I ruined my life!!

[mommyx5]

Hi Im new and very happy to have found this forum! I am separated almost a year. Have 4 kids with my ex and now pregnant with #5...15 weeks. Not my exes child but someone new I was seeing who decided to go back to his ex..so now I am a single mom of 4 soon to be 5!! ughhhhh

My ex moved away and only sees the kids once every few months so it is pretty brutal never having a break! I am moving back to my home town in a few months..to be closer to my family, I need all the help I can get! And that is where my kids dad is.

Not sure if fob will come around. He asked for time and I stupidly told him he could have til baby was born.. I really regret that! I havent spoken to him in weeks. He hasnt told anyone and I have only told a few ppl I trust who the father is. My ex and kids and most of my friends and family dont even know im pregnant!!! So Im feeling pretty isolated Im not showing yet but wont be able to hide it forever!

 

[Dezireey]

Hi and welcome, it's a very supportive forum and it's helped me
and hopefully reading and talking about other single parents experiences will help you too.

I'm sorry you are not with FOB and he's gone back to his ex, it sucks. He may come around, he may not, who knows with some of these men? Best for you though, like I tell others who come on here, is to just accept that he has gone for good and concentrate solely on your health and your baby and try not to get too stressed, easier said than done but try anyway.

You sound like a strong lady already looking after your kids. They are hard work that's for sure but you've managed this far, I reckon you'll still cope with another one. I think it's lovely to have such a big family. I regret not having kids sooner in my life, I'm 39 now and have my one boy, would have loved a brood. Xmas must be fun at your place lol

Hugs xx

 

[whatwillbe]

Hi hun, im in a similar situation, i have 3 kids by my ex, im now having a baby by sime one else, hes also gone back to his ex too, so im gonna be a single mom of 4 soon, im not expecting fob to come back to me now and after how hes treated me i couldnt take him back again, no matter how much i would want to, you have to think hes left you alone carrying his baby, and if you took him back thered be nothing stopping him doing it again, and you and you lo dont deserve that ! Its good that your moving back cliser to your family for support, i wish i was closer to my family / friends aswell cos it does get tiring with no help, but we're moms and stronger than we think, keep ur chin up x