I think he's told his family that our youngest isn't his :/

[Snowball]

This is the impression I'm getting

FOB's family haven't ever met our youngest (now 7 months old). For a start I was lead to believe that it was because I'd got upset over his affair (obviously you are not entitled to do that) but as time's gone on something isn't ringing quite right.

He has said to me on more than one occasion about Louie's paternity. I am not sure how he worked things out in his head but I think to justify his infidelity he tarnished me with the same brush... Obviously, I wasn't sleeping around as I was married

When Louie was born his family got nothing for him. They got things for our other 3 children for birthdays last year, Louie's birth was missed out (none of the others births were) and they gave him a few bits for xmas along with the others. At no point have they asked to see him (they haven't seen our other 3 children since the affair coming out either).

I mentioned this last night to him on the phone and said about them not thinking he was his child or if he had told them that and he couldn't answer the question . I mean, if you are wrongly accused of something you at least say that a fact is wrong don't you?

I refuse to let him see Louie until I have answers now because I do think that's what's been said and if so, that's sick. I am so fuming about this. One of our other children was really sick in the night and I haven't even bothered to tell him today (same as I did with our daughter the otherday), it's not like he'll get off his arse and help out anyway

Rant over.

 

[JA1988]

What a tosspot and more fool his family, it's their loss. Have you asked his family why they haven't even been to see Louie?

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i think it's digusting for them to act like that! Why aare theybeing sspiteful towards a baby? Missing his birthday out yet buying for the other 3 is so cruel xx

 

[try4girl]

my friends ex and his family do this and she has the DNA test to prove that the youngest is his. So every year she collects the things they mail her in a closest to give the kids and she waits to she if they send the youngest one anything and if they don't she takes and mails it all back to them. She did this one year then the nest she collected them again that time they sent to all the kids. Just to be on the safe side the third year she collected them again and some how they forgot the youngest again so she mailed them back now she just sends them back by putting return to sender she said she got sick of paying to mail them back. I hope they get the hint.

 

[Snowball]

I've never asked them why they've never bothered to see him. The invite was always there but apparently they hate me so much they can't face having to see me to be able to see Louie... Although this is the version of events FOB has given me so god knows what's actually true because I think he lies to me and his family to keep some form of peace in his own mind.

I do believe that they believe Louie is the result of me sleeping about though (chance would be a fine thing!). I think there's no other reason for their utter disrespect of their grandchild and as I said before, if he hasn't said it then why not just answer the question?

 

[mom2pne]

I am so sorry! I have been thinking of you lately and I find this post.

His family is totally messed up and I think the only thing that really can be done is to get a paternity test and prove that you did no wrong and the baby is their grandchild!

But man they are real pieces of work! My second ds is not my dh's and his whole family has been their since before I had him and even through all of Ty's health issues with his heart defects, ADHD and Autism. They know that a child needs love from all and I think they would have given their hearts to save him if needed.

I hope they get it together, but like I said above proving he's the father is the best answer!

 

[Donna35]

I've never asked them why they've never bothered to see him. The invite was always there but apparently they hate me so much they can't face having to see me to be able to see Louie... Although this is the version of events FOB has given me so god knows what's actually true because I think he lies to me and his family to keep some form of peace in his own mind.

I do believe that they believe Louie is the result of me sleeping about though (chance would be a fine thing!). I think there's no other reason for their utter disrespect of their grandchild and as I said before, if he hasn't said it then why not just answer the question?

Something doesn't ring true here hun - how can they hate you so much without good reason? You've been a good wife and an outstanding mother so he MUST be feeding them some pile of sh1te about you. Arse xxx

 

[Snowball]

The reason they hate me (so he's told me) is because before he left and we was having that heavy snow he claimed to be 'snowed in' at work for 3 days (later to be found out that he was infact playing meet the parents at her house). I called his mum and told her that we were running out of food... which we was. We had food but it was stuff like stale bread, brown bananas etc. I couldn't get out to the shop because I only had a little old banger as he'd taken our big car off to her house. Plus I had severe bronchitis and all the symptoms of miscarrying. I just wanted him home.

He came home and deemed that we did have enough food to survive (it was okay for him being catered for all that time I suppose!) and now he says his family won't speak to me because I lied about food

It's all bollocks I think. He's got to have fed them some shit because on the whole I feel like the innocent party in what happened as I wasn't shagging/lying/abandoning/being a general twat. I am upset though that all of this is taken out on Louie and that his paternity seems constantly in doubt. I know I'd have been mortified if my dad had even voiced his doubts over me being his child. I think it's cruel

I've asked him several time to do a paternity test, I've got nothing to hide. He's refused though... he knows I've done nothing wrong.

 

[SilasLove]

Complete jerk, and so is his family. Despite what he may be telling them they should have enough balls to be a part of that baby's life no matter what. They could easily take a DNA test as grandparents to figure it out if their doubts are that big!

My mother always had a rule - take 1, take all type of thing. No matter what they should acknowledge him with something. Its all shady to me and completely on another level of low.