Hi Not suure if you all remember me! formally known as hayley on an old forum... anyway i'm now jacobs mum! Not trying (yet) but didn't know where else to add my post. I want advice really! the thing is i want another baby (one day) but my husband doesn't. For the people who don't remember me... my husband is 18 yrs older .. but lookin good anyway when we started trying we decided just the one! and i did agree... even thou i always wanted 2, but we decided to meet in the middle (he never expected to have one at all) Anyway - since having jacob i've started to re-think the situation. I don't one another right away. I'd like to start trying in 2 yrs. (want jacob to be the baby for a while longer - he's nearly 11 mnths old) - he agree's with me on this! Am i being selfish wanting another? I can understand my husbands feeling. He wants to retire one day - like before he's 100! (he's 50 now) He's a wonderful dad - has more patience than he had when he became a dad first time around with his first wife! He looks after himself (gym at least 5 times a day - eats well, never smoked, not a big drinker) So physically he doesn't see it as a prblem. He just feels that he's gonna be working all his life to put 2 children throu uni... I've told him parents are not expected to pay the whole uni bill... I supported myself when I studying. We don't struggle paying bills - we both work full time! we don't have lots of spare cash but we manage. (holiday each year, a car each which we save up for) He says i'm not being fair to him going back on what we agreed which i know! but i can't help my feelings. He says if we improve our finances greatly he'll consider it.. so it's not that he realy don't want another child... just that he worries finacially which i can understand... i really can't see our finances improving greatly in 2 years. We'll still have the same mortgage.. cars (which we need for work).. the same bills etc... so unless we win the lottery (might start putting it on now) it looks like i'm never gonna have another baby! Am I being unfair.. a bitch for going back on what we agreed... ??? thanks for listening - well reading!