I'm so furious i could smash something, please help!

[babydream]

After my 1st FS appointment last week which was a complete nightmare i decided to go to another clinic but still have the tests at my local hospital. So i was happy to receive the app for an internal scan for 6th May. Today i started spotting and have cramps so i called for an app for the hsg thinking that 'oh great this is gonna be quick'...the woman told me that i can't have the scan and the hsg in the same month so i have to wait for my next cycle to have it!!!!(I have irregular cycles and it could take up to 50days) Soooo...every single test or procedure has to be in different cycles?????? Why hasn't the doc told me about this when i was there??? How long is it gonna take to finally get somewhere???? App for next visit came through the post for 22nd August!!! They gonna give me clomid or whatever i need in August and nothing until then??? I'm soooo mad i can't even tell you. I just cried my eyes out for the past hour and i could just throw up i'm so upset. Have all of you went through the same the same way???

 

[KittyCat82]

Hi Hun

Sorry you are so upset. My experience isnt as bad as yours so I can only send hugs but didnt want to read and run. I had my 3rd FS app this am and been told they wont do anything for us till November and if we want IVF we have to do 6 months worth of IUI first which is very disappointing. We have made an appointment to see a private FS in May as I am just so fed up now this is really affecting my health. And the FS was so smug about it all and kept referring to me as 'wife' and basically said that I was being unreasonable about taking clomid (i had AWFUL side effects).

I was told by the nurse over the phone when I made the appointment that there was no strict criteria and we could go for IVF now...where she got this from I dont know!!

Hope you are feeling a bit better hun. This whole process can be very long and frustrating-I am assured that you forget all about it once you get your BFP though!! x

 

[MrsBrooks]

Hi hunni,

So sorry to hear your upset. I had all my blood tests in the same cycle so might be worth asking again. I can totally relate to how your feeling, so frustrating it drives you mad.

Hope your ok

x x x x

 

[babydream]

Awww Kittycat, you have been on this journey for much longer than i have and you still have to wait till November??? Now i feel stupid for whining, i have to realize that it is going to be a long journey for me too. I hope you'll get lucky before Nov and can conceive naturally by then. x x

Mrs Brooks, yes i had all my blood test in the same cycle, i don't understand why i can't have an internal scan and an hsg in the same one too. Complicated!!

Anyway, i can't just sit around and wait for these tests and appointment doing nothing, i just looked into cranial osteopathy and acupuncture at my local area and thinking of ordering a fertility yoga dvd. I'm sooooo gonna get pregnant naturally and nhs can do me a favour!!!!

 

[KristyHart]

Hi hun

Sounds like you are having a rough time getting there.

Im not sure if it is cos our problem is on hubbys side or not, but ive only had blood tests to prove im ovulating... plus the HIV ones etc to get reffered but ours went through so quickly..

Can you ask for Herts & Essex where you are? As I was away on one month they needed to do a test and I had to wait til month after, I booked in for an open evening at Herts & Essex. This way I had something to look forward to and I felt like I was doing something practical.

If you want to chat at anytime, just PM me


Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[LizzB]

Hi,

It's awful isn't it? You feel so helpless being in everyone else's hands. We had a nightmare with nhs appointments being cancelled and doctors being rude.

I'm on my second ICSI, we had a failed one back in Jan, and if i'm honest the main thing this whole fertility journey has taught me is that nothing is straightforward, dates change, promises change blah blah....we first started out in Feb 2010 and only just onto our second shot. When you're so focussed on what you want everything seems to go at a snails pace.

The one thing I would say is just keep pushing the nhs, call up for cancellations or check the appointments are still going ahead, but really make it your mission to keep on top of them. It is ridiculous, but it helps things along.

Good luck with it all.

Liz x

 

[babydream]

I tried to call the hospital today to talk to the consultant but nobody answered the phone. I'll try again on tuesday and ask for the reason behind this. I'm gonna book dh's follow up SA and the other tests next week and i'm gonna keep hassling them all the time. Yes, Liz, it's terribly frustrating, i want a baby so much and unfortunately i'm not the most patient person in the world. If i want something i want it now and would do anything to get it. But i cannot control this situation. Kristy, i've look into acupuncture (for dh as well to improve sperm quality) and fertility yoga and i'm gonna be focusing on those inbetween tests so i don't feel completely useless. It probably would be easier if we only had problems with dh but i will get my cycles regular somehow and hopefully acup and yoga will help.

I hope we can all announce a gorgeous bfp soon x x

 

[MiBebe]

Take a deep breath hun. Trust me when I say we feel your pain. I've had to reschedule appointment because of business trip and personal reasons. Even my first IVF was canceled because I had to choose between flying to see my brother (he's off to Iraq) or have IVF, and I chose him. It's been tough emotionally. I've waited 6 years to have a baby so I figure what's one more month. I went to the FS in July 2010 and here I am almost one year later. I pray to God it's all worth it in the end.

 

[babydream]

Awww, MiBebe, of course you chose your brother, who wouldn't??? I hope he's okay. I talked to a few ladies who had scan followed by hsg which is fine but apparently not allowed the other way around, so i just wait. I pray for you to have a successful IVF next month hunni, i really do. Please, let me know how it goes. Loads of babydust x x x x x

 

[crystal443]

I had my internal scan and then went down the hall for my HSG, I didn't realize you couldn't have both on the same day? Did they tell you why you couldn't have them in the same cycle? I'm curious now

 

[crystal443]

Take a deep breath hun. Trust me when I say we feel your pain. I've had to reschedule appointment because of business trip and personal reasons. Even my first IVF was canceled because I had to choose between flying to see my brother (he's off to Iraq) or have IVF, and I chose him. It's been tough emotionally. I've waited 6 years to have a baby so I figure what's one more month. I went to the FS in July 2010 and here I am almost one year later. I pray to God it's all worth it in the end.

Best of luck on your cycle I was meant to start IVF in January and I got cold feet so then decided we'd go ahead in Feb and my Dad who had been very ill passed away and March well I didn't feel like it and we're now almost to May and we have company coming for a month. I think we'll go ahead in June its been a long time coming for us but it seems like something always comes up so IVF is our priority now. Anyway best of luck and I hope you get your

 

[littlemouse]

I had my HSG and scan on the same day and it was fine, they didn't say there was any reason why not. A friend of mine had the same too..

But I had the HSG in the morning and the scan in the afternoon - now I've just read someone's post to say you shouldn't, does anyone know why?

Anyway.. that was many months ago now so hopefully it didn't do anything bad..

 

[Springy]

I had my scan then went away and came back 2 hour later for my hsg.