I told my mum

[Blah11]

She's not being supportive at all. She basically told me to abort or my life is over. I am absolutely gutted.

 

[Suz]

Its not her choice its your choice.... Do what is best for you....

 

[AppleBlossom]

Aww hun, sorry to hear this. At the end of the day though, it's your choice not your mums. You need to think long and hard about what you want to do. If you decide to keep it then your mum may eventually come round. Hope everything works out for you x

 

[Blah11]

I'm not aborting nor was I ever planning on. I'm just so upset that she isn't being supportive and is SO disappointed in me.

 

[AppleBlossom]

She's bound to feel dissappointed, I think most parents of teen mums are at first, I know my parents were. But they did come round

 

[Mynxie]

sorry to hear that she isn't supportive. If you want this baby sweetheart, you keep this baby. No one can make you do otherwise x

 

[Blah11]

I'm 20, not even a teen anymore. She actually thinks I planned it too when I reallllllllllllllly didn't.

 

[leeanne]

Aww, honey, I am sorry. Perhaps in a week or two she might come around and be supportive. I hope so anyhow! Best wishes to you!

 

[Carley]

Just do what is best for you; that's all you can do. Those who love you won't leave you.

 

[Ema]

Do whats best for you hun. XXX

 

[carries]

Awww sorry she wasnt more supportive hun but maybe it was just the shock. if you stay calm and explain to her you are keeping the baby, hopefully she will come round given time.

 

[mrs-mickeyd2b]

my mum was orginally like that because she had big plans for my future..she had planned me to go to college to complete level 3 beauty therapy (already done level 2) and then eventually level 4 & 5 (foundation degrees in beauty therapy) she told my my life had ended and it was best for me to abort..but i told her that i was still goin to do all those things but it would just have to be in a few years time. shes come round now..only thing is we've not telt my dad yet..but i dont live with him - only see him at weekends. im only 12 weeks so its early..anyways this is ur post not mine lol..ur mum will come round but DONT have an abortion if its not what u want..because if u do it for ur mum u will resent her! and will never forgive ur self or her. xx

 

[Jodie__x]

My mum was exactly the same at first ! .. but now shes more then excited !

 

[YummyMummy]

My Mum was like that wen i told here...she even said she would kick me out...but she didnt...u gotta give her tym hopefully she will come round...my mum called me all sorts of names and told me my life was over and she was disappointed..but ask her nw shes over da moon abt being a granny in her 30's and shes prob bought more stuff 4 him dan anyone else she even made her gym room into his room cause im stayin at mums 4 a while x

dont worry urself just do what's best for you and baby think about what u want 2 cause its u raising him or her not anyone else x

and CONGRATULATIONS hun

 

[nikky0907]

She can't make you do anything.And once she realises that this baby is happening,she'll be there for both of you...

 

[yumm_ymummy]

hey im 17 and 26+4, when i told my mum she hit the roof, and booked me in for a termination the following weeks, i just told her i wasnt going to go through with is and after about a week or two sh was amazing. Now my mum is reall supportive as babies father isnt around she is my financial back bone.

hope this helps xx

 

[leedsforever]

My mum wasnt great about it all either but now she cant wait!!! Im sure she will come round!!! Good luck hun!! Its horrible feeling like you dont have your mum around but this is your decision and she will need to accept it!! Shes going to be a grandmother after all!!! chin up!! Hope everything works out ok xxx

 

[Ann-Marie]

I'm sorry you've not had a positive reaction from your Mum, at what must be a really tough time for you

I can say though, that I think I can understand your Mum's initial reaction. You're her baby, and she just wants what best for you. You have to talk to her, and try to understand that this is a shock for her just as much as it wouldn have been for you. If you show understanding, then hopefully she will mirror that.

It is your decision to have this baby, but you wil need support, so try not to push your Mum away

 

[Emmea12uk]

I am so sorry she wasnt supportive. 20 is not so young! You are prefectly capable of having this baby and continuing with your life and doing everything you wanted to do. i am sure your mum will come around once the shock has worn off. maybe it will take her to see your courage and determination before she can support you.

 

[Blah11]

Yeah, you guys were right thank goodness

She said today she was over the shock ans is now okay and quite excited. Obviously she just wants whats best for me but she says she isn't really that surprised since she knew I'd have babies early since I'm baby mad! haha.

Anyway, it's a HUGE relief that she's supporting me and my decision now and has told me I'm capable of being a great mother