I really need your help!

[daizymay]

Hello everyone,

I need your help! I am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have lived together all this time.. but he has just got onto an amazing course at uni, i live in london and the uni is all the way in scotland. We have always been very sensible about our relationship and so decided that as we are young we would live our lives seprately and have some fun. The things is i have just found out i am pregnant... i havent been able to tell him and he is going in three days. I dont want him to go all the way up there and worry about me. The first week is crucial for him to make friends and start getting into the swing of things. I had an abortion before and it cut us both up so much. I just dont know what to do!!!

I feel really alone and would love for you guys to help me out. Thanks for reading.

 

[Rachii]

Hi hun,
I didn't want to read and run but heres a big xx

I don't what to advise you, just follow your heart and whatever that tells you to do, do that.
How long is he a uni for? is there no wya you could move up to scotland so your closer later on?

xxx

 

[daizymay]

he is at uni for 6 years!! I could move up there, but i would have no friends or family to help! Also i dont want him to feel like i have ruined his life! I would just feel guilty.. thank you so much though rachii, it feels so good just saying it!!

 

[Youngling]

Hey hun, congrats on ur pregnancy.
Didnt want to read and run but im sure things will work out just fine, things always have there way of working themselves out and im sure he will be the happiest daddy in the world
xx

 

[Rachii]

Its ok hun, i know what you mean about having no friends and doing it on your own. I have moved while pregnant with this baby. I had no friends down here but that's the joys of being pregnant. I just went to the mums and bumps club and made friends that way. I know its not the same as having your family around you etc.
He won't think you've ruined his life. and no baby ruins anybodies life. I had DD at 19 and she made my life
Let me know how it goes and if you tell him. Feel free to PM me x

 

[daizymay]

Its ok hun, i know what you mean about having no friends and doing it on your own. I have moved while pregnant with this baby. I had no friends down here but that's the joys of being pregnant. I just went to the mums and bumps club and made friends that way. I know its not the same as having your family around you etc.
He won't think you've ruined his life. and no baby ruins anybodies life. I had DD at 19 and she made my life
Let me know how it goes and if you tell him. Feel free to PM me x

thank you so much rachii! you dont live in scotland by any chance do you? haha. I will let you know how its goes. thank you xxx

 

[lovemy bump]

I would tell him and its better comeing face to face than over the phone i know how you would feel guilty as my boyfriend was going to the raf when i found out i was pregnant but he gave it up 4 me and the baby i still feel guilty as its all hes ever wanted to do but he tells me that hes over the moon to have not gone and to be here for me and the baby .
youl never know what will happen till you tell him

 

[billy2mm]

this is a decision he needs to make for himself - you cant make it for him. tell him as soon as you can face to face and decide what you both want to do whether it be you move up there with him, he deferrs for a year or you stay where you are. are you both still together or have you spearated while he is at uni?

 

[daizymay]

I would tell him and its better comeing face to face than over the phone i know how you would feel guilty as my boyfriend was going to the raf when i found out i was pregnant but he gave it up 4 me and the baby i still feel guilty as its all hes ever wanted to do but he tells me that hes over the moon to have not gone and to be here for me and the baby .
youl never know what will happen till you tell him

thank you! I also feel stupid cus i took the test on my own! would have been so much easier if i had told him my period didnt come. The worst thing is when i first got pregnant we decided not to use the pill as we didnt trust it, we then used condoms but i managed to persuade him that the pill would be fine, i missed one in the middle of the pack. So i just feel like i should never have said anything about the pill. I asked my family planning clinic why they thought the pill hasnt work and we managed to come to the conclusion that it was my IBS which cuases Dirreah (have no idea how you spell it) usually its fine but my body hasnt been taking in nutrients from my food or my pill!!!!

 

[daizymay]

this is a decision he needs to make for himself - you cant make it for him. tell him as soon as you can face to face and decide what you both want to do whether it be you move up there with him, he deferrs for a year or you stay where you are. are you both still together or have you spearated while he is at uni?

we are staying together for uni! So at least i know he loves me! hmmm this is so hard!!

 

[billy2mm]

this is a decision he needs to make for himself - you cant make it for him. tell him as soon as you can face to face and decide what you both want to do whether it be you move up there with him, he deferrs for a year or you stay where you are. are you both still together or have you spearated while he is at uni?

we are staying together for uni! So at least i know he loves me! hmmm this is so hard!!

which uni is he going to?

when are you going to tell him?

 

[lovemy bump]

how far along do you think you are ? x

 

[Miss_d]

what about saying that your period is late and do the test together and see what he says from that! whatever you decide i wish you all the best. x