PeanutBean
Mumma to B & I
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It's a good point. I certainly don't think this issue I've raised as any one easily definable reason or answer. Particularly in the context of the forum it's very easy for women to say anything they like about their partners to mask their own feelings for which they might harbour guilt. I tend to take posts on here at face value otherwise why bother responding at all but I've no doubt that some of what I read will be the whole picture in most cases.
But if we talk then about women's choices and why they want to do one thing and not another and why then they may feel guilty about that decision we open up a whole other can of worms! I personally think women who don't even attempt bf are barmy but I wouldn't say it in on here (excluding now obviously). I can assume that all the societal pressures are responsible for the attitude and have a rant about them and assume women would all be bf if society would let them but I doubt that it is true. It's impossible to divide up where responsibilities lie in the natural vs medical/synthetic debates. Probably some women simply wouldn't want to bf anyway. (I'm using bf as an example.)
It's very difficult I think to get a true idea even in a single individual case about what leads to the choices we make. But there are times when it is apparent that there are undue influences as those of us with bad hospital experiences know only too well. I suppose the important thing is the freedom and balance of information and a lack of judgement once a decision has made. But people will judge! We ALL do without exception.
But if we talk then about women's choices and why they want to do one thing and not another and why then they may feel guilty about that decision we open up a whole other can of worms! I personally think women who don't even attempt bf are barmy but I wouldn't say it in on here (excluding now obviously). I can assume that all the societal pressures are responsible for the attitude and have a rant about them and assume women would all be bf if society would let them but I doubt that it is true. It's impossible to divide up where responsibilities lie in the natural vs medical/synthetic debates. Probably some women simply wouldn't want to bf anyway. (I'm using bf as an example.)
It's very difficult I think to get a true idea even in a single individual case about what leads to the choices we make. But there are times when it is apparent that there are undue influences as those of us with bad hospital experiences know only too well. I suppose the important thing is the freedom and balance of information and a lack of judgement once a decision has made. But people will judge! We ALL do without exception.