I'm SO Annoyed.

[lorrilou]

I was told by a child psycologist today that it is totally normal for babies to go through a clingy phase around 8-9 months - that's when they start to realise that they are separate from their mum.

definately agree. ive been back to work for the last 3 wks now and although callum is fine when i leave him with my mum, as soon as i walk through the door he is stuck to me!! cant put him down or he just screams until i cuddle him again!! (its annoying but i secretly love it!!!)

dont let anyone tell you what to do with your child. if she's spoilt then so be it!! its got fuck all to do with them!!

 

[Baby-Love]

What I can't understand is how do you put up with the noise of the baby screaming for 15 minutes, I'd go insane.

A 6 week old baby doesn't cry because they are being naughty, they cry because something is wrong. How can fixing whatever is wrong be considered as spoiling a baby. Sorry, but I'm not into letting my baby suffer.

I feel exactly the same way.

 

[Baby-Love]

I was told by a child psycologist today that it is totally normal for babies to go through a clingy phase around 8-9 months - that's when they start to realise that they are separate from their mum.

definately agree. ive been back to work for the last 3 wks now and although callum is fine when i leave him with my mum, as soon as i walk through the door he is stuck to me!! cant put him down or he just screams until i cuddle him again!! (its annoying but i secretly love it!!!)

dont let anyone tell you what to do with your child. if she's spoilt then so be it!! its got fuck all to do with them!!

Indeed.. thanks.

 

[Christine33]

your right hun - they are wrong! my wee man is only 2weeks 5days old and if he cries i pick him up and hold him as long as he wants to be held! i mean, he is only a baby! they just want comfort and warmth. for me everything comes second - he comes first. you are just being a good caring mum.



Christine
XXX

 

[Sarah88]

What a load of bullshit! She's 6wks old for christs sake! Of course she's going to want her mummy! Thats why I bought a baby sling, coz I want her to trust me and if she needs to be with me then so be it- at least i'll still have use of my arms.
Good for you for not making her lay and cry for ages before you pick her up!

 

[princess_bump]

i agree with you all, thats just disgusting! big how are you supposed to leave a baby crying! when your child is distressed you comfort them!

 

[AppleBlossom]

Ok, let them pass out?? That's awful! My midwife told me that for the first 3 months you should hold them when they want to be held but after that you should try and cut it down gradually. Grace will not settle by herself and whenever she wakes up she needs a bottle straight away because all she knows is when she wakes up she should have a bottle there because she always has. And also sometimes she will not stay down in her pram, bouncy chair etc and cries and cries until you pick her up and then she's fine. On one hand I want to be able to let her settle herself and not need a bottle every time she cries and I admit a few times I have put her down when she was still awake to see if she went down herself on the advice of the midwife and she's cried. Once she did eventually settle but any other time her cries have been really heartbreaking and I've had to go in and give her a cuddle and settle her myself and I've never let her cry for more than 2 minutes. She is only 7 weeks, it's not spoiling her, she doesn't know any different than being close to her mummy and although I'd love the sleep I'd rather be cuddling her knowing she was content and happy than leave her to cry

 

[leeanne]

I was told by a child psycologist today that it is totally normal for babies to go through a clingy phase around 8-9 months - that's when they start to realise that they are separate from their mum.

This is very true. Actually, it can start at 7 months.

It's called separation anxiety. It is not only the mother they do it to, but the father as well.

 

[marley2580]

Kaya's getting worse with it, it's driving me round the bend. But I keep reminding myself that she'll grow out of it and before too long she'll never want me around lol.

 

[luckyme225]

your in the right hun it's your baby, they don't need to be telling you what to do.

 

[cherylanne]

I always breastfed Grace on demand and if she cried i haeld her. I don't think this is spoiling the baby, it's what mummy's are for!! There is no such thing as spoiling a newborn.

Your doing a great job hun, don't listen to people like that, they are cruel in my eyes. Your LO will grow up knowing security and love and that's the best kind of parenting.

 

[Baby-Love]

your right hun - they are wrong! my wee man is only 2weeks 5days old and if he cries i pick him up and hold him as long as he wants to be held! i mean, he is only a baby! they just want comfort and warmth. for me everything comes second - he comes first. you are just being a good caring mum.



Christine
XXX

Thanks.

 

[Baby-Love]

Kaya's getting worse with it, it's driving me round the bend. But I keep reminding myself that she'll grow out of it and before too long she'll never want me around lol.

Some days are better than others...lol I actually had an hour without her in my arms while she was awake, course Daddy was holding her..and eventually she feel asleep without me.

 

[mickey]

I had to listen from friends who don't even have children how I should go about my parenting style!

I'm telling you, I got so annoyed with them, and apparently it was the end of the friendship!

since then, I promised myself, I will just not listen to anybody wanting to tell me anything about my baby anymore!

I will just nodd in agreement, and what they say will come in the right ear and go out the left ear immedately!

my girl is 9 months old and I still pick her up all the time when she needs me, apparently very often atm as she has a spurt!!! through those spurts huge developmental stages are reached all of a sudden! must be very sacry for them, e.g. you only can see 30 cm far and all of a sudden you can see everyhting!

I totally agree with you, follow your instincts and if your instinct tells you your LO needs you attend to her!