I'm fuming!

[OmarsMum]

Omar asked me to put perfume on his cheeks today as there is this boy who keeps sniffing him and he tells him that he stinks!

This boy has been picking on Omar since the beginning of the year, his teacher is really nice and she is trying her best to keep the class under control

Today Omar was really upset and refused to go into the class until I spoke to his teacher. She asked the boy to apologise but he wasn't bothered and was kind of rude. Omar had tears in his eyes and asked to go back home with me. He told me that his tummy hurts! There was nothing wrong with him but he was panicking.

When I reached home my husband was fuming! He asked me to call the HOD and officially complain

I called and complained and now I'm waiting for them to call back. I messaged his teacher and told her that we complained as the kid's parents should be involved

We pay USD 10k for tuition, I'm not paying all this money for my child to be bullied at school. All his t-shirts have pens marks on the back!

I feel bad for him, he is well behaved at school , he loves his teacher but all this is affecting him emotionally

 

[aimee-lou]

Bullies really do make me sick....poor Omar!

You are absolutely in the right to complain and you're a lot more calm than I would have been. Pick on my boy....deal with me!

Hope they deal with it quickly and properly and don't just let it go.

 

[Natsku]

Poor Omar Hope you can get this dealt with quickly and easily.

 

[OmarsMum]

I had a meeting with the HOD and his teacher today after school. They had a meeting with him earlier today. They encouraged him to speak up immediately when he gets bullied and they taught him some techniques to defend himself.

The poor child is trying to fit in this is why he is not complaining.

I raised many concerns about his day at school, I'm happy now the HOD is involved. She will be monitoring him closely to work on his social issues and his relationships in class with his peers

The HOD will sit one on one with the other child and she will call his parents for a meeting to discuss his behavioural issues.

Overall I was happy with the outcomes of the meeting and I really hope they work on all my concerns xx

 

[aimee-lou]

I'm glad the meeting seemed positive. I really hope things improve.

 

[Natasha2605]

I hope things improve. Poor Omar

 

[RachA]

I'm glad that the HOD has taken this on board and hopefully things will get better for Omar.

I truely hope though that someone actually takes this bully on one side and looks into why he is being a bully. Bullies are usually being bullied or have been in the past and they need just as much help as the child being bullied. I'd actually be tempted to invite this child home to play with Omar. He's probably very insecure.

 

[OmarsMum]

I'm glad that the HOD has taken this on board and hopefully things will get better for Omar.

I truely hope though that someone actually takes this bully on one side and looks into why he is being a bully. Bullies are usually being bullied or have been in the past and they need just as much help as the child being bullied. I'd actually be tempted to invite this child home to play with Omar. He's probably very insecure.

That's not really an option, 1st his parents are never around, a Somalian house maid who doesn't speak English and only speaks poor Arabic usually drop him and picks him up from school. The culture here is totally different than the UK. I don't even know the nationality of the child, I think he is local and locals don't usually socialize with expats

I honestly don't care how they're going to handle this bully as long as he stays away from my child.

I have enough on my plate and trying to solve this child's issues is not even on my list.

Many children here are raised by unqualified house maids, it is a huge problem here.

 

[sierraecho89]

Okay, this will seem totally counter-intuitive, but I do have some advice that has worked in the past for some of my students (admittedly, this works better for girls than boys, but it's something to think about...)

The next time your son is bullied, I'd advise him to find something to compliment the other little kid on--his shoes, the way he's wearing his hair, something he said earlier that he thought was smart--this usually stops bullies in their tracks. I had a girl who was frequently picked on by another boy in my class; every day he'd whisper her name under his breath and would randomly jab her with a pencil. She tried this strategy the day after we spoke about it, and he never bothered her again!

There's a quote... "Be nice to your enemies, it makes them mad!" For some, yeah, it does, but what are they going to say? "So and so said I have a nice shirt?" But more often than not, it ends with your student being the bigger person and modeling what kindness looks like while stopping the unwanted behavior. Anyway, just a suggestion--take it or leave it! =)

 

[RachA]

I'm glad that the HOD has taken this on board and hopefully things will get better for Omar.

I truely hope though that someone actually takes this bully on one side and looks into why he is being a bully. Bullies are usually being bullied or have been in the past and they need just as much help as the child being bullied. I'd actually be tempted to invite this child home to play with Omar. He's probably very insecure.

That's not really an option, 1st his parents are never around, a Somalian house maid who doesn't speak English and only speaks poor Arabic usually drop him and picks him up from school. The culture here is totally different than the UK. I don't even know the nationality of the child, I think he is local and locals don't usually socialize with expats

I honestly don't care how they're going to handle this bully as long as he stays away from my child.

I have enough on my plate and trying to solve this child's issues is not even on my list.

Many children here are raised by unqualified house maids, it is a huge problem here.

That's fair enough.

I wasn't suggesting that you try to solve the issue-just an idea of one way of trying to deal with it. And also that the school should be looking into why this bully is a bully rather than just coming down on him hard

I liked Sierra's suggestion

 

[OmarsMum]

There is a huge language barrier, Omar is more fluent in English, the kid doesnt speak English and I cant even understand his Arabic, this is another issue with socialisation at school, even the key teacher asks an Arabic teacher to be around when she speaks to this kid as he doesn't speak English and the key teacher is American.

Omar's friend mum called me tonight, and I was telling her about all this, and she told me that this kid touched her child's willy! and he also picks on her son in class! I didnt know about this, and at school they didn't mention that this mum complained earlier. Now she is planning to complain the HOD

Now I am sure that this kid has serious issues, and I dont want him around my son!

 

[RachA]

Sounds very complicated.

I doubt the HOD would of said if someone else has complained. It's got though if this other child's parents are willing to complain though.

 

[Jchihuahua]

Oh no, poor Omar . That made me sad to read that . It does sound like the school staff are taking it seriously so hopefully they can make things easier for him.

Slightly different as he is a lot younger, but Tommy is having problems at pre-school. He started in January and LOVED in but this last 2 weeks he is having nightmares and waking up sobbing and he is crying every morning, begging us not to make him go and saying he is unwell to try and avoid going to pre-school all because one older boy has been saying he will beat him up and other really horrible things I don't even want to write . Tommy is terrified. He has always been at home with us until he started pre-school and has never had to deal with not feeling safe before. It breaks your heart doesn't it seeing this happen to them when we have spent their whole lives nurturing them .

 

[aimee-lou]

OmarsMum - well that changes the game a little. I really hope that the other mum puts in a proper complaint. It sounds like that boy has issues which he needs help with and hopefully if the school get enough evidence they can make referrals etc and get it for him. Hope things improve quickly.

Jchihuahua - oh my word Poor Tommy! I really hope he's ok and that things are being dealt with at his school for him. It is horrible as you feel so powerless, especially as it's only pre-school and is meant to be about fun nd play.

We had an issue with a boy in Earl's class. Thankfully he didn't really go for Earl (Earl's one of the tallest/oldest and I think this works in his favour lol) but he was picking on/hitting a number of children in his class including a couple of Earl's friends. it's taken them a few months but they've now got the boy a one-to-one TA for the majority of the school day and he seems to be making progress and the children are no longer frightened of him (although I have it on good authority from Earl that he's still naughty a lot of the time and is the reason why his class rarely get the 'good behaviour badge' at Friday assembly which I think is a bit unfair but still).

 

[seoj]

I'm certainly glad someone is stepping in-- seems there is a lot going on. Hope Omar is doing well and holding his own. I know how awful it feels when your child is bullied. My teenager got it quit a bit from a group of girls at school (especially her 8th/9th grade years). Lucky it got better and they eventually moved on. My daughter tried her best not to let it affect her- she's a very self assured girl, but I know it was tough. On me too! As the school could only do so much- but I was about to the point where I was going to be "that mom" when it finally settled.

Momma bear comes out when our kids are being pushed around... whether they are little or teenagers. But so hard when they are little- as they don't really get it yet. Ugh. I'm sorry your both dealing with all this. Hope it's sorted soon!!!

 

[OmarsMum]

JC - poor Tommy it is heart breaking, big hugs

Thanks all for you comments & support

He had a good day yesterday, his teacher moved him from band 2 to band 5 in reading and he's been bragging about it all day loool

I really hope they work on the other kid's issues and take it seriously. My friend is going to complain to the HOD, I'm seeing her today after school at karate class, her son is so sweet and well behaved child