I need help QUICKLY please!

[suzanne108]

I've got a letter off FOB in a birthday card...I can't explain the full situation cos I'm in a rush lol...but can you tell me if the following sounds nasty....



I just got your card and letter, thanks.

I know we have not spoken now for nearly 4 weeks and I wasn't happy about that either. To be honest, I've kind of felt that you aren't very interested so I haven't wanted to bore you with details that I didn't think you were bothered about. I'm not saying this in a nasty way, but you haven't asked how the pregnancy is going, you haven't asked about my appointments, you haven't asked about the things I've been buying or how I'm getting on with my life preparing to be a mum. You didn't even reply to the scan picture that I sent you. So...I just thought that you weren't bothered about all these things. I've not purposefully not contacted you because I don't want us to be friends, I just don't have much to say other than pregnancy related things as it's my life at the moment!

I said before we broke up that I wanted us to be friends for the baby's sake. Maybe I've given you the impression that I don't want to be friends, it's difficult for me because I can't help the anger that I feel for some of the things that have been done, said and just the way things have turned out.

I'm going on to say a few friendly things at the end...but its this middle bit I'm worried about.

HELP!!!!

 

[SweetNothings]

Thats definitely fair enough in my eyes. You expressed exactly what you felt in a mature and civil tone...cant be much fairer than that!!! Good luck!!!

 

[suzanne108]

Thank you!!!

I hate all this...I just want to shout and give him abuse. But gotta be careful about what he has in writing!!!

xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Doesnt sound at all horrible to me! You sound very fair and reasonable

 

[SweetNothings]

Thank you!!!

I hate all this...I just want to shout and give him abuse. But gotta be careful about what he has in writing!!!

xxx

Oh you definitely do. My mom learned that pretty quickly when my parents got divorced because my dad is a lawyer so anything you put in writing can be held against you.

But that sounds like a great letter...I think its good you are doing it in writing because it gives you a chance to put EVERYTHING on the table ...often times when we talk to someone we forget to mention certain things or we back down but letters are a good way to communicate if you cant deal with your ex in a good manner in person.

Hope it goes well!

 

[Bee26]

your too nice!! But yeah, very mature and civilized x

 

[purpledahlia]

sounds fine to me!

 

[amazed]

I think it sounds great not nasty at all hun

 

[surprisebaby]

sounds fine to me too.
Hey suzanne, do you ever write a nasty version first and then realise you can't send it and change it a completely different letter that is much more light and positive! I do that a lot with my messages to FOB.

 

[tinkabells]

didnt wanna read and run, but it sounds fair and to the point xxx

 

[woadie]

sounds fine to me too.
Hey suzanne, do you ever write a nasty version first and then realise you can't send it and change it a completely different letter that is much more light and positive! I do that a lot with my messages to FOB.

LMAO I have about 4 horrifically nasty drafts in my emails full of the nastiest home truths.... but I always chicken out of sending them in case they ultimately cause trouble, I need to think about the bump and his/her future.... but isn't it satisfying to write them!!! I think I quite like him thinking he's amazing and great, dream on LOL.... nasty shock around corner cos what I don't tell him, someone will one day!

Suzanne that sounds perfectly mature and calm and why shouldn't you express that he has, whether he likes it or not, damaged your relationship... you said it really succinctly without any neurotics, spot on

 

[suzanne108]

Thanks for the replies ladies.

I modified the email very slightly then sent it. I then sent him a text to let him know it was waiting for him as I don't think he checks his emails regularly!

Haven't heard anything from him since

 

[littleleo]

sounds fine to me. If he hasn't asked you about the baby stuff then let him get on with it, so you can get on with your life with your baby.