I need advice and help !!

[Aydens_mommy]

Okay, I'm 15 years old and 7 weeks pregnant with my first kid. Me and my boyfriend were'nt using condoms(very stupid, i know) and i never thought I would end up pregnant. I always thought, no that wouldn't happen to me. But it has. And Now that it has, i'm scared to death but VERY happy. I haven't told my boyfriend or parents yet. I'm scared to tell my boyfriend because he is always talking about "if you get pregnant you're not keeping it, i'm too young to be a dad." because he is 15, but 7 months younger than me. And i'm scared of him leaving. I'm scared to tell my parents, but not too scared. Because i have a brother(20) and sister(23) and my dad has always said to me, "i think you're gonna be the first one to get pregnant because i think you're gonna be like your mom". My mom and dad are divorced and i don't really like my mom. So i don't really care if she accepts it or not. But i know my family will be very supportive, no matter what. Because they always have been. I have started having morning sickness yesterday morning.... it isn't very fun. Can anyone tell me how pregnancy changes, like further into the pregnancy. I need someone to talk to and I need advice. Please and Thanks !!

 

[Sarah10]

I think you need to tell your bf + parents, thats a ridiculous thing to say, if he's having sex with you unprotected what does he think is going to happen? He needs to face responsibility.

Morning sickness usually starts from early on, for most people it only lasts a few weeks but some longer, i hope it passes for you soon apparently its a sign of a healthy strong pregnancy.

I hope things work out for you x

 

[halas]

welcome, i think you will need to tell ur bf soon just remember your body your choice not his, he needs to know that, morning sickness ushally start or gets worst at your stage but fortunatly for most it only lasts through your first trimester 2nd trimester is defianatly the nicest less uncomfortable stage of pregnancy lol maybe this link will help https://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/calendar/ also googling pregnancy week by week is good it ushally tells you what happening you and the bub goodluck feel free to pm if you need to know more

 

[mayb_baby]

Congrats on your pregnancy and yeah tell you BF and family so you can start your MW appointments and get checked to see that all is well in your general health google week by week pregnancy thats what I do even though I have books and all

 

[bbyno1]

hey and welcome to BNB
im ellie..expecting a baby girl in aug

when you 1st find out it can be very frightening to tell others but honestly the sooner you do it the better that way you havnt got to wake up every morning with that worry on your mind and it eating away at you..they might be a little mad for a bit but itl all pass over and they will get used to the idea of you having a baby..id just sit down and tell your boyfriend straight up.YOU seem happy about being pregnant and thats all that matters.its your body.no1 elses.
no1 can tell you what to do..how long have you and your boyfriend been together if you dont mind me asking?

pregnancy changes in loads of ways..your morning sickness might go when you reach about 14 weeks (well it did for me),obviously you start to get a larger bump,your find yourself getting very tired like you might need a few hours sleep in the day or longer hours at night,your get lots of food cravings,certain foods you loved you may start to hate,your get mood swings due to hormones lol,find yourself getting up in the night going to the wee alot more often..get to feel baby kickloads of stuff xx

 

[Jadelm]

Congratulations and welcome Everyone's sorta said what I was going to but yeah you should get on to telling your bf and parents, because as soon as that's out of the way the better and you can move on to dealing with this pregnancy as a family Have you been to your doctor yet? You need to arrange your first midwife appointment etc and start taking prenatal vitamins if you haven't already (Pregnacare were what I used as they have everything in them) so your baby gets the best start.

I found early on the best way to get my head around it all was to just spend ages on google looking at various pregnancy sites and sort of preparing myself mentally for everything (stay away from bad pregnancy stories though it'll only freak you out!!) and also a lot of time on here because you see lots of girls real life experiences and the things that occur that pregnancy guides just don't tell you

Aside from all that.. sit back, relax and try to enjoy what is going to be an amazing journey xx

 

[divershona]

Okay, I'm 15 years old and 7 weeks pregnant with my first kid. Me and my boyfriend were'nt using condoms(very stupid, i know) and i never thought I would end up pregnant. I always thought, no that wouldn't happen to me. But it has. And Now that it has, i'm scared to death but VERY happy. I haven't told my boyfriend or parents yet. I'm scared to tell my boyfriend because he is always talking about "if you get pregnant you're not keeping it, i'm too young to be a dad." because he is 15, but 7 months younger than me. And i'm scared of him leaving. I'm scared to tell my parents, but not too scared. Because i have a brother(20) and sister(23) and my dad has always said to me, "i think you're gonna be the first one to get pregnant because i think you're gonna be like your mom". My mom and dad are divorced and i don't really like my mom. So i don't really care if she accepts it or not. But i know my family will be very supportive, no matter what. Because they always have been. I have started having morning sickness yesterday morning.... it isn't very fun. Can anyone tell me how pregnancy changes, like further into the pregnancy. I need someone to talk to and I need advice. Please and Thanks !!

Firstly hi, :wave: and welcome to BNB,

secondly, the longer you leave it to speak to your bf and your parents the harder it will be. Despite what he's said ur bf might surprise you and be really up for the pregnancy and the baby but then again he might not. having a child as a 'teen' is probably harder to keep the relationship with your bf going but plenty of the girls manage it on here and i say well done to them!!!! however me and my OH split up about a month or so ago as we found that we caused too much stress with our arguing etc, (i am going somewhere with this) but since that the girls on here have been even more supportive than before and its really helped so no matter what happens with you and your OH know that we are all here to listen (well read) your rants

as for your pregnancy everyone is different on how pregnancy changes themselves, but there are common things like your bump with get bigger the further along you are and you'll feel tired at times and really energetic in others. I didnt really have any morning sickness when i was in my first trimester but i felt sick quite often in the morning, i found having a little stash of digestive biscuits by my bed so i could have a couple before getting out of bed really helped though.

hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months and feel free to message me if u want to know anything else, or just want to chat x x x

 

[Mrs_B]

Hunny, you need to tell your parents, even though it will be tough. You need to tell your bf as well. Perhaps most importantly you need to tell your doctor and be referred to a midwife, not just for the baby's sake but for your own as well.
The best advice I can think of is to go to as many groups/classes etc as you can, I was 19 when I was pregnant with my first and didn't go to any workshops for breastfeeding or the teen pregnancy group or anything (I thought I knew everything and didn't need help!), I lived in a diff county to all my family (i'd gone to uni) and I ended up feeling alone and isolated. With my second I went to every group I was told about and it made a huge difference to how supported I felt.
Keep in touch with us all here, and *hugs*

 

[SarahhhLouise]

Welcome to BnB! My morning sicness started arond 6 -7 weeks i think, but since ive got to 9 - 10 weeks its got worse, before it was just nausea and now its definately sickness. you can also gets books like 'what to expect when your expecting' and such. You should definately tell your boyfriend, He might surprise you, my boyfriend always used to say that but when i got pregnant with my angel, he was really supportive. this time round he wasnt like that he didnt want me to have the baby, and i told him im having this baby no matter what you say and a couple of weeks later after speaking to his parents and stuff he came round. My parents weren;t too happy either times when i told them but they've come round nicely now, i found it was best to get it out in the open as soon as possible with them so they had more time to come round. Hope everything goes okay! xx

 

[rjb]

you're my age!
girls here can help a lot, and googling pregnancy gave me a lot of info too, if that helps at all. but what are you wondering about?
i'd drop you a message if i could, but it won't let me.
but you should tell your parents, especially if they are going to be supportive of you and your decision.
as far as the father, it might be hard, but he DOES need to know.

 

[Aydens_mommy]

hey and welcome to BNB
im ellie..expecting a baby girl in aug

when you 1st find out it can be very frightening to tell others but honestly the sooner you do it the better that way you havnt got to wake up every morning with that worry on your mind and it eating away at you..they might be a little mad for a bit but itl all pass over and they will get used to the idea of you having a baby..id just sit down and tell your boyfriend straight up.YOU seem happy about being pregnant and thats all that matters.its your body.no1 elses.
no1 can tell you what to do..how long have you and your boyfriend been together if you dont mind me asking?

pregnancy changes in loads of ways..your morning sickness might go when you reach about 14 weeks (well it did for me),obviously you start to get a larger bump,your find yourself getting very tired like you might need a few hours sleep in the day or longer hours at night,your get lots of food cravings,certain foods you loved you may start to hate,your get mood swings due to hormones lol,find yourself getting up in the night going to the wee alot more often..get to feel baby kickloads of stuff xx

Thanks for the advice ! And me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now, we've had fights and broken up a few times but we haven't dated or seen other people.

 

[AyaChan]

welcome hun congrats on your pregnancy

My FOB was 15 when I got pregnant, and I wont lie to you, its super hard, girls mature faster than boys.
FOB has only in the last few weeks managed to get round the idea hes actually a dad, so dont worry about it too much, it'll just take a bit of time.

Everyone here is lovely and we'll all be your friends through your pregnancy and onwards

 

[pinkribbon]

If I'm honest, this just shows how immature he is, having sex with you unprotected and then saying he's too young to be a Dad. If he had any common sense, he'd wear a condom and back that statement up.

You need to tell him though, and your parents. Maybe tell your parents first and they'll be able to help you tell your boyfriend.

 

[bbyno1]

hey and welcome to BNB
im ellie..expecting a baby girl in aug

when you 1st find out it can be very frightening to tell others but honestly the sooner you do it the better that way you havnt got to wake up every morning with that worry on your mind and it eating away at you..they might be a little mad for a bit but itl all pass over and they will get used to the idea of you having a baby..id just sit down and tell your boyfriend straight up.YOU seem happy about being pregnant and thats all that matters.its your body.no1 elses.
no1 can tell you what to do..how long have you and your boyfriend been together if you dont mind me asking?

pregnancy changes in loads of ways..your morning sickness might go when you reach about 14 weeks (well it did for me),obviously you start to get a larger bump,your find yourself getting very tired like you might need a few hours sleep in the day or longer hours at night,your get lots of food cravings,certain foods you loved you may start to hate,your get mood swings due to hormones lol,find yourself getting up in the night going to the wee alot more often..get to feel baby kickloads of stuff xx

Thanks for the advice ! And me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now, we've had fights and broken up a few times but we haven't dated or seen other people.

Your welcome
Private message me if you ever need to talk about anything-im always online lol
also 2 years is quite a while so i guess you feel comfortable in talking to eachother and probably already been through so much together already that this might even bring you closer together?sounds like he knows what he wants then and that is younot having dated anyone else..at 1st he may see it as a negative thing-just like my fob did but all them negatives soon turn into positives and everything somehow fits into place..best of luck xx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

:wave: welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy!

I'm currently pregnant with #2 (due in January), my little girl is coming up to a year old, I conceived her when I was 17. Even though most people were expecting it as we had moved in together, it was still extremely hard to tell my parents. I really hope your OH reacts okay to the baby news, as the girls have already said, he's a complete idiot saying that he's too young to be a dad but doesn't put anything on the end of it, really what does he expect to happen?! I definately recommend telling your parents and OH as soon as possible, the longer you wait the more worked up and worried about it you'll be. I was terrified of telling my parents, but I told them a couple of days after finding out I was pregnant with my little girl, and then a few weeks with this pregnancy. Looking back it was a whole lot easier the first time, just getting it over and done with.

Ahh morning sickness is never nice. For most it tends to go away in the early part of the second trimester, if not before. Fingers crossed you don't have it for too long. You can expect to be more tired, and hungrier. It helps to eat little and often rather than big meals for the sickness, that's just something that I've found has helped me. I'd advise you do to classes too, I signed up to go to pre labour classes, learning all about what was going to happen in labour was a massive help, and they explained what to expect. It definately helps to take away some of that worry of the unknown.

wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy.

xoxox

 

[Aydens_mommy]

you're my age!
girls here can help a lot, and googling pregnancy gave me a lot of info too, if that helps at all. but what are you wondering about?
i'd drop you a message if i could, but it won't let me.
but you should tell your parents, especially if they are going to be supportive of you and your decision.
as far as the father, it might be hard, but he DOES need to know.

Thanks. You're 15 too? And i'm wondering about how everything changes. Like friends? School? Just life. I've heard EVERYTHING changes once you get pregnant. I'm not scared, it's just that i want to know what will change. I've tried telling the father lastnight but i chickened out. I'm planning on telling him and my parents tomorrow. Do you have any advice on how to tell my parents?

 

[Olivias mummy]

Hey! Welcome and congrats

When you do decide to tell your boyfriend, remember that this is your choice and your body dont allow anyone to pressure you into any decisions that you may regret.

It takes two to make a baby so you and your boyfriend will need to sit down and discuss your feelings.

If he was really against becoming a dad then he should have used protection

Good luck xx

 

[abbSTAR]

Thanks. You're 15 too? And i'm wondering about how everything changes. Like friends? School? Just life. I've heard EVERYTHING changes once you get pregnant. I'm not scared, it's just that i want to know what will change. I've tried telling the father lastnight but i chickened out. I'm planning on telling him and my parents tomorrow. Do you have any advice on how to tell my parents?

Heeey I'm abb' (abi) and I'm fifteen aswell don't worry your not alone... and you will certainly get a lot of help and support here on bnb it's an amazing place! and as for school.. I'm not sure about what happens over the states but, I finnished school a few weeks before the end of term I was soo tiered(the school was a huge place and i did a lot of walking) and it wasn't a safe environment for me or my forever growing belly ... so I decided I would start going to this Bethlehem life centre where I get all my schooling but its much more relaxed than main stream school its only a small place and it's soo nice there everyone is lovely! I will continue to go there after Harley is born as he will be in crèche whilst I have 3, 1 hour long lessons as for your friends now you find out who your true friends are.. the one worth knowing will stand by you an support you.. The ones who walk out and leave you.. Hun your better off without them! Yes things will change now your pregnant sweetie.. But just take each day as it comes.. Things will get better, ok it will be hard but its not the end of the world, but you know what my little man has made me the happiest person on earth!
With telling your parents.. Sooner rather than later is better Hun, they may be more hurt you kept it from them for soo long.. Just make sure you pick the right moment.. They may be mad with you at first but after a few days they will hopefully calm down and warm to the idea of having a grandson/daughter! and your fob sounds like a right jerk just like mine! if he doesn't want to take the resposibilties of his actions maybe you are better off without him i mean what kind of a father would he be if he doesn't even want his child?.. don't let him make you do something you don't want to do.. follow your heart and do what you feels best! MY fob put me through hell, i honestly wish i just shut him out sooner.. he will regret what hes done now when hes older probably but its his own fault he never seen his son grow up! If you ever want to talk feel free to pm me


Chin up, and keep your head held high pregnancy is not the end of the world.. Is the start of new life xx

 

[rjb]

you're my age!
girls here can help a lot, and googling pregnancy gave me a lot of info too, if that helps at all. but what are you wondering about?
i'd drop you a message if i could, but it won't let me.
but you should tell your parents, especially if they are going to be supportive of you and your decision.
as far as the father, it might be hard, but he DOES need to know.

Thanks. You're 15 too? And i'm wondering about how everything changes. Like friends? School? Just life. I've heard EVERYTHING changes once you get pregnant. I'm not scared, it's just that i want to know what will change. I've tried telling the father lastnight but i chickened out. I'm planning on telling him and my parents tomorrow. Do you have any advice on how to tell my parents?

yep,i'm 15
and i dunno, i went to my dad first and then he helped me tell my mom.
if you feel you connect better with one parent than the other maybe you could try that?
and i don't know about EVERYTHING changing.
i mean, it changes sortof i guess, but not in a bad way at all..
i'm not saying it's easy.
but it is worth it..
as far as friends.. it really depends. but when you get right down to it, the onesthat are there for you regardless are your real friends, and the one's who might bail, weren't so great anyway.
school depends too. for me, i'm homeschooling so i can finish as fast as possible, but i have friends who have kids and are still in school as well.
you have to be strong, but it all works out in the end.
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