cowboys angel
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My SD (7 years old) had a friend over last night. We live in an apartment building, on the third floor. They wanted to go outside and play, and the baby was sleeping, so I told them to go ahead, they could go outside and play, but the rules were:
~away from the road, not past the picnic table (which is 20 feet from the road)
~out of the parkinglot
~stay on the grass or the sidewalk by the building and the porch
I would be watching, if they broke any of the rules they would come sit and do nothing.
They agreed, so I let them go. SD is very good about following rules, and I knew she would behave and keep her friend in check (or would yell for me, as our window is right over the yard they would be in.)
I had the window open, was watching/listening.
SD came running back upstairs and said "Momma the lady that lives next door says she doesn't think it's a good idea for us to be playing outside alone so she's going to watch us."
So I grabbed the baby, put her in a carrier, and went downstairs. The neighbor goes "Now I don't think that was a good idea, do you? You gotta always be watching kids. I never would have let them be out here alone."
I said "For your information I was watching, and I don't need you to tell me how to take care of my children."
The girls kept playing, and I stayed out there. Then the neighbor tells my SD she needs to share or they can't play, when my SD wasn't in the wrong. Her friend snatched the toy from her hands. I told Evie she was fine, and told her friend to ask first. The neighbor goes "She needs to share." THIS WASN'T EVEN HER KID PLAYING WITH SD!!!
I told Evie "I'm the mommy, you listen to me." Evie said okay, and the girls went back to playing, no problem.
The neighbor stomped up the stairs and left us alone.
Did I handle this okay? I'm so irritated that she thinks she can butt in like that. I appreciate that at first, she was probably just concerned for their safety, but I was mad at how she handled it. I live right next to her, (plus she couldn't have seen the girls from her apartment so...?) she could have come and asked me if I wanted her to watch them or something...
I dunno. I'm just irritated. Just cuz I'm only 19 doesn't mean I'm a bad mommy....
~away from the road, not past the picnic table (which is 20 feet from the road)
~out of the parkinglot
~stay on the grass or the sidewalk by the building and the porch
I would be watching, if they broke any of the rules they would come sit and do nothing.
They agreed, so I let them go. SD is very good about following rules, and I knew she would behave and keep her friend in check (or would yell for me, as our window is right over the yard they would be in.)
I had the window open, was watching/listening.
SD came running back upstairs and said "Momma the lady that lives next door says she doesn't think it's a good idea for us to be playing outside alone so she's going to watch us."
So I grabbed the baby, put her in a carrier, and went downstairs. The neighbor goes "Now I don't think that was a good idea, do you? You gotta always be watching kids. I never would have let them be out here alone."
I said "For your information I was watching, and I don't need you to tell me how to take care of my children."
The girls kept playing, and I stayed out there. Then the neighbor tells my SD she needs to share or they can't play, when my SD wasn't in the wrong. Her friend snatched the toy from her hands. I told Evie she was fine, and told her friend to ask first. The neighbor goes "She needs to share." THIS WASN'T EVEN HER KID PLAYING WITH SD!!!
I told Evie "I'm the mommy, you listen to me." Evie said okay, and the girls went back to playing, no problem.
The neighbor stomped up the stairs and left us alone.
Did I handle this okay? I'm so irritated that she thinks she can butt in like that. I appreciate that at first, she was probably just concerned for their safety, but I was mad at how she handled it. I live right next to her, (plus she couldn't have seen the girls from her apartment so...?) she could have come and asked me if I wanted her to watch them or something...
I dunno. I'm just irritated. Just cuz I'm only 19 doesn't mean I'm a bad mommy....