samsugar7
1 Son + 5yr step daughter
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My SIL has been trying for years has had 1 round of IVF and 1 IUI and not caught, her OH drinks like a fish so the family think that that cant be helping.
When i caught with Jaden we had to have a family meeting without her to discuss how and when to tell her and what i had to do to involve her with the pregnancy (yes i was told by OH's parents that i had to involve her at every step so she didnt feel left out) She literally cried for a week and refused to talk to me for 4 months as apparently i was being selfish having a child when i knew she couldnt have one.
She is still a bit funny but does interact with her nephew, but there are still digs about me pushing Jaden in her face and things like that. OH has one daughter who is 5 who stays every other w/e but he has said he would like another, i am keen to have another in the next 2 years to get it over and done with so to speak. Then i can spend time enjoying my children rather than dreading the pregnancy bit lol.
But what do i do? I understand how she feels and how horrid it must be for her to see people close to her having children but am i being selfish wanting aonther child? MIL and her are very close and im worried about making a rift in the family. On the other hand should i even be thinking seriously about putting my life on hold just because she with throw her dummy out of the pram again.
I want honest answers and will answer any questions if i have left any details out.
Sam x
When i caught with Jaden we had to have a family meeting without her to discuss how and when to tell her and what i had to do to involve her with the pregnancy (yes i was told by OH's parents that i had to involve her at every step so she didnt feel left out) She literally cried for a week and refused to talk to me for 4 months as apparently i was being selfish having a child when i knew she couldnt have one.
She is still a bit funny but does interact with her nephew, but there are still digs about me pushing Jaden in her face and things like that. OH has one daughter who is 5 who stays every other w/e but he has said he would like another, i am keen to have another in the next 2 years to get it over and done with so to speak. Then i can spend time enjoying my children rather than dreading the pregnancy bit lol.
But what do i do? I understand how she feels and how horrid it must be for her to see people close to her having children but am i being selfish wanting aonther child? MIL and her are very close and im worried about making a rift in the family. On the other hand should i even be thinking seriously about putting my life on hold just because she with throw her dummy out of the pram again.
I want honest answers and will answer any questions if i have left any details out.
Sam x