I'm sick of baby names.

[SaraVO]

I am so ready to just give up and tell my husband to decide. I spend so much time googling name lists I feel like I did trying to find a wedding dress. Over shopped, irritated and just want to get it over with. I want him to have a name. He is moving around in there and I am starting to feel like I know him and I feel guilty that this little man who wiggles around when I play Nina Simone and Nat king Cole and who kicks when my dog barks at me and always wakes up to my husband's voice it's like he has a little personality in there but he doesn't have a name yet. I just say he or little boy.. I feel guilty about it but I just can't go through another alphabetized name list. Anyone else feeling frustrated and stressed at this whole process? My husband decided no family names he wants him to have his own identity but seriously I thought we would just go through our families and pick a name. Trying to find one out in the universe just feels so weird and unnatural to me but he isn't going to change his mind... and I don't blame him. There is a LOT of repetition in both our families.. seriously there are currently seven living Michaels on my side, seven!!

 

[staralfur]

Maybe just take a break for a while if you can (if you're not due right away). My LO didn't have a name until she was born because I didn't like anything while I was pregnant, there's nothing to feel bad about. Honestly, once she was born the name didn't feel like such a big deal because she was actually here and I knew whatever her name was, I would grow to love it because it's hers.

It should be a fun decision, so give it the time you need and don't let it stress you out. In the long run it's never going to matter if he didn't have a name until he was born - heck, some people even go weeks after the baby is born before deciding. There's really no rush.

 

[diz]

I feel your pain. I. Due in two weeks and we have no name for our little boy...nothing. I've been through so many babies names that they all blend in to one and the thought of him being born and having no name for two weeks is stressing me out. With my other two boys, the names came whilst I was pregnant and they just felt right. I wish the same would happen this time round xx

 

[Amygdala]

You could try giving him a nickname for now to take the pressure off the name search a little?

Once you're head is cleared a little, you could try looking in a different way, eg think of a meaning you'd like the name to have and then google it or think of someone you'd like to be an inspiration to them (a writer, book or film character, musician, scientists, religious figure...?). I agree with you, A-Z lists are just draining.

 

[Lucy3]

I feel the same! I'm so over looking at lists online. I'm hoping one just feels right when she's here. I like your view, staralfur

 

[SaraVO]

I brought it up to my husband again and he said that he was not going to rush or stress about it and it's too big of a decision to just decide because I want something to call my belly he is comfortable just saying he or him and it will either come to us or we will really start to work on it closer to my due date. He is not a man that makes fast decisions about anything so I pretty much know that I'm going to have to get used to waiting awhile. But he isn't hiding anything and there is no hidden agenda he just feels as though we are going to hear it and know and he is going to be patient until that happens.

 

[KimmieHawkins]

Don't stress it. It'll come to you. my youngest we didn't pick a name until 3 hours before we were discharged after his birth. lol

 

[Blu10]

Im approaching 38 weeks with a boy and we still dont have a name sorted and nothing even close. Im really fed up with the comments now from people who think we have a name and are keeping it a secret! Im really not that precious, boy names are just too hard 😕

 

[wonderstruck]

I never realized how hard it was to find good boy names! I don't even know what I'm having yet but I am almost hoping for a girl just because me and the bf can't agree on any boy names and I have yet to find one that I LOVE. It's so frustrating.

 

[SaraVO]

It's nice to hear it's not just me. Thanks everyone. There are names we like. But we don't want to feel like we're just settling. Like picking out the prettiest plant out of a pile. We want to be moved. My husband says that he thinks it will be a moment that we just hear it and voila' we will just magically know what our son's name will be.... but he also gets disappointed when he doesn't win the lottery and it takes him months to decide on every. Single. Purchase. Like our freezer. It took him a year to pick one out. It took him five months of him driving me every where to choose just the right car for me. I'm worried that I'm going to be in labor and my husband is still going to be waiting for a special sign. Normally I love how careful he is. And heck I'm flattered he said he knew I was going to be his wife after a month. I would just like to be a little organized, analytical, make a list write the pros and cons for the names on the list and just make an informed, concise well thought out decision. But, I guess that is what makes my marriage special. We just don't think the same.

 

[Qmama79]

It's nice to hear it's not just me. Thanks everyone. There are names we like. But we don't want to feel like we're just settling. Like picking out the prettiest plant out of a pile. We want to be moved. My husband says that he thinks it will be a moment that we just hear it and voila' we will just magically know what our son's name will be.... but he also gets disappointed when he doesn't win the lottery and it takes him months to decide on every. Single. Purchase. Like our freezer. It took him a year to pick one out. It took him five months of him driving me every where to choose just the right car for me. I'm worried that I'm going to be in labor and my husband is still going to be waiting for a special sign. Normally I love how careful he is. And heck I'm flattered he said he knew I was going to be his wife after a month. I would just like to be a little organized, analytical, make a list write the pros and cons for the names on the list and just make an informed, concise well thought out decision. But, I guess that is what makes my marriage special. We just don't think the same.

Are we married to the same man??? Sounds soooo familiar. At least there is one name we both like. But like yourself, we don't want to exclude other beautiful boys names.
He is however killing me with; we have plenty of time- thing. We choose our dogs name on the way to the breeder, even though we'd known fr weeks that we were getting him. My son came early at 36w & we literally had to go through books & miles of lists to find a name we would like...(Luckily it took 2 full days fr son to actually arrive - I wld have been devastated if we didn't have a name for him when he was born).
Good luck!

 

[ClairAye]

Maybe just take a break for a while if you can (if you're not due right away). My LO didn't have a name until she was born because I didn't like anything while I was pregnant, there's nothing to feel bad about. Honestly, once she was born the name didn't feel like such a big deal because she was actually here and I knew whatever her name was, I would grow to love it because it's hers.

It should be a fun decision, so give it the time you need and don't let it stress you out. In the long run it's never going to matter if he didn't have a name until he was born - heck, some people even go weeks after the baby is born before deciding. There's really no rush.

This! Neither of my kids had names until after they were born and it only took a short few hours, if that both times, too. I wouldn't try stress about it so much. Sometimes it's easier to put a name to a face once baby is born.

 

[LillyFleur]

I feel your pain! I'm set on a boys name but have lists of girl names and don't love any of them, I spend way to much time searching the net for names.

Worst things is I'm team yellow, so all my obsessing may be a big fat waste of time.