picks one xx

 

[lucy_x]

lol, no paypal cant force you to buy it, id outbid him for god sake!...the only prob is, they may second chance offer him!!!!!

thats to much money for something you dont want.

 

[v2007]

Retract his bid, he wll never know.

V xxx

 

[honey08]

omg i wud so rather have £100 in next vouchers


give us the link !

 

[Tegans Mama]

Should one of us send the seller a message saying not to sell this item to @your hubbys username@ because it's for his wife and she doesn't want it

 

[honey08]

Should one of us send the seller a message saying not to sell this item to @your hubbys username@ because it's for his wife and she doesn't want it

fab idea !!!!!!!