live_in_hope
VR miracle Mummy now TTC 3rd (not VR)
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hey ladies... Read with caution, its going to be a bit of a moany one, but i need to get it off me chest....
I was sitting in the staffroom at work today...ive been there a while, had a lot of friends there but the headteacher changed whilst i was on mat leave and i came back to many new faces...anyway....
I was sat in there today, everybody talking all around me and i can honestly say i have never felt so 'out of it'...... I really had nothing to say to anybody, i had to leave and when on my own it dawned on me at how anti-social i have become... Whats wrong with me. I dont go out, i dont have friends, not really. (I moved to leicestershire with hubby in my 20s, so although i have a lot of family around me now, the only people i know are people ive met through work). They often go out and i never join them, i make excuses all the time and it basically boils down to the fact that i feel like i dont know how to enjoy myself or even be around people anymore....getting ready to go out stresses me out...its that long between times i go out, that i never have clothes for it...i never buy myself clothes coz i never go out so when i do go out, what i do have is soooo out of fashion...
Me and hubby go out when we can (but he has a lot of friends, he plays in a band so he rehearses and has gigs most weekends, meaning i am on my own most of the time...like tonight, and tomorrow night)...
Its frustrating coz i moan i never go out but if hubby came in and said, right, im babysitting you go out with ya sister...i wouldnt go! Me and my sis get on great, but she is a right party animal...she would love to get me out, but i cant drink like she does, cant dance like she does and am not single like she is or look good in anything i wear like she does....i am too self conscious now...i used to be so different, always up for a laugh, very sociable.....
I really really dont know how to be around people anymore, not in a casual / social sense...i dont know what to do!
I have met somebody recently, through my daughter who seems to be in similar situation...she moved here afew years ago and doesnt really know anybody and we've had a few playdates with the girls and we've spoke about going out just the two of us, which i actually think will be nice...i actually feel like i want to!
I am sorry this is all bitty and moany...It probably doesnt make much sense but i guess somebody would read this and tell me it isnt just me, or that they will tell me im being silly...i just want to be able to comfortable in a group of people, be able to enjoy being a part of a conversation and really laugh because im enjoying their company and not coz everybody else is laughing (if you get me)... I did wonder whether it was time for me to move on and get a job somewhere else, but it isnt that simple, when is it ever hey! Lol....
Would really appreciate any reply on this, just to make myself feel somewhat better xxxxx
I was sitting in the staffroom at work today...ive been there a while, had a lot of friends there but the headteacher changed whilst i was on mat leave and i came back to many new faces...anyway....
I was sat in there today, everybody talking all around me and i can honestly say i have never felt so 'out of it'...... I really had nothing to say to anybody, i had to leave and when on my own it dawned on me at how anti-social i have become... Whats wrong with me. I dont go out, i dont have friends, not really. (I moved to leicestershire with hubby in my 20s, so although i have a lot of family around me now, the only people i know are people ive met through work). They often go out and i never join them, i make excuses all the time and it basically boils down to the fact that i feel like i dont know how to enjoy myself or even be around people anymore....getting ready to go out stresses me out...its that long between times i go out, that i never have clothes for it...i never buy myself clothes coz i never go out so when i do go out, what i do have is soooo out of fashion...
Me and hubby go out when we can (but he has a lot of friends, he plays in a band so he rehearses and has gigs most weekends, meaning i am on my own most of the time...like tonight, and tomorrow night)...
Its frustrating coz i moan i never go out but if hubby came in and said, right, im babysitting you go out with ya sister...i wouldnt go! Me and my sis get on great, but she is a right party animal...she would love to get me out, but i cant drink like she does, cant dance like she does and am not single like she is or look good in anything i wear like she does....i am too self conscious now...i used to be so different, always up for a laugh, very sociable.....
I really really dont know how to be around people anymore, not in a casual / social sense...i dont know what to do!
I have met somebody recently, through my daughter who seems to be in similar situation...she moved here afew years ago and doesnt really know anybody and we've had a few playdates with the girls and we've spoke about going out just the two of us, which i actually think will be nice...i actually feel like i want to!
I am sorry this is all bitty and moany...It probably doesnt make much sense but i guess somebody would read this and tell me it isnt just me, or that they will tell me im being silly...i just want to be able to comfortable in a group of people, be able to enjoy being a part of a conversation and really laugh because im enjoying their company and not coz everybody else is laughing (if you get me)... I did wonder whether it was time for me to move on and get a job somewhere else, but it isnt that simple, when is it ever hey! Lol....
Would really appreciate any reply on this, just to make myself feel somewhat better xxxxx