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LilMiss_91
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If you've read my other post, you will know that I found out yesterday at my 12wk scan that I lost my baby at around 7wks. You will also know, that I had known for some time and suspected a MMC was the case. As it was something I'd suspected I researched a lot in the couple of weeks upto my scan to find out what to expect. And I decided then that I wanted to deal with my baby's remains properly. However, I'm going for medical management on Monday evening and after talking with the Dr found out that hospital policy is to send the tissue to pathology. Which means I wouldn't be able to bury them.
Would it be wrong of me to sneak the tissue home and not hand it over? Could I get into trouble if I did this? I just can't stand the idea of my tiny baby being either thrown away with medical waste or thrown into a big incinerator like rubbish. If anything was mentioned I would just say that it must have come away when I went to the loo or something. If I did this do you know how the best way to protect my baby would be until I got home? In water? In an airtight bag? It feels so bizarre to be asking these questions but I just want to be able to give my baby the most respectful, peaceful departure I can. My idea is to make a little soft blankie pouch to put the remains in, find a picture of myself OH and DS, a tiny teddy and write a little note and put them all in a nice little box and bury it. Over which I'll plant a rose.
Would it be wrong of me to sneak the tissue home and not hand it over? Could I get into trouble if I did this? I just can't stand the idea of my tiny baby being either thrown away with medical waste or thrown into a big incinerator like rubbish. If anything was mentioned I would just say that it must have come away when I went to the loo or something. If I did this do you know how the best way to protect my baby would be until I got home? In water? In an airtight bag? It feels so bizarre to be asking these questions but I just want to be able to give my baby the most respectful, peaceful departure I can. My idea is to make a little soft blankie pouch to put the remains in, find a picture of myself OH and DS, a tiny teddy and write a little note and put them all in a nice little box and bury it. Over which I'll plant a rose.